My family don't get along. It's like we all hate each other. It's my mom, me, my two brothers and a sister. I am the oldest. We all have certain problems: My mom wants to quit smoking so she is really stressed out. I am really selfish (I just can't help it). One of my brothers is too bossy. He thinks he is better than the rest of us and that he is the only one who helps my mom. My other brother is kind of abusive and depressed. He always starts fights and he's really spoiled (my mom doesn't yell at him for doing things wrong and when she does, he laughs at her); My sister (who's 7) makes messes and doesn't clean them up. I really want to help because I don't like being upset all of the time and having everyone hate everyone else. Even when we start to get along, someone will say something to upset someone else. Please help me and my family.
2006-10-16 14:13:57 · 17 answers · asked by israolaya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Welcome to my world. besides getting help walk away. they cant get mad if you are not there
2006-10-16 14:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you get some help from a social worker at school? Some townships offer free therapy and that will help. Even if you can't get the rest of your family to go to therapy, you can still go. But if you can get your family to go for therapy as a group that would be a better help. In therapy you'll find that things are said and communicated so that the family will find out why they are behaving this way and each member can express to each other what really bothers them. When you get an objective person involved, like a therapist, people start feeling better about themselves and better about their family. My family has been through it, my 9 year old grandson talks to a social worker at school. He tells her things that bother him, that he can't always discuss with his mom or me. I hope this helps.
2006-10-16 14:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by luckylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like every other family at some point in time. Maybe Mom will organize a family meeting where everyone can say how they feel without being attacked by other family members.
Never mind, it never worked for my family either. Sounds like everyone is selfish and thoughtless. Help your mom, if Momma ain't happy, no one is going to be happy.
Good luck.
2006-10-16 14:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by Hatem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need some family counseling of some type. If you have a church you go to, you could talk with the pastor or a school counselor or another family member like grandparents. I don't know your ages but if you are old enough, you should help your mom by working and paying some of the bills. It sounds like you need to spend time talking and seeing how you can make things better for each other.
2006-10-16 14:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want to take responsibility for the rest of your family. You can help, but to a limited extent. It is good that you want to be a responsible person, but you have to have perspective on this. Do what you can, but concentrate on developing yourself and your future. Do well at school. Think about college and careers. If you don't take care of yourself, you can't help anybody else. I am not suggesting you be selfish or self-centered, but take care of yourself.
Counseling might help if you can get it.
2006-10-16 14:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your family and the only one which you have and going to have. So many different personality's, so many individuals needs and problems, just a Hell. Try to survive in first place with your healthy mind. Maybe if everybody grow up and go on their own can see what was bad and wrong about them. Good luck .
2006-10-16 14:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im the same way, and im kinda working it out. try to get the closest person in your family, and start planning different ways, make a list of what each person in your family is doing wrong. then either try to hold a family meeting or just keep yourself occupied and try to fix it within each person, without being bossy.
2006-10-16 14:21:34 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call a family meeting and say how u feel. tell them what u think of everyone including urself. make sure u emphasize stuff on urself cause otherwise theyll think u think ur better then everyone... once u tell them what u think then say what u think could fix the problems...then ask them one by one what they think could fix it and combine all the solutions..
hope it helps.
2006-10-16 14:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by Velvet Rain Drops 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my family is the same way your mother needs to stand by what she says and you dont need this all on you like this your family needs conceling and fast tell your mom your tired of the fighting and see where that goes
2006-10-16 14:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
princess just have a family meeting and talk about the problem that your family is having. will i wish the good luck!! here my email address if you need a friend. efrain78223@yahoo.com
2006-10-16 14:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you help by helping your sister clean up once in a while and why do you all go to councling for families
2006-10-16 14:18:57 · answer #11 · answered by Big Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋