How long should a teen be allowed on the phone if she gets good grades and sometimes does homework on phone?

Question

We have call waiting, forwarding, and cell phones
So she's not tying up the phone. I also walk by her door & listen so I know what they're talking about. Sould I set a limit?

Answer 1

If she's doing homework over the phone and her grades are good, maybe it's good for her. Since you have several phones she isn't interfering with your talk time. The only limit I would impose is NO CALLS DURING MEALS OR FAMILY TIME. And CALLS STOP 30 MINS BEFORE BED.
Sounds like a good kid!

Answer 2

Children always need limits, and it is in their nature to push until they find these limits. Give her a limit, but make it a large one.

Remember the old baby game of "fetch?" The baby drops a toy, and someone picks it up, they give it to the baby and pay attention to them, when the person leaves, the baby just throws the toy down again. They keep doing this until the person quits; then the baby cries. After a while the baby will either train their parents very well to always come at their beck and call, or they will learn their limits.

Your daughter sounds like she is doing well, so her limits should be pretty big. If she gets her homework done and goes to bed at her bedtime then I don't see a problem with it. You should tell her this, you are pleased with how she is doing and you are willing to let her talk on the phone because of that. Then you should tell her that if her schoolwork suffers, or if she starts to misbehave then you will put your foot down and limit the amount of time she can spend on the phone (another limit could be your cell phone minutes and you should explain that to her as well, if it applies, and give her a talk time budget).

Teenagers will always push their limits; it is part of growing into an adult. Sometimes they push them too much. When that happens then you have a reward/punishment system that you can use to help define those limits.

Part of being a woman is developing relationships and this is the most important thing to a woman. The best way to do this is to communicate, and the easiest way is by talking. This is an instinctive need that is as old as the human species itself. So you are letting her do what is important for her to do. That is an excellent reason to let her keep on talking. But, at some point you will have to control her. She should know that talking on the phone, even when doing homework is a privilege, one that you are happy to give her, but still a privilege. Tell her that this is only a warning. As long as your life doesn’t suffer then I don’t mind you talking on the phone, but if I see it is causing you problems then I am going to do something about it, and I am going to make sure dad knows about this as well.

She won’t seem to like this, but then you can always say that the only reason you care is because you love her. Teenagers may not admit it but, they like to have limits. If they know what you are willing to let them do and what you are not willing to let them do then they can follow the rules and be good children, enjoying their privileges. These limits are also a good way to stop them from doing something bad. If your daughter has a curfew then she knows how long she can stay out. She also knows that she can occasionally ask for an extension, and if she has been doing well then you can grant it (if the event warrants it). If she violates that curfew then she could lose her cell phone privileges. When her life starts to get busier then she may not be able to talk on the phone as much. She has to know that she needs to do her chores first, then her homework, and then she can use her free time to talk as much as she wants, up to her bedtime.

Then go and talk to dad and make sure he is on board with this plan. You don’t want your daughter to play you both off against each other. You also want to make sure that dad isn’t fuming about the cost of all this conversation cell phones are not cheap. You can also tell dad that when your daughter misbehaves this is one way to punish her (it is a whole lot better than hitting or screaming at her).
As the parent (and you sound like a good one) it is your duty to set limits for your children so you can keep them safe, and make sure they do well in life. There are a lot of privileges that teenagers get, and unless you explain it to them they will think that you owe them these privileges (you owe her no more than a house, food, clothing, and a good family life—anything else can be a privilege). Controlling those privileges gives you a method of ADULT discipline, and is so much better than hitting or having to yell at her.

Answer 3

I personally wouldn't set a limit as long as her grades are good and she has her homework done. Plus as long as she gets off the phone when you or another member in the family say they need to use it there shouldn't be a big deal. I have to admit I'm almost 24 and I still love being on the phone. I can live without anything else but I have to have a phone or I'd go crazy.

Answer 4

I think if she is getting good grades and nothing else is wrong. And she gets her homework done. Then I wouldn't set a limit. Unless I had to use the phone. But I see nothing wrong with it. She's a teenage girl, they love to talk on the phone. I have 2 girls that are very young right now, but I dout I will set a limit if unless they do something wrong and not doing their homework. I remember being a teenage girl and talking on the phone. So I wouldn't worry about it.

Answer 5

As long as she is working on homework and getting it done, NO. It's good that you're monitoring her conversation and she isn't tying up the phone, so I don't see why you'd have to set a limit. Just make sure she is focusing on the task at hand and not goofing off or else she'll be on the phone all night!

Answer 6

It sounds like your daughter is a responsible young woman and is using her time rather wisely... she is developing communications skills over the telephone... which in today's world is vital... learning by doing homework... not driving you up the wall by having you driving her to every friends house in the nation... and getting good grades... as long as she exercises some and is respectful to you and your family I don't think there is any reason to set a limit on her... not all kids need to be disciplined in the same manner... some kids need very little at all because they are conscious of their actions and very motivated to do the right thing...

Answer 7

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Answer 8

It's your phone so it's your option. You could experiment by telling her "no more phone for today", a few times and seeing what she does instead. Only set a limit if you are happier with her replacement activity (or if you are willing to dictate the replacement activity). It wouldn't be too great if she talked on the phone less but watched TV more. Honestly I don't see the problem with the phone talk but she's not my kid, you are in charge.

Answer 9

I think after an hour and a half..you should stop her...even if it's for her to get a bit of fresh air and have some quality time with the family...

I used to looove talking to my friends for ages on the phone whe I was a teen...it is a very big part of socializing at that age. That being said, ....to much of a good thing...

Answer 10

yes,you should set a phone limit.although she makes good grades and does homework teens should still have their limits.i would set a limit of 30 minutes at a time afterall someone else may want to use the phone.