Ok. so I just recently got out of a relationship. I was with this guy for a very long time off and on since i was 7 he was my first love, first bf, first guy i ever kissed... so pretty much my first everything...and he cheated on me and lied to me but i still love him and we are friends but i sometimes want to get back with him even thou i know he did me wrong...how do i stop loving him??
2006-10-16 12:15:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and like... when i need someone to talk to i can call him up and he is the only one to cheer me up when im having a bad day which makes me want him back more than ever!!!
2006-10-16 12:29:00 · update #1
It is pretty obvious you are hurt but do not mistaken this with love. He did you wrong after sharing so many moments together so obviously something else was more important to him. Time does not heal ALL wounds but it heals most. Find a new hobby or something to keep your mind busy. Another suggestion is to find something that makes you feel better about you like working out, sports, etc. Part of what you feel is self-doubt. You wonder if it is your fault. Odds are it is not but you still question yourself. After all you did not cheat on him nor did you lie. You want the good feelings back that you shared with him but realize you cannot erase what he has done and it will haunt you always. Move on to someone that appreciates you and makes you feel good about you.
2006-10-16 12:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by bulletman92002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To stop loving him, distract yourself with things you like to do. See everything that is bad about him, and know that cheating (and getting caught) is terrible. Laughter is the best medicine. Find some friends and go out. When ready (emotionally), find a new guy, or that new guy might find you (isn't this exciting?).
2006-10-16 19:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by DN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time may help you stop loving him. In the meantime, think about why it is you are attracted to a guy who doesn't respect and honor you. What is it you need from a guy?
2006-10-16 19:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all don't let him use you any more, your better then that. and you don't simply fall out of love it's more like growing out of love. yeah there will be days when you miss him terribly, but eventually he won't cross your mind. break ups are hard but you'll make it through
2006-10-16 19:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with your girlfriends and replace him with a non-cheating, non-liar
2006-10-16 19:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't really FORCE yourself to stop loving someone.. it just takes time
2006-10-16 19:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by Well i Say.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rebound with a new dude.
2006-10-16 19:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋