I have a questions to all you husband's how many of you guys do dishes?

Question

My husband will not do dishes (any ideas), how to get him to do them?

Answer 1

I let the dog lick them clean.

Answer 2

Hi Millie,

I do not do dishes. Just cant do that. The other stuff like cleaning, taking the garbage out, etc. are not a problem. My wife too has the same problem as you.....she just cant figure out why I will not do dishes. The reason, to be perfectly frank, is I dont know. Its just a guy thing, may be, we just dont like the feel of doing dishes.

Answer 3

My husband does them because I give him choices. I always let hi know that I need some help, and the sooner we get done, the sooner we can go out or do whatever. I always ask if he would like to help me with the laundry, the dishes, or help cleaning the bathroom. And I let him choose, what ever he feels like doing at that time I take the extra help. I won't complain, because he is choosing to help me. Now he's so use to it that sometimes he'll finish one and then start another.

Answer 4

My husband doesn't like to do dishes, but we have a deal. I cook dinner for him every night, He does the dishes. He's not always on top of it, but if I kindly remind him..."So how was the dinner I made for you?" Usually it jogs his memory and he does the dishes. He says he doesn't mind so much because he sees it as his way of thanking me for all I do for him, cooking and cleaning the house.

Answer 5

My philosophy on this is....

If you both work outside the home then you should both help with chores inside the home.

If he works and you stay home then the home chores are your responsibility. (and visa versa)

My bf of 11 months now is currently unemployed and so am I. He does take on whatever job he can find like handyman work for whoever will pay him. When he doesn't work I cook dinner and he cleans up. Sometimes we will do it all together. When he does work I don't expect him to do anything around the house but he still does. He also helps with laundry, trash, and yard work... and of course he takes care of the car maintanence.

I had a live in bf once that thought all he had to do was bring home a paycheck. We both worked full time but when I came home I still had to work and he just sat on the couch and watched tv. Well one day I told him we weren't eating unless he cooked dinner. He did and it was a disaster. I never asked him to cook again but he finally understood what it was like to have to work all day and come home and work some more. He was more helpful after that.

However, after we broke up I took on a very physical job, his job was very physical as well, I worked full time and when I got home I was just wiped out.

My point is consider the jobs you both work (if you both work); maybe he is just wiped out at the end of the day... but maybe you are too.. so if this is the case then talk to him about it... maybe he just doesn't realize how demanding your job is.

Answer 6

I wash the pots and pans. We also have a dish washer, but some plates need to be hand washed. I think that if my wife cooks the food, i could at least do the dishes!

Answer 7

many do dishes. Many care about the person they are sharing their lives with too.

Any guy who doesn't do dishes isn't going to change either. Be prepared, he is a 50's man... where all women are "Kept" and they only work and eat and pass gas while all the women do the housework.

Answer 8

When it comes to my husband, he will do dishes if i get on his butt about it. That or I make sure that his cup or whatever he uses most often is not washed, makes him kinda wash his own stuff, and most of the time, if i ask him to wash dishes he will do it, he may be pissy about it, but he will get over it...lol

Answer 9

easy does it first. let him dry the dishes...to stimulate his activity. next -- show him the easy way to do the dishes. here is an idea--if you don't expect visitors within the hours -- let the dishes soak in water and soap --for overnight -- then in the morning -- it is a pleasure to go through the hectic washing cycle just by letting them run under hot water. voila...try it ...he will like and kiss you...for this lesson no. 1.

Answer 10

My husband is a Mr. Mom so he does everything at the house except dusting (he's disabled with a nerve disease & afraid he'll drop stuff) - laundry, dishes, sweeping, vacuuming, etc. so I can't complain. Get your husband a pair of gloves & tell him to get on it.

Answer 11

Dublin boy does have a good point. We have a dish washer, but we take turns loading it, and doing everything else. The only exception is the lawn. I do that.