I am caucasion, and my boyfriend is african american. We have been dating for 1 year now, and everything is good. I am his first white girlfriend, but I have always dated black men. I have started to notice certain things about him. I found a box of pornos in his closet, but they were all of black women. Also, he makes comments about my 'flat white booty' and that white girls don't have sexy bodies like black girls. When we go out, everytime a black girl walks by, he stares and makes comments under his breath. If we have an argument, he always says stupid stuff like ' if i leave you, i'll go get a sista'. Why is he interested in the exact opposite of what I am? I really care for him, but deep down I feel insecure. Why does he do this?
2006-10-16 11:56:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You feel insecure for a reason. The reason is that he doesn't respect and honor you. If he did, he wouldn't try to make you feel bad. Somehow, making you feel bad makes him feel good. Apparently, he's interested in the exact opposite of what you are because the exact opposite of you interests him. Do you get the message yet? Require guys to respect and honor you.
2006-10-16 12:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend, no matter what his color or yours, shouldn't be making you feel like your body is inferior, and he shouldn't be staring and making comments about other women (of any color). It's beyond rude - he's a jerk.
Why is he doing it? To make you feel so inferior and undesirable that you will stay with him and put up with anythign he does because you're afraid that no one else will want you. Which is a load of crapola. He probably sees you as a status symbol instead of as a person - something that makes him seem cool to other guys.
Well, he's an idiot my dear, and you should dump him asap. You are just as sexy as another other woman out there, and there are plenty of men who desire you just as you are. So go get yourself a decent man - and ity the sister who gets stuck with this manipulative jerk!
2006-10-16 19:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's telling you that he can do better.
If he cared a damn bit about you, he wouldn't throw the sistas in your face. If he liked, truly liked, your body, he wouldnt complain about your lack of 'ghetto-a*s' or curves 'like tha sistas'
Is he with you because he enjoys YOU, or because it makes him special cuz he's with a white girl?
If he's throwing you this cr@p, he aint happy with you.
Go find a man who loves you for YOU, not cuz he can talk about the whitetail in the locker room.
2006-10-16 19:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by George Curious 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he says things like "If I leave you..." and ogles other girls, no wonder you feel insecure. It seems like to him the relationship is a casual one and you two are looking for different things.
2006-10-16 19:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by musiclover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is just a guy. sounds like he doesn't really know what he wants in a girl right now. I would just find a different guy you will be better off. you might not like it but you will be less hurt in the end.
good luck
2006-10-16 19:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he loves you...he just take advantage of your body, I'm sorry to say that...forget him and move on, you need someone who loves you because who you are...
2006-10-16 19:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by betty n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than that horsesh*t.
Dump him. Dump him now.
2006-10-16 19:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by Calculus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt love you, ditch him.
if he really loves you, he wouldnt be so shallow.
and, he wouldnt stare at other girls when you're around.
2006-10-16 18:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋