social anxiety disorder self-help cures?

Question

I believe this is the problem that I have because I'm always panoraid in public and around people. I hide it but inside I'm constantly worring about what people think and now it's starting to show. So can I relieve myself of this pressure without getting professional help?

Answer 1

I started out my teen years with horrible social anxiety. It was so bad I couldn’t leave my house. Today I am in the marine corps special forces. I have traveled the world been on mission in Afghanistan, Iraq and a few other places.

I made a complete turn around, and ill tell you how. One of the few things I left the house for was to go to my mixed martial arts class were I would train in full contact fighting. One day my instructor told me I needed to get faster. But I was lost in how to go about it. I mean you can learn techniques do wait lifting to get stronger. But how do you get faster. I was told to pretend you are fast with each and every technique you do. Over time I got faster.

But I started to use that same technique for social anxiety. First off you need to act. Look at the people around you. Look at how calm they are in situations you would freak out in. Ant act like that. Imagine you are in the middle of a crowded room, or picture yourself giving a speech, and imagine being calm, the calmest you have ever been.

But believe it is actually happening. When its actually happening take control of your thoughts and act. Like a shy actor taking the role of an out going character. The best time to imagine this is as often as possible, right before you go to bed and especially when your listing to music.

The other thing is DO NOT think. Your hole life you have been told think before you do. Well when it comes to this, don’t. Just do it. Like a robot, do it and don’t think about it.

There is an old saying that goes, be careful of your thoughts, they may become your actions, be carful of your actions they become your character, be carful of your character it might become you.

Imagine yourself scared you will be scared, Imagine yourself brave and you will be brave.


The last thing is to visualize. When you breath in imagine the air going into your lungs and being sucked into your blood when it goes threw your body its pushing out pain, negative thoughts and weakness. Imagine it getting replaced by good thoughts, power, and a can do anything sense of thought.

Or I guess you can try medication lol.

Good luck I hope this helps
p.s. it takes time, but be patient with it

Answer 2

I've had social anxiety disorder pretty much all my life, and finally found a good therapist about a year ago. It's helped me a lot, but I still have problems. At one point, I hardly ever talked to anyone, not even online. But I'm just taking it really slow. Sharing my opinions at Y!A has actually helped me a lot, strange as that may sound. A few months ago, I was invited to a party at my neighbors' house. My impulse was to figure out how to avoid it, which is what I usually do when I get an invitation somewhere. But I went, and I realized something profound: the other people at the party didn't know me yet! They had no preconceived ideas about my behavior or my personality. I could be as quiet or as loud as I wanted, and for the first time in years I actually tried to make jokes and start conversations. Amazingly, nothing terrible happened, and I felt good about the experience. It was kind of a breakthrough moment for me. Since then I have met a lot more new people and although it's still scary for me, I feel like I'm doing fairly well. You have some great answers here already, but I just wanted to share that for me, the key was patience. I've had to accept the fact that I just need to go really slowly and take it a tiny bit at a time.

Answer 3

First, some of what you experience is pretty common, especially among introverts. I think that we used to call this "shyness".

If you think about it, shyness is the ultimate form of being stuck up, cause you think that everyone is looking and thinking about you. That's not true at all. I hope you realize that they look at you just like you look at them (you don't notice 90% of the people in a crowd!).

Should you really need those anxiety drugs, there is no substitute for professional help. There are no herbs that will fix this. I'm puzzled why you wouldn't get professional help -- would you go to the doctor for a gall bladder attack? Then why not an anxiety attack?

Answer 4

It might be possiable, I have alot of anxiety, take little
steps like make you're self go to the mall by you're self, but
only stay for A few minutes just keep building up. IT help's
to just walk up to people and say hello !!!! little things like
that can help alot.

Answer 5

I had the same problem and I went on line and did some of my own research. There is a lot to it - anxiety. But it's not impossible to get over.

http://innerbonding.com

http://joy2meu.com

This websites have an enourmous amount of information from doctors.

Answer 6

First of all, goddesses don't have this problem. Seriously, the cure is realizing that the disorder is based on fears and confronting those fears head on. Get this book, and it will explain more and show you how to fix it permanently:
http://www.seekwellness.com/bookstore/books/book65.htm

Answer 7

oh my gosh i feel as those others are talking about me all the time to i just thought it was me i think i'm going to go to the Dr about it because it feels as though i cant get my breathe half the time. I have three kids though but see one of them is my half son and i'm not use to having to boys the same age but i really dont think there is i will look it up though

Answer 8

Why are you trying to avoid professional help??

That may be the best route to go.

Try it, be good to yourself.

good luck