Ok my gf Brittany just told me she just wants to be my friend and then this weekend I saw her at the store when I was with my friend and I saw her I almost lost it I had to run into the parking lot. I can't stand it anymore I love her but I don't know what to do. She sends me e-mails but I can't even read 'em without balling. I'm supposto be a tough gothic vamp but I just can't without her. How do I get her back? Please help me. I feel like I'm dying without her.
2006-10-16 15:29:22 · 15 answers · asked by nothingforthebest666 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no I mean like it's harder for me to stay strong we r two of the same kind and she just walked past my house and saw me crying and turned her back and ran. What is this about? What am I suposto do my stomach is cramping and my eyes are red and painfull I can't even think about blood cuz it remind me of the time when she found out and cut her arm open so I could lick it and said she's one too. PLz help I'm loosing my mind.
2006-10-16 15:39:43 · update #1
yeah she's a goth vamp just like me and I'm a dude
2006-10-16 15:57:58 · update #2
but I was doing drugs and stuff like that and she pulled me out of it. Oh *****ng god I can't stand strong especially when my friends are saying how nice, understanding, gothic, perfect vamp she is it's driving me crazy.
2006-10-16 16:34:47 · update #3
It is always difficult when a relationship comes to an end, it is always hard to see your "ex" in public because you tend to feel that attachment to them and become confused. She is not going to come back to you if she just wants to be friends, the pains will pass eventualy and you will find some one else. It is hard when you care for some one and they no longer desire that intimacy any longer so the best thing to do is to talk it over with her. Tell her how you feel, you might not get her back but you will feel better putting everything on the table. Good luck.
2006-10-16 15:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you are being jacked. She has you by the ----- and probably thinks she is being clever giving you some of your tough goth personna back at you. If she is goth, this would make more sense. If not, then she could not have been that into you - you were a curiosity. Now stop crying. Sit up and grab onto your vampness and go out there and vamp a few others. Not even knowing if you are a guy or a girl, you have to be your own person and not emotionally dependent on anyone. Grow thee up.
2006-10-16 15:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a young kid yet... at your age.
Sorry to say, but you shouldn't believe you're going to settle in forever with one person at that age. You shouldn't believe that you truly know what love or the meaning of it is either.
I know kids at that age believe they do and believe they know it all. They think they know where they are going but they haven't a clue. I'm not trying to be harsh, but...
...up until you're on your own and stable in a job, making relationships last is much more difficult and attempts can often be futile. Even after that, making relationships work can be hard.
You have a lot of life left to experience. You will see friends and loves come and go, neighbors and relatives die, and everything around you will seem to be torn away. It will be painful and you'll feel like it's neeever worth it.
Well, it is.
I went through that silly little teen drama/angst stage myself, so I certainly understand the strange/twisted up emotions that one feels at that stage.
Keep in mind, youngin', that "this too shall pass". Life in its whole is far too beautiful to give up or pass by because of one sad thing, one loss, one setback. It may feel like it at times, but it is not.
I find my beauty in the failing sunset. My heart is filled by the smells of autumn and by the eyes of the wild critters in the woods. I hear my songs in the whispers of the wind. Nature is where I found some of my peace. A local band took care of the rest. Jumping into a mosh pit and raisin' your fist, yelling the words... it is very therapeutic.
Just find yourself something you like to do that will distract you from the 'pain'. A hobby. A meaningful activity. Whatever. Trust me, one day things will turn around, and you will probably happen into a better relationship and wonder what your teen years were so sad about after all.
Just my two cents.
2006-10-16 15:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by Alli Cobra 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 09:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by duchane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Snap out of it Shorty...true Goth Vamps don't try to suck blood out of stone...your wimping when you should be pimping. The best offense is a good defense. Approach her directly next time bite the bullet. Answer her emails...it'll get easier! Trust me...
2006-10-16 15:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your actions are too intense (crying, stalking, etc.) you will never get her back. Try to remain cool and friendly but keep a little distance. Be there when she might need you and don't push it. Time will tell what happens next.
2006-10-16 15:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
love hurts for real...u cant just get her back...things happen for a reason and u seriously have to live with it...cuz in the end something great will come out of it and ull be thankfull this happened....i know its hard now but it will get soooooo much easier..keep busy......also u dont need her to be who u are...if gothic isnt u then it just isnt......peace be with u
2006-10-16 15:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by Haylei00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, obviously you aren't being true to yourself by projecting as a "tough Gothic vamp".... and perhaps that is part of the reason as to why she doesn't want to be with you anymore. perhaps she saw through your fake fascad... so, you need to figure out who you are first, then perhaps she will want the real you.
and... you're not dying... you just have EMOTIONS... we all do... and they are something you have to cope with. not ignore. just deal with them!!! and... who said that boys can't cry...
2006-10-16 15:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by christy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You got it bad dude... real bad. In this case an old saying comes to mind.... if you love something let it go, if it loves you back, it will return to you.
In this case... you need to stop all contact with her. It's only tearing you up. Don't answer her emails, don't talk to her, don't mention her to your friends and if the subject comes up don't participate in the conversation just change it. .
I want you to start hanging out with your old friends and as hard as it is I want you to work on forgetting about her. Also, I want you to start seeing other girls...Yup! That's right.. the best thing you can do right now is to got out with other girls and be seen having fun.
I have this friend in Juarez, MXN who fell madly deeply in love with a girl. He wined her, he dined her, he bought her expensive gifts, he took her away to the mountains for a fantastic weekend and get this... he even hired a mariachi band and played music under her bedroom window. Oh! By the way he played and saying along with the band. Way totally cool.
She dumped him! Tore his heart out, spat on it, stomped on it while it was still beating on the ground and then set it on fire!!!!
Cruelest thing I've ever seen.
This guy... is doing great. I try and spend time with him everytime I can get back down there. We go out. We have a great time. And... we let everyone know it!
The words out... he doesn't need her.
In your case hombre... there may not be any more like her out there but chances are your going to meet a girl who loves you back more than you love her.
So... it's time for some tough love. It's over, harden your heart toward her, don't let her back in and forget about her.
It's her loss and chicks don't dig guys that cry. Never openly, and never admit it, EVER! Chicks say they do but lets face it they cry enough for both sexes and they want someone strong when the chips are down. Oh! Sure they will be sympathetic but they won't want to go out with guy that cries... so knock it off!!!
You are distracted by this girl now and in a few weeks or months, you will look back on this and be embarrassed that you allowed someone to get to you like this and treat you like this.
Show some class. Move on with dignity. The best way to send a message to her is getting caught having a date with another girl even if its just as friends. It will get her thinking and you will soon discover that there are a lot of girls just as hot as this Brittany babe. It will also send a message to her that... hey... I am over it babe. I am moving on. Even if it's not true... it will help you get over it.
Remember these things. Stop talking to her immediately. There is no reason to invest any more of your time in a relationship that isn't going to move forward. Start going out with your male friends and definately go out with other girls. The best thing would be to go out with one of her girl friends and never mention this Brittany chick once. Even if her friend brings it up... ignore it.
Dude you are way so much stronger than this. Take a couple of deep breaths and channel all your energy into finding someone who is completely opposite to Brittany. You will have such a f****ing good time that you will be saying Bri-who???
2006-10-16 16:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by BeArPaW_4709 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she says she wants to be friends, it means she doesnt like you and doesnt want to go out with you anymore. i doubt you will get her back. sorry about this girl, but you just need to move on and find someone even better that you know likes you.
2006-10-16 15:33:44 · answer #10 · answered by snickelfritz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋