whats this mean, please help?
ok about a month ago, i spilled my guts to one of my friends, told her that i like her alot, and all this stuff, shes only 13. well she wrote me back and said she hasnt ever seen us as more thanfriends, and that she dont like me like that but she dont want it to ruin our 8 year frendship.. well..over the past month, I've been avoiding her, simply for my sake, just simply not to bring those feelings back up, cuz when I'm around her they all come back. but she emailed me yesterday, and said she was sad, becauze it was straining our friendship. and she wants things like they used to be, well i told her why i had been avoinding her, and she said she totatlly understood why. well, I know she dont like me like that now, but am I crazy to think there mite be sumthin in the future, cuz she was obvioulsy ( she said) she was really sad, seeing us like this, and since shes only 13, am i crazy to think there mite be sumthin in the next year or two? she also said, " dont take the rejection to heart
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that the reason was probably stupid anyway, whats that mean?
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and for those who say, I am punsihing her, I am not in any way. We have had very friendly discussions, and she understands why, things have been this way. And I have reassured her, promised her, that I will make things the way the used to. Do u really think I want to lose the friendship as well? I mean, that hurts.
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I mean, its not like I'm ugly, I'm very atractive, and so is she. I mean I'm fit, I play varsity baseball, and am only a sophmore, It's not like I'm a geek or anything. And the same with her, she is very good lookin, has guys hitting on her all the time, and is on the national swim team, I just dont know what to do, cuz i swear to god i love her more than anything in this world
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i mean i just cant get over her, I have never in my life, liked anyone, or felt so strongly for somone. Believe me, this isnt a crush, I have had many, but htis is more
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but, since me and her are friends again, we were talking about this girl who likes me, but i dont like her... and the girl i like, said i should just tell her i wanna stay friends, just incase i ever change my mind....?? which is the exact same thing she told me.. what it mean??
2006-10-16 15:24:09 · 22 answers · asked by robinson z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dude, like dude, DUDE.
2006-10-16 15:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by elvee13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, once either of you starts liking the other it isn't just a friendship anymore.
It sucks, yes. But you can't just stay friends in case you change your mind later. You committed once you spilled your heart to her that either you were going to be in a relationship with her, or you were going to stop entirely. And I'm really sorry, because I know that means cutting off something that's gone on for eight years. Maybe eventually you can put it back together.
But right now I don't think she sounds ready for anything serious, and that means that your friendship will be weird as well. Even if you're totally heartbroken - focus on other things. I'm not saying go for other girls right away, because that will be hard and you probably aren't over it enough. But there are other things in your life than this girl, I'm sure. Focus on them for a while, and things will work themselves out. I promise.
2006-10-16 15:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Claire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude... there is no doubt that u love her... But there is also no doubt that u will love again. U are so young that you can't possibly believe that she is IT!!!
What you need to do is just respect that fact that she was honest with you and did not string u along for the sake of not wanting to "hurt ur feelings" U want to experience "big people feelings" well be a "big person" and don't sweat the small stuff. If in a few years she comes around great but guess what.... U may be all about someone else!
Things work out the way they are supposed to and that's it!
2006-10-16 15:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by FoReal! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without even looking at what everybody else has answered, I will tell you this: I've not had that kind of eight year friendship with a girl like you have, but from what you've told me I know what the girl is going through. She likes you. She doesn't LOVE you, but she likes you. That's why she's sad that you're not communicating with her. It's like you and her are fish in the ocean and suddenly you've had this massive growth spurt and she's afraid of what you would do to her emotionally if she were to attach herself to you. You've known this girl for a long time, but suddenly you're seeing her from a totally new perspective. Guys come to that stage about 5 years after girls do. That's the reason that girls like older guys. The older guy understands what he's feeling and knows how to show it and how not to show it.
You have to think about it not only from your perspective but also from your friend's perspective. How would you feel if a person you liked for a long time would suddenly decide that you are going to be their life partner. Right there and then, you are claiming her as yours and she doesn't want to be claimed. Yet.
I know this is hard (because I've had to do the same thing too), but you have to go back to the way that you saw her before you realized that you more than ''like'' her. Girls are attracted to people who know what they want and aren't afraid to go after it, but they don't necessarily want to be gone after all the time. Instead of ignoring her, send her some flowers. You've known her long enough, so start to write things down of what you want to say to her. She sees a change in you and she doesn't like it. If you retreat in you position and go back the way that you were, chances are pretty good that she'll stay with you. And another thing: "No" doesn't always mean "No". Sometimes, "No" means "Wait".
2006-10-16 15:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well,you both are too young, and like you said, you're good looking, and had other crushes.. the difference now is that may be this one rejected you and because you seem to be a guy that likes challenge, this has become an obsession that makes you lose sight of your friendship with her because what' s on your mind is "i can't believe you rejected me" ... keep the friendship.. and as don't forget, at 13, and being in the national team, there's not very much time for boyfriend
2006-10-16 15:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by golondris_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh to be 15 again.
It's hard when you like someone sooo much and they do not feel the same back. But I have to hand it to her - she has a good head on her shoulders for a 13yr old.
When you look at the big picture - everyday gets easier and you have to stop and really ask yourself.."do I really want her out of my life forever?"
The last thing you will want to hear is "your only 15" it's ok - trust me, it will come right..........
So im just going to tell you as it is.
You were friends for so long - naturally a span of 8yrs you would feel alot for her....keep those feelings - enjoy her friendship and see what happens in 2-3yrs...BUT dont advoid her, don't shut out other people from entering your life because of the feelings for her - enjoy life and be greatful - that you have someone as a mate who you care for deeply....
KEEP STRONG :-)
2006-10-16 15:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by Midnitenz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, thats alot. OK this is what it means, the honest truth. This girl loves you to death as a friend and she never wants to loose you. She has probably though about you two together but never in life. Sice shes only 13 and tour 15 she may be affraid to get hurt. Also she may start to like you because she realizes that she never wants to loose yo. We hate seeing our friends like this. She cares about you and she never ment for you to get hurt. Tell her this and talk it over. In the end the sad truth may be that you just need to move on. Good luck!!!
2006-10-16 15:38:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are 15 and she is thirteen, as a mother of a 15 year daughter that is just too young. I would not at 13 let my daughter date anyone. My advice, stay friends and if someday when you are older you may then date each other. You have many years ahead of you.
2006-10-16 15:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow you have a very confusing situation but the way i see it is that she MIGHT be getting a little jealous because if you think about it if you rwere to go out with some other girl you and her won't spend as much time together. who knows maybe along the way some feelings will come to her if they are not already there
2006-10-16 15:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by sea 26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, and you wont, you are young and you dont know how to control or understand your hormones and emotions like an adult. Every teen is the same. "THIS RELATIONSHIP IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT AND IF SHE DOESNT LIKE ME OR GO OUT WITH ME I WILL DIE!!!". Well Im living proof that you dont die, everyone at your age acts like that. If she doesnt like you, try to find the same qualities you like in her, in someone else. See if that person likes you. Youre going to look back on this as one of the most ridiculous times of your life, so just hang in there, its really not the end of the world.
2006-10-16 15:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to dump her shes no good and neither are you you both should just lay down and die your trash and the girl is a hoe shes been with the whole football team at that party the othr nite there was a line all the way down the block and i think i seen pee wee herman in the line
2006-10-16 15:28:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋