I am a 16(soon to be 17) year old male, is it okay for me to date a 14 year old girl?

Question

I'm a really good guy, and I don't want sex from her but I'm 17 very soon and she's 15, I'm a junior in high school and she's a sophomore.
I honestly love her, I think she's my high school sweetheart.
She's more mature than other girls her age and we get along perfectly, and ect.
Her mom, however, does not like me because i'm older than her daughter, what can I do to prove to her mom that I'm a good guy?
Is it okay that were dating?

Okay so she's a sophmore - i'm not lying about that, she moved from up north and when she moved the systems were different and ect, but she IS a sophmore and I am a junior. We have the same friends, we've already been dating for over a month now. She's very mature, and very smart, and she doesn't even look like shes fourteen. We interact with the same groups of people, I hang out at her house with her family all the time. I'm a good guy, I don't want sex, and I really care about her a lot. Any good advice? Her dad already likes me, but her mom is just skeptical, I know it'll come with time, but I feel like there is something more I should be doing. We talk about politics, and history, and tons of things, we're unique, and different to the typhical high school relationship. I turn 17 Oct 21, and she turns 15 on Dec 12. Like I said she is very mature for her age, and very smart. We're on the same page on how much we care about eachother. I just wnat some words of wisdom. Thanks

Oh, and we both LOVE poetry.
That's a definite sign shes mature.

we're not going to engage in ANY sexual activity besides holding hands, and kissing.
We both have values, and would never, ever end up in a situation where she could potentially end up pregnant, this I am firm on, and certain of.

Answer 1

i think that it is fine. You should try to be on your best behavior espically in front of her mom. Try asking her why besides age she doesnt like you. She cant honestly hold age against you because you cant help it. Besides they say that girls are more mature than boys so you should be at the same maturity level anyways(no offense) I am sorry to hear about you situation but just prove yourself by not doing anything that could possibly be bad in the eyes of your lovers mom. I too have been in this situation and my mom has recently come to accept that she cant break us apart because we are in love and she went through the same thing when she was a teen.
Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

There's a phrase out there that says simply "Fifteen will get you twenty." That means that even though your intentions are pure, and hers are too, at your age, sometimes hormones can rage stronger than your own willpower, and in the heat of the moment, one of you looses control, and guess what? She gets pregnant. Legally, that qualifys as rape. Why? because she is under age, and that makes YOU responsible, especially if you have turned eighteen by then. If that happens, you very well could be looking at as much as a twenty year sentence, thus the phrase, "fifteen will get you twenty." Is it worth the risk for a little teenage puppy love? Not in my book. Truth is, with all due respect, (and I do believe you are sincere,) at your ages neither one of you have any clue what true, committed love really is. Your girlfriend's mom knows this, and is trying to protect her daughter from a potential disaster down the road. I;m sure it's nothing personal. Look at it this way. Are you ready today to quit school, sacrifice your education, begin working a full time job to support a wife and a baby? Are you ready at 16 for all that responsibility? It could turn out that way. My advise...cool your jets, and if you really love each other, you can still make it work a few years from now.

Answer 3

as a parent ... NO! you sound like a really nice guy and i am sure she is a great girl and in some way you feel you love each other but at your current ages it is problem.

I know you have probably heard this but why not stay friends. you see others and she sees others and if down the road in a couple of years say you are 20 or 21 and you still feel the same way then date. by then you both will have matured a bit, her mom will get to know you as a "nice and trustworthy" person and things will be good.

until then, stick with kids your own age. i promise it gets easier later.

good luck

Answer 4

At her age your girlfriend isn't emotionally ready for a sexual relationship. (period) If you really want to date her and can put sex on hold, then you better spend a lot of time at her house around mom and try to win her over. If you can't win her mom over your relationship will be over when you turn 18. You need to ask yourself if it is worth the family hassels. Are you going to get fed up with the mom issue and throw in the towel? It sounds like if you want to date her you will have to give up some of the freedom a guy your age would have in order for her mom to be comforable. Just be sure you are really ready to put up with the baggage that comes with this relationship, because I think it would really hurt the girl if you said you wanted to date her then it got to be too much and you backed off.

Answer 5

There is a two year age difference, but just one grade difference, which makes the situation better. Time is the only thing that will help you prove yourself to her mom. It's the motherly duty to worry about her daughter dating a older guy, but if you are a nice guy like you say, I'm sure she will come around once she sees that you truly care about her daughter.

And it probably couldn't hurt to make the point that you are only one grade level apart, probably share friend and classes.

Answer 6

Show her you can wait. Let her go with the firm assurance that you love her. She is just too young for you at the moment, she is too young for anyone. I realise you are serious when you say you love her and don't want sex from her yet but you need to show her mother your restraint for her to take you seriously. I know I would be freaking out when my daughter gets to be 15 in just 3 years time if she is dating a 17 year old. I wont be allowing it.

Answer 7

Play nice! What I mean is just act good for a while then the mom might start warmming up to you. Also remember the mother is just being well a mom, she just wants the best for her daughter. It also might help to talk to this girl, she's a good start on things. Good luck!! :)

Answer 8

law enforcement officers cant do something... and umm for advantageous now that u adult males have been found out u shouldnt have intercourse till he turns 18... or a minimum of make advantageous u cant get caught because of the fact as quickly as u turn 18 its unlawful for u to have intercourse with him... additionally u might desire to wanna examine the criminal age difference of relationship on your state... in California you are able to date anybody with a 4 3 hundred and sixty 5 days age difference or much less... so ud be great if u have been 18 and he became nonetheless 14 in california.. yet intercourse could nonetheless be unlawful...his mom might desire to get u put in detention center if u had intercourse with him after u became 18

Answer 9

Well, I'm 14 lol and I know really bad, but I was dating an 18 year old. YIKES! I think it's fine for you to be dating her, but dont be wanting to have sex with her. I mean she's only 15. Yeah, her parents may not like you, but if you hang out at ehr house with ehr aprents there and show them what a rad, nice guy you are, they may accept you. Just dont elt them know your dating. Let them think your friends. That's what I did, and my parents loved my boyfriend.

Answer 10

You can impress her mom that you are a good guy by waiting until she's old enough to date before you try dating her. It is wrong & unfair for you to put any pressure on her to defy her parents wishes.
If you really truely love her then you will put her needs before your own & encourage her to wait until she's got her mom's blessing before she dates you.