I came to his house without telling him that I know where he lives. He wrote me email said he doesn't like stalkers, goodbye...I did it because I was frustrated when he kept cancelling the date, and more important that I missed him so much...I really love him...He didn't open the door to see me. I was outside in a cold, wet weather for almost 3hrs, but I knew there was my mistake, please tell me what should I do? Should I ask him to forgive me whatever I did because I just want to follow my heart saying...But actually, is he not interesting in me anymore because of the situation? I greatly appreciate all your advices and ideas...Thanks a lots...
2006-10-16 11:34:19 · 18 answers · asked by betty n 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, he did break up with you because of this situation. The best thing you can do is talk to him or e-mail him and apologize for what you did. Tell him that you were frustrated when he kept canceling the dates. Tell him you missed him a lot. Actually, tell him everything that you mentioned above. And let him know, that these were the reasons why you went over to his place. You didn't mean to stalk him or harm him in any way.
If he doesn't accept your apology, don't be sad. Maybe you can go ahead and ask him if he still wants to be friends. And hopefully you both can rebuild your relationship from there.
2006-10-16 11:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Betty, it does sound a bit creepy... this waiting around the cold rain for 3 hours. I'd back off and give him some space. Don't stalk him like that -- he cancelled the date. That should be the end of it. He must not feel the same toward you that you feel toward him. Sorry but you should just move on. Try not to fixate on this One Person so much -- you will be happier for it. Good luck.
2006-10-16 11:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by Shibi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, how is it that you think you are this guys real girlfriend if he didnt let you know where he lived??? That's just crazy! He was doing nothing but playing games with you and you let him, im sorry to say. If i were you i would move on quick, this sounds like nothing but an extremely disfunctional "relationship" (he sounds crazy and you sound obsessive, sorry to say) that no good can come out of. And if his actions say anything, it is that this man is a crazy, selfish, inconsiderate jerk and will not be changing his ways anytime soon or ever. Not worth anyones time. I hope you can realize this...
2006-10-16 11:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Curiosity killed the cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This whole situation is text book "take a hint" material. He isn't into you. Take the hint. Do yourself a favor and leave this guy alone. Oh, and by the way, if you came by unannounced to his place where he didn't even tell you was, and was willing to stand outside for three hours, its gonna come off to most guys as being extremely clingy at the least and its gonna turn them off.
2006-10-16 11:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you think if someone was outside for 3 hours? You are obsessed and need to stay away from this kid. You may end up known as the psycho stalker chick.
2006-10-16 11:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by jimbobb1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend you need a reality check this fool let you stand out in the cold and rain for 3 hrs oh and he does not like stalkers....stop your whinning he is doing some one else my friend are you that stupid and you want to apologise to this low life ,,what is wrong with you ..you need some growing up and you need to wake up..get real are you brainless ..sureilll
2006-10-16 11:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first off...u need to tell him how u feel...second off he shouldn't be the one breaking up with u u should be the one breaking up with him...obviously he cancelled it bc he isnt interested anymore and it happens...u need to just let him go...to me he sounds like a jerk if he tells u he doesn't like stalkers goodbye that's a hint that he doesn't like u in that way anymore...he probably thought that u were invading his space...just try talking to him and is he doesn't listen just get rid of him he's just another jerk...don worry there is plenty out there and u have ur whole life ahead of u so don sweat it...ignore him if he wants u he will come runnin and care enough to talk to u about it and try solve the situation...if he don then he ain't worth it...
2006-10-16 11:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he broke up with you ... you should never go to a guys house unless you are invited, he has the right to think your stalker if you didn't leave for over 3 hrs.
next time you miss someone call them or email them, don't show up uninvited and/or be so clingy ... you need to be self assured and your own person
2006-10-16 11:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He wrote me email said he doesn't like stalkers, goodbye..."
um...yah. that kinda means he broke up with you.
if u really love him, ask him for forgiveness (im just surprized u didnt ask b4...). in any case, let him cool down. who knows? maybe he is ashamed of his family. just talk to him and tell him u love him for who he is. if he doesn't love u anymore, just move on. there are other fishies in the sea. |>( '.') <---(fishy says hi!)
2006-10-16 11:41:20 · answer #9 · answered by Jesus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its your fault if he kept standing you up for the dates. He is a punk, espeacially to leave you out in the cold for 3 hours. Let him go.
2006-10-16 11:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by artzonesigns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋