Why doesn't God cure my friend?

Question

My friend, who is only 24 year old, is diagnosed with rare disease that causes breathing problems. He was recently hospitalized in intensive care because he wasn't able to breathe for 4 minutes. Luckily, he is saved by doctor, but it keeps getting worse.
Doctor said he has less than 6 month to live and sent him to hospice. I can only imagine what he is feeling right now. No one, I repeat, no one deserves to go through what he is going through. He is a good person and he deserves to have fun, enjoy life, play sports, date girls at his age.
Why does life have to work like this? Actually I am angry about this. Why does God let him suffer like that? Doesn't he at least deserve to live healthy and happy like everyone else?

P.S. I am a christian and by no means I am trying to criticize God or christianity. I am just angry, depressed and wanted to vent here.

Answer 1

question.
have you prayed for him?
have you laid hand on him and released the healing power of Jesus from your spirit into his?
have you quoted or read healing scriptures to him.
there are tapes with healing scriptures only on them that you can buy and play in his room.
if you can not find them you can make your own.
start with isaiah 53:5.
1 peter 2:24
mark 16:15.
and you can run references from those.

Answer 2

Some denominations try to make everyone think all they have to do is "ask" and God will deliver ... some seem to go even further and seem to say all we need to do is "name it and claim it" or practically DEMAND that God deliver.

To be truthful, most of us at some time wonder "Why, God, why?" It is understandable if you are "angry, depressed, and wanting to vent". But we do know He Who made the Universe. We know that He is God, and we are not. We do know the future and that it is great [not necessarily the near future, but the eternal future]. Now, if we were atheists, we would have no assurance, no glorious eternal future.

If your friend has accepted Jesus as Saviour and Lord, then you (and he) can have God's and the Bible's assurance that his future is secure even if the short-term is rough.

We know we live in a "fallen world"; God has not promised us an easy journey but has promised us a glorious destination.

Have you heard of Bob Dutko, a Christian talk show host. A few years ago his daughter (about 18) collapsed and died in his arms ... an unknown heart defect.

As Bob Dutko says, he doesn't know "why"; but his trust is in God. Bob says "He is God and I am not". He trusts God; we are not God and for some reason God does not let us know all the answers.

Answer 3

There is a saying to the question, "Why doesn't God answer my prayer." The answer is God doesn't give us what we want but what we need.

This is a good question and any rational answer will not heal the anguish and sorrow you feel. You are mourning the loss of your friend already and everyone has to endure a grieving process.

Have you ever seen the movie SIGNS with Mel Gibson. Good example of how God works in mysterious ways and tests us. Also, in the movie THE PASSION OF THE CHRIST many grown men cry at seeing the movie. Why? We see the goodness of a person and desire to have the beauty and strength of that person remain with us. As a Christian I must believe I will have to suffer, in some way, as Christ suffered. He endured every kind of suffering. It is a type of cross to carry.

You are very honest in your P.S. This is a good thing towards healing the hurt. As a Catholic my faith has "miraculous" healings as have been documented from the waters at Lourdes, France. St. Bernadette, the visionary who saw Mary the "Immaculate Conception" was dying of bone cancer and offered to have the "miracle water" heal her. She realized it was not meant for her and she suffered and died. That was over 150 years ago and her body remains uncorrupted to this day. The movie SONG OF BERNADETTE tells the story of this historical event to show us God calls us home to heaven when we have accomplished our purpose in life.

God bless you and your friend.

Answer 4

My friend, this is a very common question. I believe many of those answering these questions that are so opposed to God and HIS followers started out just this way. Many do not think GOD was there when they wanted HIM to be.

I do want to assure you that HE is indeed there. God has never promised us everything would go as we want it to. In fact, Jesus promised that we would suffer for His name. The main thing is that your friend knows Jesus and that he has accepted HIM for salvation. If he has, well, when the time comes, he will be healed fo all infirmities just as we all will. Many others have lived with major problems. Joni Erickson has been a quad since she was a teen. I recently heard her tell that she was headed into many very bad things but that caused her to trust on God alone.

I can not say what it would have been like for your friend, but be there for him. If he doesn't know the LORD, let your light shine to him so that he will want what you have.

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Answer 5

It is human nature to want to vent and you would not be much of a friend if you did not feel depressed and angry about it. But God has said his body is sick but his spirit is whole. And sometimes people are only loaned to us for a short while in order to give us something we need. And maybe his life has been shortened because he has fulfilled his Job and God is ready to take him home. Be at peace though for he will be leaving this world of pain and he will always be with you in your heart and in the memories you keep. No one can take that away from you. God give him the courage to deal with his final days and give you the strength to let go when the time comes. I will pray for you both.

Answer 6

So sorry to hear the sad news about your friend. There is a special poem that says: A cure was not to be, God put His arms around him , and said Come with Me. Something like that. You know we are put on this Earth and the only thing that we have to do , is die. Only 24 years, old and God has a special plan for this young man. Only God knows what hour He cometh. Don't be angry. What good will that do. Give this man all the Love and Support you can. Yep you are so accurate at him having more in life. But that is not to be for this Special young man. God has better plans for him. We don't want to give him up. We think of death as so final, but it isn't . His life will just begin with the Lord. When this young man is on his final minutes of life, he will not want to stay here. He won't even take one look back at us , and God will be there with His arms held open to recieve this young man. I understand what your saying. We don't want to give our loved ones up. Most likely this young man has and will walk in many valleys, but on his final walk, he will rise up out of the Valley and be in Heaven with God. He will not want to stay here. Give this young man all the time and love you have. Take care and may God lift your grief and saddness, Always !!

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong, with being mad at God. I've been there several times. I went outside and yelled my lungs out at him..it sure made Me feel better...Its a very helpless feeling, not being able to do anything. Why this is happening to your friend,
I do not know, all I can do is send you, and your friend my prayer's. It's really hard to think he will never experience love,
getting married, being a father, etc. My heart goes out to you..
Go out side an yell, but remember, where he's going there will be
no pain for him, and you will see him again in heaven, just like he was before he got sick. Take care my friend, and God Bless
all you care and love.

Answer 8

Right now unforeseen occurrences befall us all. Please know that God did not cause this to happen to your friend or anyone who suffers. Satan is the one that has brought this tragedy to the human race. It is God, through his Kingdom, with Jesus as the ruler that will end all this suffering. If your friend dies before Armageddon, then he will have the chance for a resurrection back to life to live on a paradise earth with no disease ever to ravage his body ever again. He will live forever, never grow old, get sick or die. Jesus' death was proof of that.

Answer 9

Hi

I have a wonderful friend that is dying from cancer as we speak, life is not always what we want it to be, but there are times in our life when we will see friends or family and they are in God time.......it hurts terrible to loose people that we love, but I feel that you can turn that pain over to the Lord so that you can be a better friend..........

Ever since Adam and Eve fell, mankind has been relentlessly hounded by all manner of ill health. Because sin caused everything to become corrupt, there is nothing extraordinary about people coming down with infirmities. One of the reasons God cursed the earth was to remind us of our fallen spiritual condition.

Anyone who takes an inventory of the medical history of his or her own friends and family will quickly realize that illness is a very common occurrence. When we're born, we may be the picture of perfect health, but as we get older, our health generally declines. Because there is no lasting cure for any illness in this world, the cleansing of our souls from sin should be our greater priority.

God could very easily cure any disease, but there is always some other ailment to take its place. You would have to inquire of God, himself to find out why He doesn’t heal someone of an illness. If we trust in the Lord, He will work all things out for good.

"For we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to His purpose" (Romans 8:28).

God Bless

Answer 10

This is a tough time in your life and your boyfriend's. Perhaps going beyond just imagining what your friend is going through might be of some help. What I mean is, set aside your feelings, as dificult as that will be to do, and listen to what he has to say. You probably won't have to say a thing. This is truly his journey and ultimately he will do it alone; just be there and listen. It will be the best thing you have ever done for him or for yourself.
It may also help you deal with this very difficult time in your life both now and later.
My prayers are with you and your boyfriend.

Answer 11

I am very sorry that your friend is so sick and I will pray.
I have bi-polar manic depression and have had this condition for over 21 years, I did not get healed but I have learned to deal with this and life with this condition. I don't know why God has not healed your friend nor would I try to give an answer to something I no nothing about but God said to Paul my grace is sufficient for you.

It is OK to be angry and depressed and feel hurt I have questioned God and he leads me to the Bible for answers.
May God give you comfort and strength and your friend comfort and strength at this time.