Hello.........I am looking for anyone who has insight on what I am dealing with....
My daughter had a wonderful pediatrician but the ped. had to leave and start her own pratice (we miss her!!) Anyways, they sent a new doctor to replace her. My daughter who is 15 months old had to get her last set of shots by the new guy. As he was doing her well-baby check up he said something about the folds of her "little girl parts" (inner vaginal folds) not separating corrrectly on their own. It was very hard to understand him, being that he was of a foreign accent. I asked why this would happen to her and all he said was "Just because,... I will give you a prescription for it." I was confused but went along with it anyway. Also this Dr. was very rough, all through the examination my daughter was crying when he looked at her vagina and he didn't care!! He even teased her when he was done, she wanted her little puppy toy and he kept on holding it out of her reach. She just kept on crying, of which she rarely does because she is such a happy baby. I was unnerved and shocked and had to hold back my own tears because I didn't know what to say.
As we went to pick up the prescription, the pharmacy was confused as to why the doctor would prescribe this medicine for my daughter, initially they thought the cream was for me!! Because, come to find out, the prescription was for a medicine called "Premarin". I know that this medicine is an estrogen enhancer and is usually given to women going through menopause!! Not to mention , it cost $75.00 for a tube of it. Of which I couldn't afford!! The dr. only wanted me to use it on my daughter 3x a week for 2 weeks (that's only 6 times!!) and the tube was bigger than the average toothpaste tube!!
So, does anybody know what is going on? I am being bias because it's my first child? Can anyone help me out? Please email me, my email is drgnfly@avci.net
Oh, by the way, my daughter has been examined multiple times by her previous pediatrician for her regular check-ups.....and they never mentioned anything like this before.
THANK-YOU so much for taking the time to read this.
~Samantha Baker
2006-10-16 15:53:33 · 24 answers · asked by drgnfly775 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My daughter is 8 months, and her doctor has never looked at her vaginal area, either. My daughter NEVER cries at her doctor, she only cries at me when I put her clothes back on(hates having her arms put through sleeves!)! DEFINATELY find a new doctor as soon as you can. This guy just doesn't sound right. Doctors should be able to explain prescriptions to you and explain problems to you. It does not sound like he did this at all. This is your daugher, if you don't like the way that doctor handles things, find a new one! I honestly cannot believe that happened to you. I'm so sorry! This doctor sounds sick. If anyone was holding a toy away from my daughter while she was upset and crying I would punch them in the nose!!!! Doctors should not behave this way!
2006-10-16 16:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by .*AnNa*. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not crazy at all. I would recommend you go to another ped. and get a second opinion. Now while vaginal fusion can happen, it is odd that it was not discovered by your other ped. My ped (female) does check my daughter's private areas, but it is only a quick check, this isn't a gyn checkup here. Don't use the medicine until you get a second opinion. You don't have to do what he says just because he said it. A doctor's responsibility is to tell you what symtoms your daughter has, what they mean, the possible treatment options and if there is a prescription, what it is, what it does, any side effects it may have, and when you should return to him or her for a followup. If your doctor does not do this, find another. Do not let your daughter fall victim to a medical mistake.
As for him teasing her with the toy, that is just cruel. If he was really checking for coodination, then he should say so before commencing the test. I doubt the child crying is going to give any meaningful information about her coodination. It just tells me that he pissed her off and he's certainly not the right doc for you. Do yourselves a favor and find other. I would rather pay my old doc than put up with some clown.
2006-10-18 02:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by Equuskia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the dr. is crazy...what? Because he has a medical degree and you don't; then you think he should know better than you about everything? WRONG! Take it from me...I have taken my kids to be seen by no less than 15 pediatricians...some were great and some were the pits! In this case, I really believe Mom knows best (maybe not medically...you shouldn't treat your own child) but you do have the right to find the proper pediatrician. Some who is caring, compassionate, gentle and someone that you can understand when they speak. Especially if the previous doc never mentioned what's going on. A pediatrician treated my daughter when she was 15 months old and since then I have been told by numerous other drs. that how she was treated shouldn't have been done. So...in conclusion...as her mom you are her everything. Teacher, cheerleader, storyteller,blah-blah-blah, and PROTECTOR. Now just do your job...get another opinion if you think the guy's crazy...who's to say you're not absolutely right!?! You know the masses thought that Albert Einstein was retarded too, right? So what did they know.
2006-10-16 23:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by Carole M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You as a woman will know if your daughters folds are not right.Plus no other doctor has found this to be a problem.Do not use the medicine till another doctor tells you to.He gave you no explanation to why he thought her folds was not right.Now I did look up that medicine and it did say it`s for vaginal dryness in woman going through menopause.It also stated that it could be used for other reasons.The doctor holding her toy out infront of her and letting her cry was a little bit much.But he might of been checking her hand and eye cordnation.The thing that alarms me the most is you can not understand him because of his poor english.When you take a child to a doctor you must be able to understand every word the doctor says.Just for the fact you already have complaints about him and you can not understand him is signs you need another peds for her.
2006-10-16 23:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of the folds of the labia and vagina growing together, but usually they recommend wiping the area with a warm cloth like another person said. They will set up a follow up to check it again and if that is not working THEN they will prescribe a estrogen cream. I would find a new pediatrician or find your old one if she accepts your insurance. Talk to friends and family about their favorites, or call the hospital or your OB/GYN and ask for recommendations, usually they will have give some of the best references. The doctor definitely needs to brush up on his bed side manner. I know that in the pediatric practice I take my daughter to, I refuse to see one of the doctor's in there because she makes me upset and my daughter screamed the only time she saw her. Good Luck!
2006-10-16 23:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by a1dermommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter had this, it was caught right away by our pediatrician, and had premarin prescribed for it. It worked. Use it and don't overreact about the other stuff. He was probably holding the toy out of reach because he wanted to see if her eyes would follow it, how she reaches and moves, etc. If you don't use the premarin she might have to have a little surgical procedure in the future, so it's worth it. Ours was covered by our insurance except for the usual prescription co-pay, so maybe that could help you? In fact, I still have it, you can have the rest of mine haha it's actually 5 years old now but otherwise . . .
2006-10-17 00:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a different pediatrician. Do NOT use that on her until you seek a second opinion. Not ethnically biased here, but some foreign doctors get their degrees overseas where the requirements may be less strict than they are here in the states. Then, all they have to do is get a license to practice here. My grandmother was killed by a foreign GYN who "accidentally" stitched her up after a hysterectomy with the gauze still inside her. This is personal experience, and not all foreign doctors are this way...just seek a second opinion. There's no harm in waiting a few more days to start treatment if she has already gone this long without it.
2006-10-16 23:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by Wicked Chicken! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any personal experience with a situation like this, but it just sounds like something is not right. Since the pharmacist was leary about the prescription, that should send a red flag...his job is to make sure you (or your children) get the right medication, don't mix the wrong ones, and so on, not just fill a prescription for you. I would definitly question the doctor's opinion. Mother's intuition is a strong thing, and just like you and me, the doctor is human and makes mistakes too. He should also be able to answer your questions with more than a "just because". Don't settle for anything when it comes to yours and your child's health. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-16 23:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by curious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I remember my daughter's doctor checking her vagina, and telling me that I needed to wipe it down with a warm wash cloth 2 or 3 times a day, I believe because the skin of her vaginal opening was growing together. He said it was because her skin was irratated and rubbing together. But it healed without fancy medication.
Honestly, I'd find a new pediatrician. Is there no way to go to your previous doctor at her new practice? Try asking around to see if anyone can recommend a doctor they have had good experiences with. I don't know how I would have reacted if the doctor had been mean to my child, but I wouldn't hav ever gone back to him/her.
2006-10-16 22:59:24 · answer #9 · answered by S. O. 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Mom, the best advice I can give you is to trust your instincts! One time, when my son was three months old a doctor wanted to give my son an unnecessary spinal tap. He was a doctor who was filling in for my son's regular doctor. He said that the baby should not be sleeping so much. I told him that is pretty much what three month old babies do. He said, if I did not agree, he would get a court order. I told him no one was going to do a spinal tap on my child, who did not even have a fever and was showing no signs of illness!(Except gas) I brought him in because he was having a little problem with his formula making him a bit gassy. I don't even know why this doctor suggested a spinal tap. But I would have punched him out if I had stayed there. I never brought my child back there again! Went to another doctor and he put him on the right formula.Turned out, another doctor told me this guy was doing a lot of needless tests on little babies. This was 23 years ago. Doctors have their share of crackpots too. If your gut tells you something is wrong with this doctor.....walk out and find another doctor you are comfortable with. You are her mother and love her more than anyone on this earth. Only you know who is best to treat your precious baby!
2006-10-17 00:18:14 · answer #10 · answered by Marie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋