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my husband has a job that economically speaking its good but its barely give us time for ourself its 6 days week from 12:30 pm to 9:30pm or 10:pm only one day a week its really hard because it almost dosent give us time to spend with our kids and with us. sometimes i feel really lonely and sometimes i just want to cry i would really like to spend more time with him and i really dont want tis to ruin our relationship but i does i just that i feel lonely and i know he does to but what choice we have we really love each other and we been tru so much but it like things happen to us one after another and its almost feel like we can have a break my husband and i really have alot of presure on our shoulders can someone with this situation or someting similar help us tru thi please help us ? i dont want my marriage to be ruin please help us. thanks all

i need advice i dont want to be sad my husband and i are both sad because we miss each other so much my son miss him to the time he is here he wants my husband all atention and i let him hve my husband all for him because i know if he miss him as much as i do i dont have the heart to said its my turn now you know what i mean i am just looking for answer on how to deal with all this today im sad because we where supposed to go to a park with our son an last night all the sudeen they tell him he has to work and it just hard because we where hpoing to spend that time together please any advice i will apreciated

Answer 1

I can relate as well. My husband works very strange hours, and works 6 days a week. Sometimes I feel a little lonely, other times, he'll curtail his schedule so that he leaves for work just after dinner and comes home a little past midnight, that way we have a few hours in the afternoon together.

What's really helped is that we always have a date night, at least twice a month. I'll get all dolled up, and we'll go out for a nice dinner, movie, coffee & dessert...whatever fancies us at the moment. Or else we'll just pick up food or order in, and watch a dvd whilst snuggled up on the couch. It doesn't sound spectacular at all, but if you set the time aside for these little 'dates', it just makes it feel special!

I've also taken up a few hobbies to help pass the time. I've also bought a bunch of awesome books and magazines to read out on the patio each morning to go with my morning coffee.

Even though we feel alone sometimes, we still need our 'ME' times to indulge in these little things that are meant just for us, HTH!

Answer 2

My husband works long hours (leaves the house a 5:00 a.m. and gets home at 7:30 p.m.). He also travels and is gone for several days at a time. The one thing that works for us is a once a month date (get a babysitter) and just go out for dinner and a movie. It will give you time to talk and reconnect.