My boyfriend and I have a pretty healthy sex life. But in bed, hes always the dominate one. Hes a lot more exprience than I am in that area so im afraid to put myself out there. i dont want to look like an idiot! What do I do?
2006-10-16 14:18:36 · 14 answers · asked by Misty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, first read those Cosmo Girl Magazines with all the sex tricks. And one night surprise him in something sexy. Never be afraid to put yourself out there... There's no such thing as horrible sex with the man you love. And with the research and all the different tricks you play on him in bed, he'll love you for taking control.
2006-10-16 14:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get yours hun. If you want more do it, and hope he is not some pyscho that wants to be in control. But actually, if this is what is going on, you do not have a healthy sex life at all. It might be active, but unless you are equals there is nothing healthy about it.
2006-10-16 21:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't look like an idiot if you take charge and try what you want to, more than likely he will like you taking control and showing what you like.
In my personal experience anyway.(And I'm a guy)
2006-10-16 21:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him "Can we try something a little different? And you need to let me know if you like it or what we should do differently, ok?" And then you take control, and do what you'd like, and you just may open up all sorts of new and interesting doors. The key word in ALL relationships is C_O_M_M_U_N_I_C_A_T_I_O_N between both of you. :))
2006-10-16 21:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by Chuck S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.....if you want to be the one doing the dominating, here's what you should do......(1) ASK HIM IF IT'S OK (if he asks why tell him you want to try something).....(2) TELL HIM NO CRITISIZING OR LEADING ME (it'll make you more confident).....(3) PLAN OUT YOUR EVENING (you don't want to waste time and make him think that you know what your doing)........& THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT......BLIND FOLD HIM (this will make things more exciting and with him blind folded will make you feel comfortable because he's not watching you. These techniques helped me...I hope they help you.
2006-10-16 21:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and open with him...if you truly do have a healthy sex life you have to understand that it also means communication.
2006-10-16 21:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by coolguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should really be having this converstion with your boyfriend. If you are intimate enough to be sexually active, you should be intimate enough to discuss this with him. Let him know you would like to try some different things....it will probably turn him on.
2006-10-16 21:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys just like to be in control...as long as he is pleased you are not looking like an idiot....dont think about it too much, things come naturally...just relax and enjoy!
2006-10-16 21:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rent you some or go to an adult movie store and buy you some movies and use that as a teaching tool you will learn and he will love you even more if you took control sometimes......men love that stuff
2006-10-16 21:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go with the flow its always the best way.
2006-10-16 21:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by Emma G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋