should every guy be put on child support?

Question

i'm just going through some stuff with my baby's father right now and really need someone else's opinion about this.

Answer 1

i think the noncustodial parent should pay for child support, there are ppl who dont take the father or mother to court cause they dont need the money but its money for the child, so if ur financially stabled still go after the child support and save that money for ur child's education or just save it in an account for later or emergenices. my ex is married and the wife is barely asking for child support for her 16 year old daughter cause she wants to be on her own and so now shes asking for the money cause at the time she said she didnt need the extra $200 or whatever it was, but now shes going after that. if u have money and $200 dont seem alot but it does add up fast. just keep it in an account or something for the kid. dont wait too late to take him to court cause then it will take longer. dont let the guy go the easy way out, if ur custodial parent ur gonna hve to support ur kid and so does the father u didnt make the kid on ur own so have him visit and support the child financially too. good luck.

Answer 2

Situations are all different and ideally he SHOULD pay child support.

I gave my daughter's father the option to be a father to his child in ALL ways or he could beat it and I would not enforce anything. I told him if he wanted option two to sign over his rights so that we would not spend our lives with her having a "sometimes" father. He signed over his rights and 7 years later I married a wonderful man who adopted her and she is happier then ever! It really depends on the situation.

My best friend has a really crappy ex that won't keep a job and never sees his son. He pays barely enough child support to buy his son an outfit a month yet he demands so much from my friend. He is constantly saying "I pay each month so before you make any decisions regarding him you better ask me!" It is ridiculous, when she signed him up for hip-hop dance classes, the father was so angry and pulled the I pay each month and you didn't ask me crap.

I think I would rather not have the measly $50 or so a month just to not have to constantly fight over power issues. The father is always too busy to spend time with his son but wants to use the support to think he has some control over the mother. That crap isn't worth $50 or $500 to me. RIDICULOUS!

Answer 3

in my opinion it depends on the situation. If he has half custody where he has the kid what will probably be 6 months out of the year and he is taking good care of the child in question and paying for the kid while under his care then child support payments shouldn't really be necessary. If the woman has soul custody and the man was either 1) abusive or 2) adulturour than yes, he should definatly have to pay child care. Hope this helped.

Answer 4

You have to evaluate your situation. If you, alone, can support your child financially....and the father is not in the picture at all, then maybe it will be less stressful to not get child support from him.

I, personally, waited for my baby's father to come through with child support on his own, without going through the courts, and it was a HORRIBLE decision! Don't get wrapped up in emotions or feelings....you need money to raise your child...then you need to get it one way or another.

I can tell you also, I wish I would've filed for support earlier....I filed my paperwork in July, and it's still being processed. So, the earlier you file, the better.

Good luck to you & your baby.

Answer 5

Personally in the world we live in today your best bet is to put the father of your child on child support. From my personally experience. I was with a guy for 10 years we had two beautiful children but He cheated on me and left. I would ask him for $$$ for his kids and he would say I can't so I went after him for child support. Sometimes it works but other times they just quit there jobs so they don't have to pay for there responsiblilities. Men these days don't understand that you didn't make that baby by yourself.

Answer 6

I think a man should have a choice as well as a woman. I think because he cannot choose abortion or adoption, he should be able to say FROM THE BEGINNING if he wants the child or not. If he chooses "no" then I think he should be able to sign away his rights and not have to pay anything. If this is his choice he cannot come later and expect to get to know the kid. If he has any part in the child's life then he should definately have to pay child support.

Answer 7

Every man should have to help support the babies he makes. There is no reason why not. Even if he says "she tricked me into getting her pregnant" he's still responsible for that baby, after all he was too dumb to use a condom.

Men that dodge child support make me sick. My sister's ex-husband works barely any so that he can't have his wages garnished, but the sad part is that not only is he neglecting his 2 oldest kids, he's hurting the financial stability of the family he has now. Stupid, stupid, stupid.

Answer 8

In my situation my daughter's father very rarely see's my girls so I make sure to keep my order in place. If he where a more active father and he was going through a hard time then I might decrease my order.

So my take is that they should ALWAYS help out financially. There is no excuse why a man couldn't help out even if he had to get a job at Mcdonalds to do so.

Answer 9

I think that a man should totally take care of his child(ren) because he should help take care of the kid(s) too. If you can trust the man you can keep it out of court but in my case I trusted him and he did fine until he found out I was seeing a new man and then he quit paying me and even seeing our daughter for weekend visits just a hour here and there...Going to the family support department of your local DA is your best bet because they will make him pay his support and if he doesn't they will make him pay in other ways like taking his drivers licenses or even jail time...Don't feel bad you should not have to raise your daughter with the help of her father even if its only him helping pay for her dance lessons and babysitting (Thats the way I think about it he helps pay for her hobbies, school clothes, and even hair cuts when he pays monthly)

Answer 10

I think that men who choose not to totaly participate in the raising of their children should be put on child support. Those type of people make it harder for the rest of th people in the world who are really trying. Not all me deserve to be put on child support. If you can't always count on your babys daddy to help you and its not just be cause he has moved on with someone else then go for it.