Ok. my mom is black. She loves men of all races. She says not africans when it comes to relationships though. She thinks they arent clean. And they are too dark. But she would date a black jamaican over a straight from africa black guy. Is this wrong of her? I told her it isnt right. This african guy is so nice to her, and he's always leaving stuff for her. But she gets disgusted of the fact that he likes her. I feel bad for him.
My mom is mixed with german so idk. Maybe thats why folks. ;-)
2006-10-16 11:36:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
I don't think your mom should stereotype Africans and I don't think you should stereotype Germans.
2006-10-18 04:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure your mom can't help who she's attracted to, but to x a guy just because of his nationality isn't so good an idea; what if she finds out later some of her background is from africa? I mean, I'm white as white can be to look at, and my dad and brother could pass as black...and there are mixed races all over my background! So you never know what's back there...and it can't hurt you, it only makes you who you are. I hope she'll lighten up on the african guy, he sounds like a sweetie. But, if she really doesn't like him, for him, he's wasting her time and his...oh, and, there are jamaicans who aren't so clean either, I've met some of them!
2006-10-16 18:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well may be ur mum has some bad experiance with africans, so what difference does it make to go out with a black jamaican, a black indian but not africans. Sit n talk to her mayb she'll tell u when the time is right.
2006-10-16 18:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by harry d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is entitled to their preferences. Just because your mom is black, doesn't mean she has to find a very dark-complected black man attractive. Jamaicans tend to be lighter-complected because of more mix in their ancestry. Also, bear in mind that people of different countries have different standards of personal hygiene. It is, however, okay to feel badly for a good man whose affection is not reciprocated.
2006-10-16 18:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by Sels 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No.
Yes, because we shouldn't discriminate based on race or religion (or nationality!) No, because your mum has the right to choose whoever she wants to be with.
Don't worry, it's probably your mum has no chemistry with this nice African. If and when she falls in love, I don't think she'd be bothered if he's from Mars!
2006-10-17 00:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by MyQute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is old enough to know what she is and is not physically attracted to. The real issue is not whether she prefers one color over another, which is simply taste, but whether she has a pattern of dating men who do not treat her well. If not, then don't worry about it, and let her have her preferences. A lot of women get uncomfortable with men who treat them well, though, if they are used to being abused and hurt, and make a habit of always choosing men who are wrong for them. If this is the case, then you are right to be concerned. These patterns are hard to break.
You sound intelligent enough to know which is the case.
2006-10-16 20:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by Hauntedfox 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let yer Mom be.. no matter her biases, maybe she just needs time to see the world in a different way. There are no rights or wrongs in her thinking , just a life time of experience and you really will never truly know where your Mom has been in life. Let her be and let her learn her own life's lessons... there is a point in our lives when we become the "parent" to our "parent", and we have to let them go and not be too judgemental of the mistakes that they are making.
2006-10-16 19:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by moejaymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it is wrong or not, it is how your mom feels. It's none of anyone's business who she chooses to date or be in a relationship with. How can anyone of us account for what is attractive to us? It's her business, I think you should let her figure out whom she wants to be with :)
2006-10-17 09:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by JaneDivided 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mothers choice in men will not be determined by color of skin only. WHen you grow up, you will understand that the choice of who to date is all determined by something very fickle called preference, and there is nothing that explains that.
2006-10-16 18:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, this is wrong. If she feels this way she shouldn't be conveying it to anyone but herself and she may not be racisist but it sounds like she is or it comes across that way. Talk to your mom and ask her the tough questions that get her thinking. Tell her it makes u unhappy to see her do this.
2006-10-16 18:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋