whilst i was out, i saw a few friends and i sat with them for what seemed about 20-30 min...my wife then rang me and told me not to bother with the food and that she does not feel hungry no more... why does she upset me? just because i sat with my friends for a bit and now she has to behave in such a childish manner and now i am so upset about this that i have decided to sleep in a seperate bedroom. i hate a bad atmosphere in our home.. do u think i am at fault? is she behaving childish or am i in the wrong.. if so then is it so wrong of me being not rude to my friends and should have just said hi and bye.. please help as i think i have done nothing wrong and if u think i am wrong then please say why?
2006-10-16 14:38:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your wife is possessive about you. thats all. dont get disturbed by such small things. this is not going to happen everyday. if you want to meet your friends you could call them home or take your wife along with you next time so that she will not feel left out.
2006-10-16 15:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by anurajeev2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many times we as humans don't want to see ourselves as wrong and we tend to always see the other individual as the one in the wrong. In my opinion yes I think you were in the wrong. The reason I say this is because you stated that your wife was hungry. Now if she just wanted something to snack on for a later time then that would have been different. Whenever a persons gets hungry, they're usually ready to eat as soon as possible. There was nothing wrong with wanting to talk to your friends but it was just bad timing because you had a wife at home hungry. So quite naturally she was going to be a bit upset because she hungry and ready to eat. When she called you she was really letting you know that she was ready for the food and to possibly blow off a little steam since you were talking with your friends. Yes you should have said Hi and Bye to your friends and just let them know you're in a bit of a hurry if you jut needed to explain to them why you couldn't stick around. So now there is no reason for you to sleep in a seperate bedroom. Just swallow your pride and go to your wife, kiss her and tell her that you are sorry and that you were in the wrong. I promise you (speaking from a womans point of view) she will feel better and accept your apology. I hope this advice helps you.
2006-10-16 21:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talking to your friends is fine..for a REALLY short amount of time. If the conversation felt like it went for 20-30 mins (much too long anyway) then it probably went for longer. Time flies when you're with friends. Of course she'd feel neglected, forgotten and unimportant to you..and she might not even have been hungry anymore, it's possible she found food or just lost her appetite. Maybe the problem is more that you feel guilty?
For goodness sake, just tell her you love her, give her a hug and move back into your bedroom. Sleeping in a seperate room is so offensive.
2006-10-16 21:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She feels as though you prioritized your friends ahead of her when you said you were going out to get something for her.
She is behaving somewhat childishly, but you are also somewhat wrong.
This is a very small issue compared to all the problems that can happen in a relationship - you guys need to talk about it and find compromise. Like maybe next time you text her to let her know you're going to take a little longer - and she won't be mad. Or, next time - you tell your friends that you're doing something and have to get home, but can you make plans for later.
2006-10-16 21:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by Mee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your wife obviously was hungry and though it was nice of you to offer to grab her a bite to eat it was inconsiderate on your part making her sit around waiting while you were visiting with your friends for 20-30 minutes. I'm sure without being rude you could have said your hello's and told them you'd catch them later in a shorter length of time.
2006-10-17 00:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think either one of you is entirely to blame. She wasn't upset that you were talking to your friends, it was more that she didn't feel like you were concerned about her needs. On her part, she should forgive you for making a mistake and the two of you should find a time to talk. Use the word "I" such as "I felt frustrated because I didn't understand why you were angry." What you want to avoid is saying "you" as in "you are entirely overreacting."
2006-10-16 21:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can relate...I used to be that petulant wife, and act very childishly if god forbid my husband didn't put me first, always. Sit down and have a very serious discussion with her about it. Tell her, you didn't forget about her, and it was not your intention at all to make her 'second best' to your friends. After all, you'd offered to get her something to eat, when really, she could have gone out to get something herself.
Compromise. Tell her that in the future, if anything like this happens, you'll call to let her know. If you talk to her and let her know exactly how you feel and how it made you feel-- without getting frustrated or peeved, she'll be more apt to understand. HTH!
2006-10-16 23:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by olliebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a typical male to female argument.
women like to feel like number one priority.
it wouldnt have been rude to say a quick hello to your friends u could have arranged to see them another time.
i can understand why your wife was upset but you moving into the spare room is a bit much isnt it?
apologise and say you wont be thoughtless again.
2006-10-17 10:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by kiki_dees 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your wife is being a bit selfish and childish
i mean r u not allowed to be long
why did she not go herself but I'm guessing their are more than this problem going on as it really got to you enough to sleep in a separate room
2006-10-17 07:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by veronica 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You left to get your wife something to eat, instead it turned out to be a night out with the guys. If I was her I would be mad, you do not have a clue!! What if she did that to you?
2006-10-16 22:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋