i asked out the girl that i'm crazy about out and so we went to the movies and after the movie she said that she had a crush on me so we kissed and her brother came out of the movies and saw us and told her to go home when she went home her brother said that alot of guys broke her hart and he said if he saw me with her he would kill me i really care about his sister but he doesn't belive me what should i do
2006-10-16 16:32:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Prove to her brother that their are good men left in his world. Prove to him that you really care for her and you wont break her heart. Let him know that if he keeps her isolated then that will only hurt her more with loneliness.
2006-10-16 16:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Manita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it, this guy simply doesn't want you two to start a relationship behind everyone's back. Ask yourself: how does he know that a lot of guys broke his sister's heart? How many days must he have seen her weeping before he found out that her sadness derives directly from her past relationships? And in those days that he didn't know why she was upset, how do you think he and his family must've felt when their happy/pleasant atmosphere was ruined by her negative emotions--with them not knowing how to make her feel better?
If you're too young for a serious relationship (i.e. you know you won't be able to maintain yourself and her if you two marry), leave her be for now, finish your studies, get a stable job. If you're old enough for a serious relationship, then you should get to know her family for starters and let them get to know you. Real love takes a lot of time so that everyone develops trust in you--and "selling yourself" to her parents is the best way for them to approve of any relationship between you and their daughter regardless of what their son says. Even her brother will change his attitude toward you once he knows that you're not like the other guys. Since you also ought to get to know his sister, why not invite an entire group to hang around with you two? That would make even her brother feel more comfortable since he'll know that other people will be keeping you two in check. The only catch is that your relationship with her will take much longer to develop, but isn't that the point of a well-founded relationship?
2006-10-17 00:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by Tony Walls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hes just being an older brother i also think hes bothered by the fact that alot of guys have hurt her you need to meet her parents and then say can i talk to you privately for a minute and then you kick it tell him how you feel about his sister and ask his permission let him know you would NEVER disrespect her in any way shape or form that should calm him down because then hes gona know your intentions were all good and he wont worry as much .....E
2006-10-16 23:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by ellie_m1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All brothers can be like that... is this just an act or is he for real? I would find that out first before you react to what he told her. Talk to her and find out what the story is..... If you need to go talk to the brother in person, then you should. I know my brothers always liked it when the guys stood up for me just as much as they did... Good luck.
2006-10-16 23:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by Couple of Cents 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok..well i guess dont give up of loving her if you really have good intention to her so better fight for your love. Prove it from her family that you really care of her, well her brother is trying to protect his sister from not being hurt of guy again we cant stop that, all you have to do is prove them that you have good intention go to there house and make friends with them tell the parents that you have really care for thier daughter. Goodluck
2006-10-16 23:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot depends on how old the girl is first i would talk to her alone and get her to explain to her brother that it is her life not his and that she likes you and wants to go out with you.Secondly I would go talk to her parents if you have enough courage tell them you want to go out with their daughter and that you respect her and will treat her like a gentleman that means no sex especially .
2006-10-16 23:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you genuinely like her stick with it... Don't let her brother scare you off..Let him know you respect her and let her know that you want to be with her..
If you back off then it wasn't meant to be
It's only natural that her brother is protective , Just make it clear that you don't want to take advantage of her but acutally have sincere feelings for her... Good luck :)
2006-10-16 23:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by kaiya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hit the highways dump her big brother has spoken he dosent like something in you and he isent gonna stop just dump her and move on downe the highways before you wind up on a stretcher or body bag.
2006-10-16 23:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you understand why he is being protective of his sister. Your intentions are good and if he doesn't believe you, he will just have to see for himself that you indeed really care for his sister.
2006-10-16 23:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by mpicky2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her brother that it would break her heart if you were to stop seeing her because you both like each other a lot and you wont hurt her. give you a chance
2006-10-16 23:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋