How can I get rid of my anger mgmt problem? I get disproportionately angry @ relatively little things & stuff?

Question

I can't change.

ZITA-

Hi, Karate helps but it doesn't teach anger mgmt per se. Too bad I can't live in the dojo. Thanks.

INSURGENT
Thanks for proving, yet again, that I'm superior to you. Sooo reported.

Answer 1

Anyone can change. Where is there a rule that no one can change? If you want it bad enough, you can change. You should see a counselor to get rid of your anger. Some people just need to learn how. Saying you can';t change is a cop out, an excuse.

Answer 2

Normally there is a reason behind a person's anger problems, and its important to look at the reasons behind yours.

In a short period of time i lost a parent and a close friend. I thought I was dealing with it okay, but i carried a lot of anger at the injustice of it all. After that, any minor unfairness i perceived against me and my temper flared and i would get into a situation. I responded to any idiot and as a man that meant i got into fights over stupid things. I also would hate myself because i couldnt deal with minor problems like a 'normal' person. Like my car breaking down etc.
-Basically it was all symptoms of an inability to deal with stress. And i felt like I was a victim to whenever my temper would boil. I literally felt like the Incredible Hulk.

Although i think anger-management will help, i never did go and so i think it took me too long to deal with things. Although I did eventually face things and feel in control again.

My best advice is tackle the cause & tackle the symptoms.
Is there something in your life troubling you, upseting you, -deal with it. If your not sure how ask friends or ring an advice line, or get councilling.

Secondly to deal with the actual stress.
When you are stressed your body is a heightened state of awareness and produces extra adrenaline. In short burst this is helpful to humans in 'fight or flight' situations. But when you are stressed this puts a strain on your bodies resources and you are more susceptible to illness.
You have to get out of stress mode. Exercise is the best thing for this. Take intense exercise at least 30mins a day. like a hard jog or swim.
And make sure you are following a healthy sleeping pattern. If not. set your alarm to wake you up early. When it rings, get up and stay up, no matter how tired you are. And you will sleep better the next evening.

Good luck with everything.

Answer 3

If I'm angry, I'm angry there is nothing "you" per se can do about it. But my response is another issue. I blow up at times in response to the stupiest things people do, I find myself trying to figure out how that person could do something so annoying and not be aware of it. Is it my problem or theirs? I feel it's both. Them for being so thoughtless and ignorant and me for being so concerned about their "lack of" problem. Nevertheless, as I've gotten older, I find myself just not caring about the small stuff and letting things just blow off me. I just turned 40, am very attractive and am single again; I made a choice to spend the rest of my life in a happier mood, less arguments and less worries. Maybe focusing on what you want for the rest of your life will help, who knows. It does come down to each individuals choices. You have the power NOT to react, now just use it.

Answer 4

Work out helps me. Do you have a lot of stress in your life that is making you angry, because I am a nursing student and I use to get so angry all the time for no reason. My dr. put me on Lexapro for anxiety and I feel great my anger has gone down dramatically and I am relaxed the little things dont make me mad anymore.

Answer 5

Anger is a classic emotion even with the undeniable fact that, you are able to administration it, and not enable it administration you. once you get offended, your thoughts releases this adrenaline chemical by way of out your physique. curiously quicker or later on your existence you have become hooked in this chemical, which will provide you a hurry once you behave in this type. As with alcoholism, curiously there is likewise a genetic or inherited factor to aggressive habit and protracted anger. at last in case you do no longer administration it it is going to shorten your existence, because of the fact it motives tension on your coronary heart, reason lack off sleep all using anxieties. notwithstanding the rationalization for figuring out to purchase you this anger factor, communicate it out on your head first. ask your self questions like, Is what i'm approximately to declare going to hold peace or difficulty? At that factor, you're making the determination of the style you prefer to react on your undertaking. Will it strengthen your existence or make it undesirable.

Answer 6

I have always had a pretty volatile temper in response to others' comments....my brother helped me a lot by telling me that my life would be a lot happier and less chaotic if I could just adopt the following attitude: "You clean up your side of the fence and don't worry about the other guy's side." It works....it is hard to own your own stuff, but when you start to ask yourself how you are contributing to any chaos in your life.....it is simply amazing how much of the "stuff" is on your side of the fence.

Answer 7

Anyone can change if they want to badly enough. I have struggled with anger issues alot through out my life and they seem to be getting better. I think what really changed things for me was starting a practice called Falun Gong. It's main, kind of center peice teaching is "Truth- Compassion- Forebearance". Everything sort of revolves around that. In amongst it is learning to think of others first, being less selfish and letting go of "attachments". Attachments can be anything from being totally attached to getting your own way, being jealous of others to even craving sugar too much. Everyone is different of course.

I found that after not thinking of just myself so much and practicing vigilance with my thoughts I could change much easier. Often times we go through life and we sort of live unconsiously. We dont really give much thought to the kind of thought patterns we have and create. After really seeing what kind of thoughts patterns I let guide my life, I found there was no wonder I had some of the problems I did! I was able to gradually change what thoughts and habits I lived my life by. I was able to quit smoking, able to not be so jealous, able to look at things more positively and able to let my anger go more than I ever thought possible.

You are the one living in your body and the one dictating what goes on inside you. I honestly feel that if a person let's themselves think too many negative thoughts, over time they teach thier body's chemistry to change giving them the condition of depression. You need to take responsiblity for your self and your actions and find thier causes within your own heart and mind.

It takes a dedication and patience with yourself but everyone is capable of change. It is just that sometimes it feels much easier to blame external factors for our human condition, rather than to look within for thier cause and take responsibility for them. Once you blame external factors however, you give away such amazing power to change yourself and your surroundings.

It is sort of like that saying; "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." With such great power, comes great responsibility

Good luck!

Answer 8

try taking a walk when ur angry get some fresh air and lay on grass and rest that works 4 me hope it helps

Answer 9

Go to an anger management class, or see a reg. therapist.

Answer 10

how old r u?
i was very very angry when i was younger, all you have to do is not hurt anyone, and know when to drop it, leave the room, and what ever you do don't take mood drugs, cause its better to go through it, as it is part of who you are, it will pass