My best friend found out she's preganant after MANY years of trying. She's now offically CRAZY about everything baby. I have kids and kinda been there done that. Its ALL she wants to talk about. I am so happy for her but I know that this BABY TALK all the time will drive me nuts. I understand that she's super excited and she deserves it after so many people around her have been pregnant while she watched. Anyone else deal with this?
2006-10-16 13:02:59 · 16 answers · asked by CrissKross 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
LOL No, I've been the one who would call up my unmarried or non-pregnant friends and talk about all things pregnancy/baby. :-)
I feel for you (I usually just offer a general apology to anyone I get in a conversation with these days).
However, I think you probably know what to do. Even though you've had the kids and nothing's really new to you anymore, you know how exciting it can be... now multiply how you felt by a lot, because this woman has been dreaming of being able to talk about babies and pregnancy and all kinds of stuff for a long time. To top it all off, she's had to watch while you and probably lots of her friends have realized HER dream.
Be a good friend. Listening to her stories won't hurt you, but telling her you can't stand any more baby stories would hurt her.
If it gets to be too much, this is one of the very few times I think that "playing games" would be merciful. Find ways to avoid her occasionally if you just can't take another story about how many times she got up to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night.
But for the most part, keep in mind who has the hormones and who doesn't, and that you do care a lot for your friend, and just suck it up and listen to her stories. Eventually they'll probably slow down, but right now, she needs to just revel in her pregnancy.
2006-10-16 13:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most women who have been pregnant have been guilty of over-sharing their experience. Chalk it up to excitement and crazy hormones. If your friend has other friends or co-workers who are new parents, she will perhaps find them more receptive to baby talk and gradually shift to talking to them more. If not, birth classes (Lamaze, etc.) will hook her up with other pregnant gals at nearly the same phase she is in. There are also tons of parenting classes & other groups that might connect her.
If she's really, really out of control with the baby thing you are perfectly within your rights as a good friend to mention it tactfully. Wouldn't you want to know if it was you? If there is something you used to talk a lot about or an interest you share, mention it and say that you hope you won't lose that now that she's going to be a mom.
That said, dive in and indulge her once in a while! Some day (maybe?) you'll be pregnant also and find yourself jabbering away about ultrasounds and nursery colors!
2006-10-16 13:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is all gung ho about having a baby I would personally take the pyschological approach and invite her to babysit my most rambuncious child..or heck make a night of it tell her she needs the practice and invite her to watch all of your kids...not sure how well behaved your children are but if they are like my own...that'll give her something to think about for the next few months. Then offer her a shoulder to lean on when reality sets in. Trust me Reality isn't just for television!
2006-10-16 15:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey
I promise you this you did the same when you were in her shoes .. I know this i have been there the one without kids
Join in on the fun .. heck go threw your baby things and see if see need anything. Best friend? throw her a shower .. after all you will be the babys Aunt
Congrats to her
2006-10-16 13:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by iamblessed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
onr thing these ppl who are writing you above me are every rude, ok she is your best friend. she has dealt with everyone else having babies and doing all the baby talk and now it is her turn so let her have her fun. being pregnant is the one thing you can be center attention so let her have her glowing moments itis only 40 weeks i think you can deal if not then i guess you are not much of a best friend if she had to deal with it when you were pregnant.
2006-10-16 13:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by jessica H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maye be it would be good to limit your time with her... but know that when you are with her, she is going to be fixated on one topic. We've all been there, and it is hard to get into a topic when it doesn't relate to you, but be a pal, and listen when you can. She will be forever grateful!
from a grandma-aged person
2006-10-16 13:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her have a while to be excited. Like you said you have "been there done that" but she hasn't. She's your best friend? Then be her best friend.
2006-10-16 13:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her let her know how you feel that you are glad an all but do want to talk about grown up stuff an other stuff thats all you can do really without hurting or rejecting her
2006-10-16 13:11:49 · answer #8 · answered by kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were her friend you would understand.Think it was easy for you and so hard for her she has earned the right to be baby crazy.You are obviously insensitive..
2006-10-16 14:36:23 · answer #9 · answered by plumcouch30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are her friend then you should understand her! maybe when you were pregnant you were the same way with her and you never drove her nuts and if you did she understood you and was your friend!
2006-10-16 13:07:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋