I only drink 2-3 times/month. I'm a very responsible 30 year old father of 3 (recently divorced) and 95% of my time is spent raising my 3 daughters or working. However, when I go out I seem to drink to the point of near blackout or total blackout (depending on who I'm with). It's like I can't feel the affects of the alcohol until I'm way over the top. Somehow I manage to make it through the night safely but God only knows how I got from place to place or what I spent my money on. Would like to hear of some similar cases or some advice from a counselor or someone in a similar position.
2006-10-16 10:06:29 · 12 answers · asked by okitodd 2 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
I am in no way phisically addicted to alcohol. I do not "crave" it just for its effects. I don't drink unless I'm out socially with friends/girlfriend, etc.
2006-10-16 10:13:25 · update #1
Okitodd!
Ya know, even many, many alcoholics are not addicted physically to alcohol!
People that are alcoholics, just don't have the power over it to control how much they consume when they do frink! The alcohol controls them.
If you are drinking to the point you mention EACH time you drink, then yes, you have a problem guy...
Do you normally just have a drink or two then stop? Or is it each time, EVEN if only 2-3 times a month!
It's not ALWAYS a case of how often, it's losing your ability to be in control of how much alcohol you consume.
That's why Alcoholics that are either in recovery, or dry, say, they were/are powerless.
I hope that this resolves for you and does not continue, as you have those little girls to think of!
ANYTIME you are not sure in the morning what you did, where you went, or where your money went, harsh truth, that is a problem for sure.
IF you are that wasted, you could put yourself in huge danger, both with the law, and physically.
Get it together my friend!
Good luck to you
2006-10-16 10:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by Been there! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have problems when you drink, you have a problem. It might not be that you are an alcoholic, but not knowing what happened is bad news and is a sign that something really bad is going to happen eventually.
Just slow down. Having 4 or 5 a couple of times a month wouldn't be a big deal.
2006-10-16 21:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing with me, especially when with family. My girlfriend of a couple years dumped me and then I realized that I needed to straighten up. In the last month I have been carefully monitoring my consumption of alcohol especially when I go out, usually once per weekend, and I have found that I either don't even get a buzz or wind up back in the same barrel, I am hoping as probably you are also that I can find a happy medium and I seem to be getting closer every time. Thank GOD is right, I don't know how I made it through some of those nights, when I think back it actually scares me.
2006-10-16 17:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by burnemwill 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like (to me) that maybe you've been through a little bit of stress recently: divorce, single dad now... AND it also sounds as if you are getting a little more freedom than before (since you are going out now). I used to only drink a couple of times a month, the same as you, until I blacked out. I was doing it because subconciously I was REALLY stressed out at home. I didn't think anything about it until after I snuck over to neighbor's Christmas party and they left me passed out in my own vomit on my front porch. Although I am a social drinker, I have no self control when it comes to drinking. It's a vice. I would say stay away from situations that would allow you to drink like that. Telll your friends that you are going to be dry and ask for their support: don't offer to buy me drinks, don't let me bring my credit card into the bar. Offer to DD for them also. You will still have a good time, save some taxi fare, and hang out with your buddies.
I really don't think that you have a drinking problem.... unless it's running over to your home life and taking its toll there. I think that it could turn into a drinkning problem if you don't display some self control.
Try to do things to lessen the stress in your life. Remember that your ex-wife will always be in your life even though it's no longer romantically. Your girls need you also. Think of them when you drink. If you think that you need a drink, call a pal (or your girlfriend) and tell her what's going on.
You may want to try AA anyway. it's a good support group.
Best of luck to you!
2006-10-16 17:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by Summer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow were basically the exact same story except i have 2 boys and a daughter,i rarely go out as well but i can still party with the rest of them,lol, ok heres what you do,take a limited amount of cash,say 50 bucks,leave the atm card and all the credit/debit cards at home,only take your i.d with you.i dont know where you live but here 50 bucks gets you drunk (not blacking out,but a bit above buzzed)a couple of drinks for a cute girl and a cab home.but yeah part of what could be going on is that your going out and drinking like you used to before kids before marriage because you think you still can,lol,i did the exact same thing after my divorce,it was the hang-overs that broke me down,im 36 now and i just cant take losing a day to a wicked hang over.
2006-10-16 20:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by seth s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happens to me, I am not one to have 1 or 2 I when I do drink have to drink to feel the total effects, blackouts and all, sometimes with not so good results beating up Friends saying things not meant, so...I now learned after all these years to limit myself to three drinks and excuse myself for some reason and just keep my kids on my mind in order to keep to it
2006-10-16 17:28:14 · answer #6 · answered by kustomflames@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to slow down when you drink. Try having only one drink every half hour or hour. It sounds like you are pounding the drinks and then by the time the alcohol is thru your system you are past the point of return.
2006-10-16 17:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well you must drink quite a bit when you go out. so my advice is this....limit your intake of alcoholic beverages. or drink them slowly. it seems that your drinking them so fast that they all hit you at once. so being that your a guy you can drink a lot more than i can personally, but really the only thing to prevent this is to either slow your drinking down or limit your intake.
2006-10-16 17:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by taceysay02@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do an experiment:
Keep track of hoe many "drinks" it takes you to "blackout" you might have to do this very slowly. When you do find out, do not exceed this point.
2006-10-16 17:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IT IS FINE TO DRINK BUT YOU MUST KNOW HOW TO CONTROL IT.
THINK OF YOUR DAUGHTERS.
DONT DRINK AND DRIVE.
JUST SLOW DOWN .
FIND A NEW WIFE.
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-16 17:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋