This guy I had the biggest crush on for almost a year. It's finally almost gone. I felt he sent me some mixed signals sometimes. He'd flirt, and then when I'd try to get close he backoff. And then it would start all over again. Sometimes he's really look into my eyes and down at my lips I felt as if on purpose sometimes. When he'd have to hand me something for work. He is a flirty guy. But I don't think I totally imagined it all. The thing is recently he saw me not fixed up. And I felt he looked at me differently. Then the next day he was very sweet to me but treated me like he treated these people he could joke with that he had no interest in. I felt it was because he saw me like this. Then I went over to his area to ask him a work related question he acted really grouchy I felt as if he thought I was just trying to get his attention. No big smile or wink like he used to give. Maybe do to how he saw me that day. Since then I've been a kinda different to him am I wrong?
2006-10-16 13:34:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What I mean by different is maybe he hasn't even noticed the change in me. But when he came over last to get work from me, I said I had already brought it over but didn't look up from my computer and barely gave him a smile. I could tell he was trying to make eye contact at this time. Which he didn't always give me the courtesy of doing. Is this wrong of me?
2006-10-16 13:36:10 · update #1
No he sound's superficial. And if your not being fixed up seemed to make him treat you differently he's not someone in my humble opinion to look twice at. Give him the cold shoulder and see what happens. If I'm right about him he's just a flirt looking for attention. Pay more attention to someone who deserves it.
2006-10-16 13:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Ricky 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Some guys get off on having what I refer to as "Associate Girlfriends". They flirt, they like to hang out, whatever they are in the mood for. Basically they are just using you as a pleasant diversion from the drudgery of their workday. You're a little eye candy at the office and a potential affair at the Christmas party. I'm really sorry you got hurt, hon. But keep your chin up and there IS a really great guy out there for you but I don't it's going to be him.
2006-10-16 13:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Dhara 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, i'm completely the option. basically imagine of it as a strong aspect because you could now both be extremely strong acquaintances with out the further hardship of those akward "OMG, did that sound like i'm hitting on him?" moments. you could now berself, thoroughly open, or a finished dork round him and it would not count number because there is not any skill there and no elect to electrify. satirically, this regularly leads to them being TOO inspired- which then sucks because they look to fall for you larger incredibly. basically attempt to work out them as a woman. lol. take care of them like one besides, and then you'll forget they are not.
2016-10-16 05:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by gayman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmm I know how it is to have a year long crush. My roomate is going through it now. It's probably best to move on. If he's not giving you what you need, it's time to find a guy that will. I doubt it is anything with your appearance and even if it was, would you really want to be with a guy who doesn't like you for who you really are? I know it's probably hard but when you find the right guy for you, things will be much better.
2006-10-16 13:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by b-rad 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Guys are visual creatures. By the way he is acting now, he might realize that your not his idea of a "natural" beauty.
Guys rely mainly on visual apperances... but some have different tastes.
Sounds like he was never interested, but leading you on. Ive had a guy do the same thing...so I gave up with him, went my own way, changed my look since then...and now he keeps messaging me to hang out.
It may take weeks, or months, or never happen. Its just the guy.
2006-10-16 13:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by I Love My Kitties 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
no you arent wrong first all if a guy likes you he should accept you on a bad or good day maybe you were doing laundry that day or something he is playing that come here dont touch me routine it sucks i know but be civil and treat him just as if he was anyone else there. these kind of people feel mistreated when they dont have you pondering over them all the time they fear they have lost their touch you dont have time to be on his up and down roller coaster ride if he wants something to spark he should quit giving you mixed signals and get on with it.
2006-10-16 13:41:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
If it is work related-- DONT DO IT! Keep the winks and grins going but dont even try to date, to much drama for the workplace.
2006-10-16 13:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by marhaschmidt 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just leave him be. He's a very moody person and he only strikes whenever + wherever suits him. I hate to think of a relationship with this kind of person. It'll be a live ROLLER-COASTER.
2006-10-16 13:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by daisy770 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No if he does not like all your moods and appearences then he is not interested in you as a person --- only interested in how you look "made up"
2006-10-16 13:40:04 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It was a crush and now it's gone. Be his friend but be glad you dodged the bullet.
2006-10-16 13:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by lil sis 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋