He pushes and throws other children around. On two occations he has hit, once with a toy ship the last with a fist, both drawing blood. At home he is well behaved most of the time, and he knows what he is to do when other children make him mad. I'm at a loss for what to do to make him understand that he will be removed from school if this continues to happen. He loves going but these occational outbursts need to stop.
2006-10-16 14:22:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
stay with him one day to watch, if he does it, step in. Make sure that he knows you don't disapprove, see what the situation is that triggers it. have more playdates at home to give him more supervised time with kids with you around.
2006-10-16 14:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Susanne T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have seen kids with the same problem. The first thing I should tell you is to not get angry with your child. I know sometimes it seems like it it the only thing you can do to help but don't it never solves the problem. Most reasons why kids his age act up in school is because they are not used to being around a lot of kids. It is like they are no longer the center of attention and they have to share this attention with other kids. Do you have any pets? if not try getting one or try taking him with you to maybe a littler cousins house so he can get the feeling of not being the center of attention all of the time. Also, I may suggest enrolling him into a type of gymnastics of tumbling program. The more he gets around a lot of kids his age, the faster he will learn how to control his anger. Hope all goes well.
2006-10-16 21:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by LindsayS 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my niece had a tendency to do that...we abbtributed it to that the only other children at her babysitters were boys so that she must have learned to play to hard and became mean. now she is with other girls and does just fine. but when she was with the boys and misbehaved the sitter would sit her in time out and she would still be able to see the fun the other kids were having and was told if she stopped hitting she wouldn't have to miss out on things. she was also rewarded with stickers or something trivial(not so much trivial to her...but to us big people) for when she went a whole day without hitting or throwing anything.
i know he is misbehaving at daycare so maybe he should suffer some consequences when he is at home. like not getting to watch is favorite show. or no dessert. something small like that to us is a big deal to a kid.
2006-10-16 21:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by fuzzy_46237 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your son is experiencing a very high level of frustration. Take time to spend a day at school. See if someone is intentionally hurting or irritating your son. Talk to him about how no matter what someone else does we don't have the right to hit. Teach him to TELL< TELL>TELL in todays society there is no room for suffering in silence because if they get by with it in kindergarten they will continue to torment and taunt and bully your son. Do NOT always assume that it is your kids fault .find out the details before passing judgement.
2006-10-16 21:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be frustrated that he cannot communicate what he wants or get his way at school.
All children go through a phase like this, but not all hit as a solution.
You need to be VERY decisive and focus on how you will handle this.
Do not use anger. Be the behavior you want him to model. Very calm, very verbal and gentle.
Talk to him about how he is feeling (what made him angry) and give him options. He can leave and go play with something else, tell the child how he feels, etc. but he cannot hit, EVER.
NEVER hit him when you discipline.
2006-10-16 21:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's an only child. Listen there's nothing abnormal about your child, he does not need therapy! I would put this on his teachers, they should know how to handle this, it's their job. You're not there when it happens so how can you do anything about it? You're not the one that can enforce the consequences.
I know how it feels when people try and make you feel like you're a bad mother, but seriously, put it on the teachers, make them feel like they are doing the bad job!
2006-10-16 21:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be in some kinda anger management you need to teach him to use his words and not his fist.He needs to know that it unacceptable anywhere.Its your job as a parent to recognize when he is out of control and get him the proper help.Soon they will kick him out.No other child should have to be terrorized by your son.Bottom line hes crying out for something attention or just trying to tell you something is wrong.Or he may be a bully but children live what the learn..
2006-10-16 21:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by plumcouch30 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i would take him to counseling, he may have an emotional problem you arent aware of (i'm not suggesting that you necissarily medicate your child to fix the problem) also they may be able to help you learn techniques for dealing with children who are prone to violent outbursts, not only that it'll provide a healthy outlet and emotional support for you and your son
2006-10-16 21:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by dae_shadow_spirit 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, if one of those kids turns around and clocks him a good one, he will probably think twice before he abuses another child. However, you should probably take him to a specialist and have him evaluated. Get this behavior under control ASAP. Good Luck.
2006-10-16 21:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
There are two ways to go:
1. Dont repress his emerging personality. He is obviously a physically aggressive person with violent tendencies, and is destined to become a prize fighter, wife beater or prison guard - let him find himself: or
2. Tie his hands behind his back when he goes to school.
2006-10-16 21:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by Pastor Sauce 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋