I was wondering if chivalry is dead i stil practice it but feel as though i might be one of the few. it seems like the general feeling is that women are cheap and useless today(which i totally disagree with.)For those who don't know chivalry is opening doors for ladies as well as walking them home or to there car. Also many other manners of respect. I just feel that nobody my age(im 20) really does this anymore. Ive tried but seem to get a lot of resistance about it. let me know what you think.
2006-10-16 16:09:04 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Good manners never go out of style. But it's not for men alone.
One should never go through a door and allow it to slam in the face of the person behind them. If I go through a door, I hold it open for the person behind me regardless of gender, age, etc. It's just the kind thing to do, especially if somebody else has their hands full or has a shopping cart with small children, or is handicapped or elderly. Regardless of who holds the door open for whom, the other should always offer a gracious "thank you." Take notice that it works both ways: males & females hold open doors for each other & use polite manners towards one another. It needn't be a "chivalry" issue. Just one of common courtesy towards everyone.
Walking somebody to their car is more of a safety issue. I think that should still be done for whoever needs the escort more, a child, older person, woman, etc. Some of this depends on the location, the distance, and the time of day or night. Common sense should be the guide there.
There is no reason why people cannot be polite and be equal to everybody.
2006-10-16 20:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by julie j 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that chivalry is dead, but I do think it is dying. There are a lot of women out there who no longer appreciate chivalrous gestures, and therefore, many boys are growing up witout being taught to BE chivalrous. I myself am kind of a mix of appreciating it, while at the same time resenting it. I allow my boyfriend to open doors for me and such, because I'm aware that that's how he is and he doesn't do it to be sexist or anything. However, when any other gentlemen try, my back stiffens up, and I find myself being resentful. I'm sure this is because in today's world, we women are never sure of what a man's motives may be. Whatever happens, though, don't lose your chivalry. Youi'll find an incredible lady who will appreciate it!
2006-10-17 10:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, I do kind of feel like chivalry has died a little. Hmph. Selfish men. Anyways, my mom (I'm only 12) tries to instill chivalry into my brothers. One of them is 24, so don't worry. I hope there's many out there that tries to keep chivalry alive. If not, then screw them.
2006-10-17 00:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sammie_SPN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The issues that I have observed with chivalry have been numerous, ranging from putting the woman in a subordinate position to appearing overly formal. In some cases, the woman may even feel physically threatened- she may not want a man she doesn't know well to walk her to her car, for instance.
You could get around these obstacles with a "gender neutral" or "modern" approach. For example, you could have your date order first in a restaurant instead of ordering for her. Or, you could arrange for a security guard to accompany you and her to her car. There are many possible ways for many situations.
2006-10-18 20:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love the thoughtful and nice gestures of a gentleman . It is delightful to see in this no respect society we live in. Keep being yourself. Undoubtedly, someone loved you, and carried themselves in a way that taught you to respect women. And yes, chivalry died, dead!!! And I know some women that helped to kill it! LOL
2006-10-16 23:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by music 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I think lots of guys still open doors for women. But I think the opening/closing car door thing is not done as much. I never mind if a guy opens a door or lifts something heavy for me.
2006-10-16 23:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Chivalry is not dead. Many women is enjoy being treated like a woman!
2006-10-16 23:41:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
no hun its not dead my 2 older brothers and 2 younger brothers open doors for people take off there cowboy hats and caps when saying hello to ladies...its all in the way you were raised a lot of guys dont respect women we were raised to respect all living things...im 24 year old gal and i love it when some one opens a door for me...keep up the good manners..even tough cowgirls like me enjoys a gentleman
2006-10-16 23:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by little_outlaw_angel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yikes! Chivalry-is just one of the most important actions in my eyes, for my future hubby to have. I feel chivalry just takes that connection to a whole other level. Thank you :).
2006-10-17 13:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if it is not it is soon to be so,since I and many donot see it as respect when it is only one sided-their side.
I mean where is their respect for us?
Do they care about what we would like to do/buy? NOPE just what they want us to buy for them,or a place/event they want us to provide for them.
At the end of the day so to speak we have become servants,if not all out worshipers of the female-because its the status quo-chivalry. Give me a break!
2006-10-16 23:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by steveshoardhouse 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋