So im not sure if this is normal or not but it bothers me when my boyfriend looks at porn. i feel jealous. IDK and maybe im just being over dramatic. if someone could give me some insight id appreciate it. one of the big things that bother me about it is that its not like some porn sight of something. its Girls who have myspace's who post pictures of them selves naked and stuff like that.
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am i being paranoid?
2006-10-16 12:23:49 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i found out about a few months ago that he signed up for all these like adult chat sites and porn stuff. and i confronted him about it and i said it wasnt the fact that hes looking at it cuz i know guys do, but that i was upset cuz he wanted to talk to people. I felt like i wasn't enough. And now that i think about i should be. we are very err. "intimate."
i came across it on accident on his computer. he was mowing grass and i was on my friends myspace and i accidently x-d out
so i clicked on the history and selected the first myspace 'view images' cuz iwas looking at my friends new pics and it def was not my friensd page. some naked gurl with a dozen pictures. i looked in the rest of the history and there were 10 more myspace sites like that. idk.
2006-10-16 12:32:02 · update #1
how do i confront him about it? last time it wasnt pretty at all.
we both ended up crying and idk.
i get that im beign a bit dramatic. it still will bother me and i know guys look at porn. its just this myspace thing.
and the ot her nite i asked him if he still looked at porn online and he said not since the time we got into a fight. so i think its dumb that he lied cuz i caught him.
2006-10-16 12:35:22 · update #2
Men look at porn whether they are single or not. Don't worry about it too much unless he is spending 4 hours a day drooling over the terabyte of online porn that he's downloaded.
2006-10-16 12:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 05:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting a hard on from any hypothetical perverted fantasy is normal for guys I'm sorry to say. It really sucks I know. You're not being paranoid. I had an ex who looked up porn every minute of his life. But the thing is, is that some guys are like this and others aren't. And the older they get, the more they grow out of this phase. You just gotta ask yourself, "Am I willing to deal with this in our relationship or would I rather try something else?" I personally couldn't deal with it. I shouldn't have had to. And you don't either.
2006-10-16 12:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by aslgirl143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to feel a little bothered, it's more like you are feeling intimidated by the girls on myspace. Your guy is just like any other guy, he lusts after attractive females, especially ones that can be sexually expressive as those type of girls are. I think that it shouldn't be something that you let get to you unless you suspect that he is communicating with them constantly, or he has been known to be a cheater. I think that maybe you should talk to him about the way you feel. I think that it's just something guys do, but I probably wouldn't feel as threatened if I knew for sure that he wasn't trying to hook up with any of them. As long as he wants to be with you and only you, that's what matters.
2006-10-16 12:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by pumpk713 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are being paranoid. It's absolutely normal that it bothers you, but also normal that he's looking at porn in the first place! If you don't think your man is looking at porn, either you haven't caught him yet, or he's not normal in the first place? Why not try looking together? First off, it might just lead tosome very intimate moments, that YOU benefit from. And second, it allows you to explore your own sexuality together with him. You both learn about each other!
2006-10-16 12:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think looking at porn and looking at naked pics on myspace are very different. Guys are going to look at porn--that's a fact. Make sure he's not trying to hook up with any other girls on myspace...that is what you should worry about. If he just wants to look at naked pics then I wouldn't worry too much. That is what guys do.
2006-10-16 12:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being paranoid. It's called having boundaries. We all have different things that are ok with us. Porn bothers you. It's ok.
Keep in mind, men are visual creatures. Often they look at porn just to look at it. It doesn't necessarily mean anything, but you have the right to say it bothers you.
2006-10-16 12:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by yellowbugchickoh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your bf is looking at those myspace wh*ores, than yah- I would be bothered too. But just LOOKING is okay, touching is a different issue.
But if it's just regular porn, I don'think you should worry too much about it. Guys are guys.........maybe you can try watching it with him sometimes- it might not be as bad as you think.
2006-10-16 12:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, its totally normal for it to bother you...I am very curious myself, and always ask my Boyfriend all kinds of questions about why they do certain things...this one is on my top 10. Why watch porn?- the answer is mostly that they are curious about how other men do it, and about how different women react to different things. . .its not only a way for them to get horny, but it's also a way for them to learn more about the way we are. . .I hope this helped, see ya!!!
~*~Marisela~*~
2006-10-16 12:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Marisela S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMON SENSE dictates that you are getting upset to the extent of how you feel about your own body and sexuality. the more insecure that you are about yourself then the more you will feel jealous and threatened by others. Yes even computer pictures of women he will never even meet.
2006-10-16 12:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by tripsnpig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋