I have 2 boys and a husband. We are in the military, and I'm in the nursing program. Don't get me wrong, I love my family; however, sometimes I feel like a heavy weight is on my shoulder. I feel like I'm playing tug-of-war when it comes to dividing my focus on each member so they can have my attention. I guess all the responsibilities I have are just a little much at times. How do you feel about life after marriage and children?
2006-10-16 15:31:18 · 10 answers · asked by Ana 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Life after marriage and children is wonderful. Hard, sure. Stressful, you bet. But imagine yourself without these people and see if you would be happier. Life is a tough job, but there are rewards in a happy family life you can't get elsewhere. Make sure your husband is sharing the workload as he should be and don't hesitate to share your feelings and stresses. Two can carry together what one can't alone.
2006-10-16 15:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What you are feeling is totally normal. Being a mother, a wife, a student, and an individual, not to mention all the other hats we wear like friend, sister, daughter, and so on... can be overwelming at times. Just keep in mind it is the life you chose. We have to take the bad with the good. Cherish the good moments and it will help you through the rough times.
Take inventory of all that you are involved in and if it is too much you may have to let go of some that aren't a priority. Get help where you can... have the children help with the household chores if they aren't already. Get a sitter now and then so you have quality time with your husband or just for yourself.
I have been a mother for 23 years and am expecting a baby any day now so I guess I have several more years to go. I haven't had much luck in relationships which makes it even harder because I've had to do it mostly by myself. Now I am a college student as well. There are times even I wonder how I do it. But it's the challenge of it all that makes life interesting. Personally I get lazy and bored when I don't feel challenged.
It's all a balancing act. You will do fine. Just keep loving your family and do the best you can do... that's really all anyone can expect anyway.
2006-10-16 22:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely have days where I am so overwhelmed I don't think I will make it! But then I have days where I am so proud of my husband and daughter and wouldn't change anything. My main problem is that I feel selfish taking time to do something for me...massage, manicure, that kind of thing. But you need to do those things for yourself. You may be a mom and husband but try to not loose your own identity. You have to make time for yourself otherwise you will get so burnt out that you aren't any help. Make sure your husband helps out as much as possible. Dividing your time between your children may be hard but make sure your husband is spending his time with them and you also. The fact that you are so concerned about your family and "how you are doing" shows that they are your priority and how much you care for them. You deserve some special time alone once in awhile!
2006-10-16 22:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by piano4thesoul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married and have 3 teenage kids, and a big thriving business. It's hard to have time for everyone and it seems that they all want attention at the same time. I do what I can do and only what I can do. The kids have to do for themselves sometimes. I feel for you, keep going it will get easier.
2006-10-16 22:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lori C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most mothers feel this way sometimes ,especially if your working out side the home too ,I don't think you can have it all with out something giving ,its just too hard. All I can say is try to find some ME time and recharge because if you don't take care of you ,then you cant take care of every one else.PS get your husband to put in his fair share ,if his not.
2006-10-16 22:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im in the marines and my wife cant work bc her back is all messed up and i have to deploy alot overseas we have 3 kids also, i dont feel tied down and as far as time with your spouse usually that has to wait till the kids are in bed and sleeping, besides when you got married and decided to have kids what did you think it would be just sitting on the couch all day holding them thinking that was that way it was gonna be forever, kids grow up and the parents have to grow up to with them.
2006-10-16 22:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by someone_you_wish_you_knew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not married.
Great question, but don't you think you are venting more than asking a question?
Take each day at a time. The crazy times will come and go.
2006-10-17 01:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by nalaredneb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still have openings between 4:00am and 6:00am on Wednesdays and Thursdays.
2006-10-16 22:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by Valerie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im completely happy. Ive found what works for me and said to hell with everyone else.
Search for what makes you happy and stick with it.
2006-10-16 23:32:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage sucks. you shouldn't have gotten married. to bad you have two boys, that would drive me nuts.
you should just become a nun. god bless.
2006-10-16 22:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by サンダース 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋