So I told this girl, a friend that I've liked for over three years, that I really liked her today. I asked her to a concert and she said yes, but then had to back out because of family reasons. She has been on my mind to a point where it might be unhealthy.
I told her everything today; how I've been crazy about her since i saw her, how I think she's the most beautiful, sweetest, kindest, most caring person in the world. She just perfect.
Although she was sweet about it, she doesn't want to have a relationship right now. She said it wasn't because of me, but because she said that she doesn't fully know who she is right now. She also said that she doesn't fully know whjo she is right now.
I understand what's she saying, but it still hurts. It hurts to a point where I don't feel like doing anything. She is so perfect and it's killing me that I can't be with her...
I don't know what to do...
How do I get past this??
2006-10-16 10:01:11 · 21 answers · asked by radchad25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Read between the lines lad. She just doesn't want a relationship with you. She may be right about not knowing herself, but I guarantee you that she will go out with the first guy she meets that turns her on or gives her a good challenge.
Don't be the nice guy that finishes last or the good friend. Give it up. I've experience the same thing as you. I was really in love with the gal and she was really great, but she liked the hot guys, the really troubled guys. Years later she was inlove with this guy that was in jail and then she fell for another guy that was in jail.
Like I said, she just doesn't want a relationship with you. You can keep the friendship and hate yourself or just move on with life and casually end the friendship. Besides, in a way you already have by telling her everything.
This happens all the time, so just chalk it up as experience and move on. There are so many women in this world. Don't waste your time on the one you know doesn't want to be with you. I know it sucks because your convinced that she is the right one for you, but there will be others in time that will be even a better fit for you. Think of girls like cars. You need to test drive a few before you decide to buy. No offense to the ladies, you can think of men like clothes. You don't buy an outfit until you've tried it on first. You might think it looks good until you see yoursef in the mirror. Too many men and women in the world to worry about the one that doesn't work for you.
Be strong and have faith that you will meet lots of women that either work or or they don't. Just don't waste too much time dwelling it.
Good luck.
2006-10-16 10:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by Jerrid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 16:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by Judith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this entire event should just be a lesson for you. She taught you that not everyone will say yes to being in a relationship, and that you need to try to not get to attached to people, because you never know what they think of YOU. You should have asked this girl out three years ago, so that you wouldnt have gotten to love her so much. Next time you think you like someone, dont wait to long, or else this may happen again. My advice, pretty much, is try finding a new girl that's better than the one you have been talking about. One that's more beautiful, sweeter, kinder, and more caring. Peace, and good luck!
2006-10-16 10:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jake M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear that you didnt recieve the kind of reaction that you were hoping for. The only real way to cure this and to get past it is good ol' fashioned time... Time cures everything. You can still be there for her, although you might have to be distant a little in order to push those feelings aside. You really never know, she could come around sort to say eventually. Good luck with everything, and just remember that getting out of the house, staying in touch with friends, will also help... hope things turn around for you.
2006-10-16 10:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by llsoinlovell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds silly but the best thing to do foryourself when you are broken hearted it to eat right, exercise and force yourself to engage in your hobbies. Did you kinda like chess before? well whats stopping you from becoming a chess master now? Enrich your life and you will feel better. She does sound lovely but very confused, if you still want something to happen with her you need to be there for her still, maybe at a bit more of a distance but make sure you are there to listen and be a friend. I know its hard but you have to take care of yourself.
2006-10-16 10:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time. Time. Time.
Also, please know that as perfect as this girl may be (and remember that no one is completely perfect), there are lots of terrific, practically perfect girls out there (really).
It's funny because a girl that you think is perfect for you now, may not be so perfect for you in, say, two years. You may be interested in quite a different sort of person in a few years (I'm making a guess about your age). The person I thought was perfect when I was 20 would be a DISASTER for me now.
Maybe try to start looking at other girls and what's nice about them. Try to NOT compare them to the girl that you think is so perfect. If you keep comparing other girls to an ideal, you won't think that anyone is good enough, you know?
Anyhow. It takes time, time, time.
Good luck!
2006-10-16 10:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by dashelamet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same situation. What really helps is to give up hope of ever being together. I got tired of being rejected by the girl I thought was the one and so I just simply quit. Thats right quit. let go of the hope you have of love and move on to a different fishing hole. You don't have to look for love right away unless you're in a hurry which will make things worse. Remember, let it go, let it g, let it, let ,l
2006-10-16 10:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by rlld23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been three years since the love of my life left me. It still hurts but it hurts less every day. The times I think about her are less and less.
The best thing is to do anything that takes your mind off of her and get on with your life.
Love sucks but it sucks worse not being in love. Love withdrawals are worse than heroine.
2006-10-16 10:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
women are complicated, I'm sure is not because she doesn't like you. give her some time, this is all about time, I know how does it feel, is the most horrible thing in the world, try to calm down, and keep being his friend, she will be with you!
2006-10-16 10:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by Edglo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, if you stay focused on the same girl to long you might miss the one you really want.
2006-10-16 10:03:58 · answer #10 · answered by Panther 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋