her dad was very violent to me and she seen some terrible things but ive been away from the creep for 7 years,she dreams that ive died and its always horrific ways,is this her past appearing?
2006-10-16 12:13:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
have you taken the poor darling to get help. they say it good to talk . i hope she not still seeing him as this could make her have flash backs.
I hope alls well very very soon for her and yourself.the very best of luck to you both xxxxxxxx
2006-10-16 12:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by keith0866 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, I'm sorry to hear that. I'm 24, and had a really WEIRD childhood, and the emotional problems due to past experiences are only beginning to surface now.
I find what helps me is exercise and friendship. Working out helps me fall asleep, and stay asleep through the night. Get her involved in some sort of team sport -- softball, football, etc. I recommend steering clear of gymnastics since, first of all, it's not much of a team sport, and gymnastics coaches can make little girls feel very insecure. I struggled with my weight -- size zero pants falling, still thought I was "too fat" -- for many years due to gymnastics and dance, and it sounds like that needs to be the least of her worries right now.
Anyway, a team sport will allow her the exercise and opportunity to build friendships and learn how to utilize her own "support group" at an early age. And rewarding her after each practice or game -- a trip out for an ice cream, for example -- lets her know that the days she plays belong to HER. : )
Don't worry about the negative just yet. Start working on some positive activities and, when she's ready, she'll start talking to you about it.
Good luck.
2006-10-16 12:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say for sure that her dreams are caused by the past. It is clear that your daughter is afraid for you in some way and obviously thinks the world of you if she is this concerned.
Talk to her about everything. Make sure that she knows you will always be there and that you are not in danger. Maybe there is some kind of issue with you going away - perhaps you could spend more time with her to make sure she feels that you are safe and near by.
I hope that your daugher stops having these dreams.
2006-10-16 12:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by monkeymanelvis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs lots of love and reassurance. To know you will always be there for her. Explain to her he was a bad man and you will not let anyone like him into your or her life ever again. That we all make mistakes in our lives and that was one you made. Tell her how much you love her. When she asks questions try to explain what you fell for with that man, explain he was nice to you, or frightened you? say you wish you had had someone to talk too about your problems. That if you had talked about it the violent thing would not have happened. That she can tell you anything and everything. BE THERE FOR HER. God bless you and her. You will both work it out and be happy. My thoughts are with you. Good luck with your future.
2006-10-16 12:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by linloue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like post traumatic stress - the dream is a fear of losing you as you are her 'secure blanket' . Read your first attempt on this question and i suggest trying therapist again now as it may help as she is older and may be able to explain more fully. This may take a lot of time to trust and open up. But yes it is prob. her fears sub-conciously emerging. These fears normally emerge when a person feels 'safe' again - hence with your 'ex' being now out of the pic.
I know how it feels to worry about your child when they are troubled.......and you are doing a great job by being a caring and loving mum. Good luck to you and your baby!
2006-10-16 13:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya, You have not said how old she is, if she is under 5 then it could be night terrors, and she will grow out of them, if she is older but under 10, make sure she is relaxed before bedtime like having a bath, warm milky drink and read her a story.if she is older then speakto her and ask if she is worried about anything like maybe bullying etc, i hope she stops the nightmares soon as they are horrible, don't necessarily blame your past and what she saw, she now is happy with you and feels protected by you.
2006-10-16 12:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by deborahrumbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor thing. i grew up this way. i expressed it wrong too. at least your a good mommy to look into this matter. i wish i had someone to talk to that wouldnt judge me(like a family member). maybe her doc can talk to her in private, and he could recommend which type of therepist needs to see her. wish her luck
2006-10-16 12:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by Yak-Yak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is? when things like that happen to parents children hates to see it happpen because the love they have for you.and for her to see her dad being violent to you she might not want to grow up in the same disaster
2006-10-16 12:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by deelishious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when people eat late in the night this can cause them to have bad dreams so don't let her eat late this may help.
2006-10-16 13:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by sh04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres probably something she needs to talk to you about but doesnt realy know how to tell you so all that is building up on her and giving her bad dreams
2006-10-16 12:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by cali green 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋