We dated for two weeks. The chemistry was great She would set up tons of dates and the last two dates we kissed often at the end of the date. After the last date she told me she has been weird about relationships lately, that I am an amazing guy and saw me as someone she would like as her boyfriend, but that she was not ready for a serious relationship. The next day, she told me how amazing I was and that she did not want to screw this up and that she wanted to take things slow. I asked her out on a date the next day and she responded saying that she doesn't feel we have romantic chemistry and that I deserve to be with someone who can give me the intimacy I deserve because she feels she isn't at a point in her life right now in which she can provide that for me. She said she loves spending time with and talking to me and that she can see me as her best friend someday. SInce this happened, she has text messaged me and called me twice in a 5 day span. How should I interpret this?
2006-10-16 16:16:56 · 11 answers · asked by MichiganFan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She lived with her ex for 2 and a half years and moved back home after it ended 6 months ago. He started off nice, then got a DUI which ruined his career opportunity as a pilot. After this he drank, did drugs, and destroyed her credit. Since then, she has dated many guys with none lasting longer than a month and she has broken things off with all of them
2006-10-16 16:17:28 · update #1
She has trust issues, after the ex it's no wonder why. Hate to say but one bad man can leave a woman a mess for a while. She's afraid of one of two things: either she is afraid she will get hurt,...or she is afraid of making another commitment this soon and needs a little space to get her head on straight. This is hard to do when a great guy comes along before you are ready for him. and Either way there's not a whole you can do on your end, give her some space, some reassurance. If you truly want to be with this woman, let her know that you are willing to go as slow as she needs you to and that you plan on sticking around for awhile. If you wanna just be her friend, do that if you can without having any mixed feelings. Sounds to me like she sure could use a good friend. She's testing to see if you are going to stay around.
2006-10-16 16:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by TKinMI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to her and take things slow...maybe she's afraid of being hurt again and wants to really take her time and get to know you as a person instead of just jumping into a relationship. Just give her room....if she's not into dating you right now but can see you as a best friend...then let that happen...because a friend is always there....she must think you're someone special for her saying that. The fact that she did at least call and text you should show you that she has you on her mind. Just give her room.
2006-10-16 23:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by lovelylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, I know you like this person but then she has made her intentions known and the fact that she respects you enough to not use you as a rebound is what I believe you should have picked up on. She sure does need to get her life on track and of course take care of herself before embarking on another relationship. You seem like a nice enough guy. Give her the space she needs. And as for you, date others (I apologise for been blunt!!!). If things were meant to be, you will both end up together
2006-10-16 23:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not ready for a serious relationship as yet. you should be thank full she was honest with you. If you continue to be friends with her you may have false hopes that she will change her mind and have you as a boyfriend, don't disappoint yourself. if you can handle being just friends with her then continue to be her friend and try dating other people. she was hurt in the past so it will take time for her to get serious with someone give it time but don't hold your breath.
2006-10-16 23:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by sexylousleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once bitten, twice shy. The girl was screwed over by one of her previous boyfriends, and now seems afraid to commit to another relationship. Let her know that she has your support and friendship, but don't force the issue. She has to have the courage to make the next move.
2006-10-16 23:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she has lots of problems at this time. Do not try to fix her, help her, cut your loses and run to the nearest door. Do not look back, do not call, do not pass go.
She does not know what she wants and she will waste your time trying to figure it out and in the end you will have wasted your time and your heart. Go find someone more worthy. There are numerous women out there that will not yank your chain.
2006-10-16 23:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by freemansfox 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she is afraid of being hurt, and her fear may cause her to end up hurting you. Really, she does need to be alone now, to deal with her issues; please do not try to fix them or her, because you will just give and give and give and she will take and take. Not because she is bad, or evil, but she is in a bad place right now, and until she can find a way to fix herself, she will not be able to do anyone any good. You can try to be her friend, if you really must, but please, keep it extremely casual and at arms length IF you try to be her friend at all. Do not allow her to monopolize your time, your thoughts, your phone. Count yourself lucky, and move on.
2006-10-16 23:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by sillytwit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's no t ready yet to have a serious relationship...it's either she's not over the relationship yet or she's too afraid to indulge again and get broken hearted in the end...she needs more time..
what she needs now is someone who will give her love unconditionally and a true friend...are you up to it?
2006-10-16 23:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL i may be wrong BUT it sounds as if she likes you a lot BUT what her last b/f did has made it harder for her to trust other guys at the moment, just give it time if you really like her,
2006-10-16 23:22:26 · answer #9 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a psycho beyotch. Stay away.
2006-10-16 23:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by blu moon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋