So I think I have a problem. I don't know how to explain it, or where to start. Um I guess what happens is I'll like a guy, and a lot of times, he'll like me back, but then I think of us being "close" not to the point of sex or anything, but making out or "getting close". And when I think about it, I get really nervous, and almost scared and so I don't want to date a guy because I'm afraid if we get close, I'm going to resist and wind up embarrassing myself. It's happened with every single guy.
And I've had few boyfriends, but with them, I really didn't do anything, I just hung out. And I've been kissed before (not by a boyfriend) and I think I sucked just because I was nervous.
So anyone out there that feels the same way? And is there anything at all that I can do? PLEASE help. I really need it. I think I just have a problem.
PS - I dont know if this will help, but I'm 16.
2006-10-16 12:11:46 · 13 answers · asked by Ashley S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its because your still young yet, you gotta go through the nervous stage frist. we all go through it if we want to admitt it or not. its hard to relax and i understand how you feel, but you will get past it. you need to keep telling yourself to relax around these guys, and dont focus on what you think will happen but just take it second by second and focus on what is happening right that moment. pretend your acting, pretend your a actress for years now and in your script your about to kiss this guy, and this guy has no idea on how to kiss its his first time, so your going to have to just take it slow so he wont be overwealmed. It will work out much better and calm your nerves alot more. Dont worry you will get past this stage, but for you to do that you gotta try to get close to guys frist, these guys will just be practice for your future man, i am sure these guys wont be the one yet seeing as your only 16. So just learn from them, they will show you how to kiss, and other things (not sex). but will make you more comfortable around them.
2006-10-16 12:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
been on the other side of that numerous times and ive been nervous alot myself.. biggest advise RELAX!! The first few times you get close or more, yes you will be nervous and odd things will happen. Its just all part of the growing experience. Just take things slowly and at your pace. Dont every let anyone make you go faster or farther than you want to go. But when you do decide to go farther just be safe. Again.. just relax, take a deep breath and dont worry. The awkard nose bumping, teeth knocking, head-butting will all happen. Just let it happen and laugh afterwards. Its all for the better, as long as you are having fun and enjoying yourself.
2006-10-16 12:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by notsoperfectgentleman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl trust me i felt that way many of times but when it comes down to it if the guy likes u soo much and (since u never kissed anyone before he can teach u) and being close to someone is always hard and it's kind of an awkward pd but as ur relationship builds up u will get more comfortable. But seriously don't be nervous he may just be as nervous as u so take it slow and if he respects u he should understand and willing to help u step by step...
Don't worry........ It'll be okay!!!
2006-10-16 12:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first relax thats noraml to be nervous thats really a good thing.when ur body and mind and emotions are ready theyll let u know. ull be fine ,untill then dont do anything u might regret cuz if u think u might the chances are u will.
2006-10-16 12:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by laase12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide how far you're willing to go ahead of time, and simply follow your plan. For instance, if hugging and kissing are alright, but sex isn't, and he starts to unbutton your shirt, back up, re-button the shirt, say, "Don't do that", and put your arms around him again. If he does it again, leave.
2006-10-16 12:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by Allen Montgomery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set your limits and stand your ground.You should date to get to know each other and have fun,not just for sex.You are still young and guess what as you get older it will get easier , but it will always be awkward until you find someone that means more to you.
2006-10-16 12:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is scared... even if he won't admit it. It never works out perfectly, you may embarrass your self, but so what. It happens.
2006-10-16 12:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by dark.axxo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax-Only do what you feel comfortable with. If he is the right guy he will understand and not pressure you.
2006-10-16 12:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well youmust like him , but I don't know if you should gohead on this realtioship.start out as friend.You don't want to get in trouble if you do get an urge!
2006-10-16 12:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really like the guy and he really likes you it wont matter to him if you don't kiss him good and don't get nervous. why should you feel intimidated?
2006-10-16 12:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋