My 2 year old daughter has started throwing tantrums and saying no to everything we tell her. What can I do before it gets out of hand, and NO I DON'T WANT TO BEAT HER OR THROW HER IN A CLOSET. Is she to young for time outs?
2006-10-16 10:15:40 · 14 answers · asked by yomama h 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
In my opinion, no she is not young for time-outs. Actually now is a great time to start laying out your rules & consequences to her! You're headline is correct - she is testing her waters. She is starting to learn that with everything she does, there is a consequence, so she's testing you out. As hard as it seems, please try to keep your patience (the best you can, I know it's hard hehe) because she can sense your anger, nervousness, anxiety, and it has some-what of an effect on her!
Make sure you stay consistent with the rules and consequences so she doesnt get the idea that if she does it once, and gets in trouble, the second time nothing happened, so she can do it again.
Good luck mama!!! (and if you need anybody to talk to, I'm willing to chat with you and help you out!)
2006-10-16 10:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a two year old son who is doing the exact same thing. They are too young for time-out because they don't really understand the concept. We can't spank them over everything because they will then become immune to it. Spank her depending on what she is saying no to. When she throws a tantrum, ignore her. As long as she knows that she can get your attention by doing that, she will. When she realizes that you are not paying her any attention, she will stop. Also, take away something she loves, and see how that works. I hope this helps.
2006-10-16 10:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, throwing your child in a closet or beating them in a burlap bag is uncalled for, but at the same time, kids can tell if you're not being sincere when you put them in a corner to get them out of your hair. You don't have to hit her to be firm with her. Hold your ground, don't give in to her. If she throws a tantrum in the store, leave. If she does it at home, finding a quiet spot, even the couch with no tv so you can keep your eye on her, to put her might work. Either way, she needs to know you're the boss, not her.
I never was allowed to have toys in my room (okay, we had space that I had a separate play room) because my parents figured if they were going to send me to my room, it should be a punishment, not unsupervised play time.
2006-10-16 10:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by desiderio 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a friend who has this small chair. It has a small timer on it and it's painted chlid friendly. When she doesn't listen then use the chair. If she still doesn't listen threaten her in a soft motherly voice with things like not getting to go on trips with her.. or getting gifts... having a play time... just about anything will work with that. Try not to use a "mean voice" but a stern voice.
2006-10-16 11:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't give her the attention she is crying for. Try to ignore her. If that doesn't work make her sit on your lap until she calms down. Also you can divert her attention to something else. She is too young now, but I used to give myself a timeout by going to my room and they were not allow to bother me for 15 minutes. They hated the isolation and could not stand it when I was upset with them. This worked really well for the ages of 6 to 10.
2006-10-16 10:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
time outs dont work ignoe this behaviour she is seekin attention dont give it too her or she will keep it up, if she doesnt get what she wants she will soon learn this doesnt work and try something else this is what I have started and it seems to work if she wants something like a glass of milk make her say milk please rather than screw a horriffic sound do it every time and within 3 days she will know she has to ask and not scream
2006-10-16 10:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by Brandi D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not too young for time outs. She doesn't have a long attention span though so make them short.
2006-10-16 10:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, time outs are a horrible way to discipline a child. They teach nothing but defiance. They isolate the child as well which is a terrible way to discipline.
Second, when you say "no I don't want to beat her" I'm assuming you mean "I don't want to spank her". Spanking is not beating--it is giving her a swat on the butt (which it sounds like she needs one) and getting her attention.
As for tantrums though, you need to ignore them. She is doing it for attention and any sort of attention you give her will be showing her they are okay whether you are disciplining her or not---it's still attention and it's still letting her win.
2006-10-16 10:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
well, i spank my daughter, i dont "beat" her. we spank her butt, or her hand. does she say no when u tell her something to do, or when u say no to something she requests? if its when u say no to her, than it sounds like shes spoiled (dont get affended, mines a little spoiled too) but if shes being out of control, like throwing temper tantrums, than thats going too far. every parent is different if u dont beleive in spanking her butt, than try her hand. i spank my daughter, with her pants ON. some ppl spank bare bottoms, not me. thats a little too wrong. theres nothing wrong with spanking, it sounds to me like thats what she needs. shes not going to turn out bad, i didnt, and my mom spanked me, not beat me, just spanked. im happy. well good luck. and i hope u find something that works out best for u.
2006-10-16 13:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
timeouts work wonders for some kids and others they don't whatever you do be consistent don't tell her u r going to do something and then not do it. 2 minutes tops in time out then talk to her about why u put her in timeout
2006-10-16 11:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋