i have recenty joined college as a freshman and my bf whom i have been dating since i was high school senior is also in the same college....he wants me to move into his apartment and tell my parent that i am living on campus.....i am so confused what should i do....how long did you girls wait before you moved into your bf's apartment
2006-10-16 12:25:29 · 8 answers · asked by Kelly D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kelly, best card is to stay where you are. Look around you. How many people are going through drama right now because they moved in with their significant other and the relationship just failed?
Here's a secret: When a female moves in with a male he will not take out the trash, wash a dish, do his laundry or utilize a garbage can. It is the great killer amongst many otherwise loving relationships. Let his space be his space. You go to yours when you need to. Go to his place. Have him to yours. Keep your checking account in your pocket. (Don't mix finances.)
Girl, you just got to college. When else in your life are you going to be a young adult, free, and single? Let this time be what it is. Love him madly, and then go home.
I dated my guy for 3 years. We've lived together for a year and a half since then. No garbage skills. Can't wash a pan. I do the groceries and the cooking. I can do this now because I am 48. I spent the last 7 years single in part to avoid exactly this. I am old enough now to want him in my life anyway. And I keep my mouth shut about it. It's taken me all my life to learn to do this. I know what it is about my man that I value. His housekeeping skills are not on the list. This ruins relationships. Play the Ace, dear, stay put.
2006-10-16 12:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't do it. You need to have that college experience being on your own and meeting people. I am not saying quit seeing him but do not miss out on living on your own or with new roommates especially your first year of college. In addition, do you really think it's a good idea to lie to your parents about something like that? ( I tried it and it was a really bad idea) What happens when they want to visit and see your place? Aren't they paying for an education? Besides if you're both at the same school, you can see plenty of each other whenever you want.
2006-10-16 12:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by jblonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in guys perspective, I would say hell no. you should never move in your bf apartment until you have known and gone out with him for 3 or 2 years. Beside if you do, your bf will have power and control over you and anything can happen to you. I don't think you are ready yet. Plus you can't get away from that lie because your parents may even come and visit and find you not in the dorms and you are screwed. So don't move in your bf apartment anything can happen. You don't want to take that chance yet.
2006-10-16 12:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a freshman aren't you living in the Dorm or Univ. housing?
You can lie to your parents if that is what you are comfortable doing but I strongly don't agree on that. If you parents are footing your college expenses you owe it to them to be a good student and living with your boyfriend will take away the interest of your studies. You will find yourself skipping classes and not keeping up because you will be playing house instead. Hold off for awhile and after you get thr the first year discuss it with your parents.
2006-10-16 12:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by oldone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOO!!!! Ooops, sorry. Let me try that again...
What I meant to type was maybe you should think about it. Seriously, college is the time when people have new experiences and go through big changes. You may come out of this time and still be a couple...but how sad would it be if you missed the chance to explore a whole new world b/c you were locked down in an apartment?
2006-10-16 12:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by yellowbugchickoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm telling you, you're going to ruin your college career if you end up "moving in and playing house" with your "boyfriend". Take it from somebody with plenty of experience making mistakes. Concentrate on your studies and you'll have plenty of time for a serious relationship later. People who "live together" are nothing but commitment phobes. He's never going to want it to go farther!!
2006-10-16 12:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree,with the first answer,besides what is he afraid?
2006-10-16 12:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by jose_valle76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll just be there for sexual purposes.
2006-10-16 12:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋