My daughters stepmother of 17 years died this morning from complications after a lap band procedure. She was a wonderful stepmother and although we had our moments I am very upset to put it mildly. We did proms togeather and graduations etc.. Should I go to the funeral or do you think it would make everyone uncomfortable?? I want her family to know how much I admired her and how special she was because she was soooo good to my daughter. What do you all think?
2006-10-16 10:24:59 · 9 answers · asked by GI 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Go...and don't mind what other people think, you are doing it for HER and for YOU.
In the case that someone gets upset for your presence then peacefully leave so you don't cause a scene. But you vhave every right to go and grieve.
2006-10-16 11:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by hollygirl23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. Extended step-families have become the norm these days, and when they can all get along the children benefit. Not only will your attendance show respect for your daughter's stepmother, this will also be a beautiful example for your daughter of acceptance and forgiveness in family relationships. Besides, your daughter will need all the emotional support she can get on this difficult day.
2006-10-16 20:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by Fogjazz49-Retired 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask the family - her husband (your ex, I assume?), your daughter and any other direct family members. If they are OK, then go and show your respects. If they're not OK, you can always send flowers or make a donation. Either way, you showed thoughtfulness and caring in their time of sorrow.
2006-10-16 18:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by Stef 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your daughter if she has a preference.
If she does not, GO, since you are paying respect to the wonderful person. Your demeanor will make it clear that you come with respect, and mean no harm.
2006-10-16 17:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by Silvana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask your daughter how she feels and if she wants you there, you should go. If your not wanted at the funeral, at least visit during viewing hours.
2006-10-16 23:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go as well. Share what you have said w/ her family...I am sure that it will mean a lot to them.
2006-10-16 23:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definitely go if you feel she was a special person, regardless of what anyone else may think (about you).
2006-10-16 17:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lilah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should know how her family feels about you.
2006-10-17 12:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely go. i dont think it would be disturbing to them, it would actually be disturbing if you didn't go.
2006-10-16 17:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋