My boyfriend,we just started going out a little while ago and we don't know each other to well but he's like punkish and all..he just said this ::::::: "you obviously dont condone it but self-harm in some forms is 'alright' with you right?" ..............what exactly does he mean by that?? i mean i know he used to cut himself and all but he told me he's over that its his past....What does he mean? I don't understand it?
im talking to him on msn and he just said "a needle(like...for obtaining blood samples)but only the bottom and the needle part." whats that mean?? What is he talking about? I dont get it?
2006-10-16 11:36:46 · 12 answers · asked by Kelsey's Mommy<3 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's using the bottom of the needle, the point, to cut or scratch himself. You said that cutting is in his past, that means that he want to get over his cutting addiction, but when you cut it takes a very long time to quit, and you cant just stop completely, you have to just slow it down. Like, while I was trying to stop, I couldnt just "stop" I had to lower it down to a few cuts a day, then a few a week, then i got rid of eveything sharp in my room and stuck with rubber bands (snapping them on my wrist) He's in the process of quiting, just have some patience in him and make sure he doesn't do anything extreme. Let hom know that there are other ways besides cutting that he can do to release his anger.
-rubber bands
-drawing a line on his wrist with a red marker or fake blood
-put a bandaid someowhere on his body and cut that instead.(it feels just like skin)
-drawing/writting/poetry
-running/swimming/sports
there are a lot of things he can do that wont harm him,but can make him feel good as well. Just...when you're around him, make him happy, it'll keep him from being depressed.
2006-10-16 11:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please, listen to what I have to say. It may be the difference between your well being or your pain and suffering.
I don't even know you and I fear for you extremely already.
He is telling you that it's ok for you to hurt yourself. To cut or do drugs.
Do you believe this is right?
Do you think he should be telling you to harm yourself?
Does this sound like love?
NO, I am sorry but it is not, it can and will become torture.
Please, from my heart, do not listen to him.
Break up with him before you get hurt---by him or by yourself.
If you still feel threatened, tell a family member, a friend, or tell the authorities. You can take out a restraining order on him if you feel that this is nessacary.
Don't let him get to you. DO NOT let him break you.
I hope this helps you. I really do. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-10-16 18:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ily♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is still into cutting himself and into drugs. Do yourself a favor and stop seeing this guy. He sounds like has a lot of issues that he needs to deal with and it's not something you can help him with. He needs to get some professional help if he is doing these things. You don't want to get caught up in his drama. You deserve so much more. Good luck!
2006-10-16 18:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run Run Run this boy has some issues. There are people who find pleasure in hurting themselves which you would think why would they do that right makes no sense to me either kinda is a little weird if you ask me.
2006-10-16 18:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice which you will probably not take is to stop seeing this guy.
He's got some issues and it sounds like he wants you to be a part of that with him.
Since you haven't been going out with him very long....it'll be easier to leave now.
2006-10-16 18:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a hot rock and tell him in a loving way that he need to seek therapy. He's into things that you need not to be around.
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2006-10-16 18:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by phoenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though this young man needs help you cannot give to him, Now my question to you is how much drama are you willing to endure during this relationship?
2006-10-16 18:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by mtd29485 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a total freak-show, a woo woo type run like hell away from this creep, he might be a druggie and a self mutilator
2006-10-16 18:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by I-C-U 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
time to break up with the b/f
2006-10-16 18:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. If you stay, you won't be happy.
2006-10-16 18:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by elzbth16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋