how do they know?when there not me??

Question

I go to this school where im really unhappy and my parents say "i dont think your unhappy there i think its just cause they make you do your school work" i dont mind hard work and im not doing good in the school at all im failing alot of like everything as i was saying i really do not mind hard work.But you cant be happy and work hard in a place you hate.They don't know how much it hurts me i have given up so much like friends and happyness it has driven me to the point where i started to cut myself and drink im to scared to tell them that, like they wont except me or somthing. i miss the old me the happy joy joy joy all the time gal. now i hate life.i try to change i do its NOT like i sit around and wonder if i sit infront of my parents long enough will they take me outta the s.h.i.t hole schoool? i really cant stand myself and just wanted to know if somone can help.me thanks for reading this.

Answer 1

Sometimes parents think that they are bad parents if they are too lenient. It sounds like your parents really do think that you are just slacking. If you are having trouble talking to them about it and getting your point across, try writing them a letter. In the letter make sure that you explain why you hate your school and how you think it is affecting your performance. You should also offer ideas on how the situation could improve and close the letter by asking them to sit down and discuss options with you. I bet they will be impressed that you made the effort and they will try to find a compromise with you.

Answer 2

I don't know why your parents put you into this particular school. Is it supposed to be "better" than your previous school? Only you can answer that.
I urge you NOT TO CUT YOURSELF. Also stop the drinking. You may be letting this situation ruin the rest of your life. You deserve better than that. You say that you have given up so much like friends and happiness. Is that your choice, giving up your friends, or are you unable to see and talk with them anymore?
I feel bad for you. I remember there were times at school where I couldn't stand it, but that was mostly because some other kids were mean. Not all of them, some of them. They're probably still jerks.
If at all possible, get together with your friends again. I don't know if you can speak with your parents. It sounds like you have tried. Perhaps there is another adult or trusted friend you can confide in.
Please remember this: This situation that you're in will not last forever. I know it sounds like a cliche, but it's true.
I hope I have been of some help to you.

Answer 3

First of all I feel ur pain. U might feel like an outsider lookin in on ur own life. I too was a "cutter". It is not healthy and i appluad u for knowing there is something wrong and asking for help.My parents found out and told me i was stupid and need to stop acting stupid. I would go to a school counselor first and they could help ur parents understand it is a disease and needs to be adressed.You can also show ur parents ur adult andlook into other schools around u and figure how u would get to them on ur own. Let them know it is not because ur lazy but ur unhappy.Since u have acess to the internet u can find support groups and have someone help u speak to ur parents.Yor not alone and there are others out there jsut like u. There is plenty of joy in this world girl and i know u will soon be able to enjoy it again.There is always hope!! god bless u

Answer 4

i felt the same way when i was in a school that i hated (well i never started drinking though) My solution was 2 pass everything so I can leave the hell hole & never look at it again cuz if u don't do anything then u do have 2 come back 2 that school all over again & I know you don't want that. So the best thing is 2 tgink this If I pass all of my classes I can reach graduation & once graduation is over I can smile agin cuz I will never have 2 c this school ever again. Please stop drinking U r so much better then that.

Answer 5

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The problem is inside.
NOT inside the school
It is inside your mind.

Where did you ever get the idea that home, school, or work, or neighborhood would be
all happiness and fun, and to YOUR standard of liking????????

Life is not cookie-cutter perfect.
If you cut yourself, it will only scar your arm...it won't change anything.

If you want to control something, better than the ability to multilate your body to get attention...

try talking to the right people, and get some good guidance. YOU NEED A MENTOR.
A mentor is someone that you really like the way they do things, you see they are successfull, and you want to copy that.

If you want school to be to your liking, then MAKE IT HAPPEN !!!

IF YOU WANTS FRIENDS
FIRST BE A FRIEND

If you are all down, and sad, and sorrowful, and needy WHO would want a friend like that????

Get a grip on reality. If you want to be happy,
then BE HAPPY !!!
Do cool things for other people
and that WILL make you like YOURSELF better...then what follows
it others will like you BECAUSE you like yourself.

If works...it is the only way things work.

Read it again. It's the formula for success in relationships.

Now, as for on the job...if you want to be in the next level up, then you have to dress and work at that level, if you want management to SEE you in that way.

Relationships are EXACTLY the same!!!

If you want for things in be a certain way
then you MUST act and relate to others
as if it was already true...
THEN they will SEE you that way
and it will begin to happen.

Get a grip on what I've said, and get mentally healthy.
If you can't get strong mentally on your own,
get professional help.

NEVER let anything in life beat you.
My GAWD, you don't like school, so you cut?
What's next when you grow up and get a REAL TASTE of how HARD life is???

You better get tough and get going now, before you are swamped with living that is truly a challenge.

Get used to it !!!
Conquer it !!!
Live it !!!
If you want happiness, CREATE it !!!

stw
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Answer 6

I think it would be best to just tell your parents. I went through the same thing but it was like in 8th grade and i didn't want to graduate. I was really depressed. So i think u should just tell your parents and get it over with before u end up hurting yourself. Things can't get worser only better. If they don't listen the first time just keep telling them until the piont when it gets annoying and then they'll start to listen.

Answer 7

ok lets see how can i explane tis 2 u without confusing u. Ok first and for most yer parents wants whats best for u but sometimes it dosnt work out that way.They may think that they are but if u are unhappy i sugest u tell them that u really need to talk to them have them take time out and say ma dad i need to have a real seriuos talk with u make sure u got there full attetion and tell them that u are unhappy with the way things are at school and they should help u but not judge u right away tell them to listen to what u gota say. but i must tell u one thing stay in school life does not get any esier in the real world i wish it did but it dosnt it get worse. hang in there.

Answer 8

i understand what your saying i hate school and i hate my new life i've moved to kansas last nov and my whole personality has changed im not me anymore im a fake person and i hate her. i lost all my friends and yeah also all the fun things in my life here i get so depressed at school sometimes it feels like ppl judge me and your right how do they know? they dont understand what its like these days homework? yea sure thats the reason it cant be all the other things like friends, relationships, that sense of lost and we're young lately (thinking ur a teen) teens get depressed more easily (so news says) im not sure what to tell you since im in the same situation i just hope one day it'll all change when i least expect it its funny u know me all being emotional and i want to be a psychologist to help ppl with emotions likes these right now i just go through life hoping everyday will end quicker and that summer will come soon i hate school so much at least highschool i cant wait to be in college away from ppl who dont dont have much in common with me (cuz u know u go to college n ppl in ur classes usually have the same likes that u do since ur both in the same class) anyways i know i talked alot sry i hope the best for u btw :P if u ever need to talk to someone u can email me (plus it'd be good practice since i want to be a psychologist) xD

Answer 9

You really need to talk to someone about how you're feeling. Find a counselor or talk to a really good friend. Let you're parents know or someone you trust what you're doing to yourself. It sounds like you're really depressed and its alright to ask for help. Do not be ashamed to get help even if it requires a psychologist or psychiatrist. With the right help, everything will eventually work out for you.

Answer 10

Sit down with them and relly make them understand that your school is depressing you and that your skool work isn't going to inprove unless you change skools.They should understand your needs!!! Don't cut yourself or drink because it's only going to hurt you.U know that's not kool girl!!!!If you need sum more advice email me at [e-mail]!!!