I am only 17. My boyfriend and i have been together all of our sophmore year of HS and currently now through our Junior Year. I know i am young adn i feel crazy for feeling this way but i can honestly see myself spending my life with him.
is this weird?
how many people out there actually marry there highschool sweethearts?
idk
lately ive just been thinking i'm jumping ahead of myself.
We've talked about how it would be amazing to be together when we are older so i think he feels the same.
2006-10-16 12:38:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
oh god no. i dont wanna get married now.
im just saying i can see this relationship lasting to eveuntaully a point of marriage.
i just wanted to know if this was way out of the realistic walls.
2006-10-16 12:54:09 · update #1
Its not weird. You are having natural feelings about a person you feel you are in love with. There is no age limit to those feelings. I can say however that you and him will grow and change a lot in the coming years. Many of my friends married their high school sweetheart. Two, stayed married for 5 years and got a divorce. They realized that they were two completely different people. The other two have been married to 10 years. Many people will say wait and don't rush into it... While I agree with that, I feel that a person needs to do what they want to do. There is no guarantee that a marriage will work if you date the other person for 2 years or 6 months or if you are 19 when you get married or 30... If you guys decide to get married at a young age (or later in life), my advice is to make a pact that you will never say the word divorce and that its not a option. That if things get rough, you both will do what needs to be done to preserve your marriage and the vows you took. Even if you guys end up going taking separate paths once you graduate, having a long term serious relationship at your age will help you in future relationships. Just enjoy being young and worry about the adult world of jobs, marriage, bills, and kids a little later. Take it from someone who knows. Good Luck!
2006-10-16 12:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The chances that this is the man you will be with forever are slim. I had a boyfriend all through high school and we also talked about marriage. I really thought that I had found the one. Well that turned into being a big NO shortly after we left the protected environment of High School. Trust me, when you get out in the real world and off to college or in the workplace you will either realize that Yes you are meant to be together or No, he is not for you. Don't do anything drastic in the meantime and like you said, don't get too ahead of yourself. Take things slow, keep your options open. You are very young, and one day you will realize just how young 17 is. Good luck to you. I think you know what is right from what you have said. You know you are too young and that things might seem rosy right now but things change. Just be smart about it and you will be fine. I was honest with myself and ended the relationship I had. I'm so happy I did because a few months later I met my future husband. =) We've been together for almost 3 years and are getting married in May. =) Hope you find what is right for you!
2006-10-16 15:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by blueeyedlovebug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's weird at all to think about that. Actually, I think that if a girl says she never thinks about getting married, then she'd be lying to you.
A lot of people stay with their high school sweethearts for many years, but a lot of those couples break up in college or just after, because things are so different than they were in high school.
I am still with my high school boyfriend. We have been together for more than four years (since my senior year). We did break up, but got back together soon afterwards. We were talking about getting married two years ago (planning to do it in July of this year), but then I got pregnant and we decided not to try and plan a wedding then, even though his mom and dad wanted us to move the date forward, so we'd be married when the baby came.
Now we are talking about maybe September of next year, but haven't set anything in stone yet.
2006-10-16 18:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till after college. You may feel differently. I was in the same situation, and as you get older you know more of what you want out of life. Don't get married too soon. Live life and do everything that you can. I am so glad that I waited to get married. I thought it was going to be with my high school sweetheart, but it wasn't. When we figured out what we wanted out of life, we figured that we wouldn't find it in each other.
2006-10-16 12:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by chellie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with day dreaming about being with someone forever.
not many people get married to their high school sweethearts.
i DID marry my high school sweetheart. we have been together for 8 years, and married almost 2.
you have to accept that the next few years bring a lot of change. (college, moving out of parents house, full time job and supporting yourself)
2006-10-17 03:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just depends on you. I married my highschool sweetheart 7 years ago. However...we had dated nearly 5 years and I was 20 when I got married. He may be the one but don't rush it too much!
2006-10-16 12:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you can see yourself with him for the rest of your life, now comes the hard part making that dream become a reality. and all it takes is a lot of work and time, It is great to make plans, just make sure they are obtainable and workable, plans are essential, education, short term , long term,marriage, children, family, work, vacation, illness, retirement. Things do not just happen, those are called accidents. Plans are thinking ahead and then working toward it. If you have a plan, you can make it happen Best of luck
2006-10-16 13:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met a guy my junior year of high school, we dated , broke up and got back together in college. I am now a junior in college and we have been living together for 2 years and are now discussing rings. It is hard and a lot of work, but yes it can work.
2006-10-16 14:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird to feel that way. I started dating this guy when I was in HS when I was 17. I remember on my 18th birthday I spent the whole day with him and that day I told him I would love to spend my whole life with him and he just smile, 5yrs later we got engage, a year later we got married and just two weeks ago we celebrated our first anniversary.
2006-10-16 13:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get married till after you turn 30. You would be amazed at the things that right now you find cute, Will bug the living daylights out of you later
2006-10-16 12:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by myothernewname 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋