how do you know when you've become completely independent?

Question

how does one know when they can truley be on thier own and so forth?

Answer 1

First of all, please remember that there is NEVER a perfect time for anything, and being INTERdependent is more important than being independent. Interdependent, in case you don't know, means that you are dependent but also are open to help from others.

While there is no perfect time for anything, here's a few things to consider to get as close to possible to that right time to break free of full dependancy:

1. How's your credit? If you'd like to move out, for instance, having money is not enough. Landlords want proof that you can pay your bills, or else they won't lease you an apartment, or a seller won't sell you a home.

2. Are you emotionally independent? Make sure when you want to go things alone, you're not depending on a boyfriend/spouse to take care of you or make big decisions. This can backfire if things don't work out.

3. Are you willing to ask for help? The key to growing towards independency is to still allow others to help you when times get tough. Make sure friends and family are close by to help.

4. Do you have enough money put away for emergencies or are you living paycheck to paycheck?

5. What are your spending habits? Are you good at staying within your monthly budget?

6. Do you have a stable career/job? One where you know the odds of getting fired are slim to nothing? In today's market, it's hard to tell with downsizing and such, but give yourself and honest answer about this. It's important to reflect on.

7. How much debt do you have? Make sure your bills are on time, there's no past-due amounts lingering, and make sure you aren't expecting any major expenses anytime soon that might set you back. For instance, not needing to buy a new car, etc.

8. Most importantly, make sure you are doing this for the right reasons. I moved out of my house at 19 because I wasn't getting along with my mother, so I did it for spite. I wasn't ready, so needless to say I went through some difficult financial times. If people are there willing to help, take it while you can! If you are moving out and have their support, things will be much easier.

I know a lot of my examples were under the assumption that you wanted to move out, but please uses these examples for whatever specific situation you are in. They're good guidelines even if the scenario doesn't apply perfectly.

Thanks for reading and good luck ;)

Answer 2

You should always be prepared to be 'truly on your own'. I don't know if you are talking about independence from your family, or a relationship. I have found that you should always have the ability to be independent. Everyone has this ability, but not everyone knows how to recognize it in themselves.

That being said, dependence on others, especially those that love us, is a good thing, if those people are healthy relationships. If you have unhealthy relationships, it is time to find a way to tap into your independence.

Answer 3

When you're out, they do not wait for you to come home cook but they cook their own food.
Being sensible and do not splurge.
Finishing their own work in the given time.

Answer 4

When it's a normal reaction to do whatever it takes to get something done and you do it yourself without asking someone. You ulitimately depend on yourself. You don't ask others, you just make it happen yourself.

Answer 5

When you start giving help instead of asking for it.

Answer 6

When you don't have to borrow gas money.

When you can be alone and still be happy.

Answer 7

When they are financially secure.

Answer 8

when you don't depend on anyone but yourself............