Advice Please?

Question

Warning this might be long. Ok so heres the deal.My BF and I have been together for about 5 yrs now, we have 2 kids.Awhile back he started acting funny and came clean that there was a girl at his work that he really liked. We broke up and within a couple hours he called wanting me back.Well like an idiot I took him back but made him promise not to talk to her any more.This was a few months ago and everything has seemed fine.Then she called his cell phone the other day and he talked to her for a couple minutes and then realized that I was awake and told her he had to go.I was very upset about this and when I talked to him about it he screamed at me that I was making a big deal out of nothing.The way he said it was that she had called him not the other way around so it wasnt his fault.today I was looking in his phone and seen that he had sent her a text that said "sorry bout earlier she woke up and was listenin it was nice to hear from ya I still think bout u too and sent her a kiss face

What do you think I should do?He doesnt even know I know about it yet.My friends say I should kick him out.What do you think?I feel if he is gonna talk to her he must still have feelings for her.Am I right?

Answer 1

It appears he wants to have his cake and eat it too as the old saying goes. He is probably bored and wants something more exciting, unfortunately men get that way it seems. If you can get some child support, I would move on. Just talk to him and see what he wants. Get him to sign something that gives you full custody of the children so he cannot come after them later down the road. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Im sorry sweetie, but he's a dog for doing this. U had every right to be upset. He got caught and then screams at u? he's a dog and u shouldn't put up with it,

So what are u gonna do about this? because it seems as if he's more concern about her feelings then yours. I mean if he talking ithher over the phone in the house u, him and ur kids live, think about whats going on at work when ur around to hear or caught him.

He needs to make up his mind who he rather please and be with . I mean if they're just friends why did he react the way he did and if they're friends then she should be ur friend too

He's trying to have his cake and eat it too, ( don't be the crumb) he needs to be confronted. I mean u and he have been togethr for 5yrs plus u have a family together. So he needs to realize he should not go outside that with another woman as long as your together under the same roof and sleeping in the same bed.

Whom ever this other woman is ( I mean who knows whats he telling her), but as a woman u would think she would have common sense to know he's in a commited relationship with someone and u must to have been upset since he had to call back and say he was sorry.

He's a dog and I can't stand a dog who would do this to his lady and the mother of his kids.

If he was gonna do this he should have had the respect to go outside the house and talk with her since u were in the next room.

Tell that dog not to call his fleas and leave a kiss face on the phone. If he wants to send a kiss face send it to his kids and the person who gave him those kids.

Answer 3

You already called yourself the idiot, so I really can't call you much worse. You know... in your heart that there is something wrong. Or you wouldn't have looked at his cell phone. God gives us the thing called "instincts" to protect us. You should always go on your gut feeling. He made you a promise that he wouldn't talk to this girl again... but that is almost impossible if they work together. He said what he knew you wanted to hear. He couldn't tell you the truth, because he knew that wouldn't be something you would tolerate. So, now you've forced him to lie. I am not blaming you. People lie to protect themselves, or someone else. Why would he scream at you?? Because " a best offense, is a good defense." He makes it seem like you are the bad guy, and telling you it's no big deal, he is trying to make you feel like you are the one with the problem. YOU are the crazy one. This is the typical scenario. I've seen it, lived it, did it, and got it done to me. If it was an innocent call, then why would he have to hang up just because you are awake?? Why is she calling him, unless he has not ever stopped talking to her, and or has made her believe that it is ok to call him. He just told her he still thinks of her.... you know..... listen to your heart girl.

Good luck

Answer 4

Many men will tell you that it is a man's nature not to be with just one woman, and that is bs. It is. Your boyfriend is showing you through his behavior that he is not committed to you. So why are you committed to him? Move on. It will hurt for a while, but you must ultimately chose to do what is best for you versus allowing your emotions to cloud your judgment. And People, I've said it a million times...in determining someone's true intentions, DO NOT listen to what they say, watch what they DO. That will always tell you all you need to know. Good luck.

Answer 5

i think he still has something for her i would just be careful but if you do break up again dont get him back because he might just do the same thing all over again and its going to hurt you but it might be a good thing to break up

Answer 6

Sounds like bad news! You could always drop by where he works and watch him for awhile.

Answer 7

Obviously something fishy is going on. Drop him.

Answer 8

yes i think he still has feelings for this other girl hes probably cheating on you with her and they probaly got something going on she should break up with him

Answer 9

It is time to move on sister.

Answer 10

Dump this PLAYER and move on!