She is such a sweet person who is just having problems and i don't know how to help her but i just can't stand around and watch this either.
2006-10-16 09:58:35 · 12 answers · asked by Forsaken Angel 3 in Health ➔ Other - Health
If you have actually talked to her and it doesn't seem to have done any good you need to risk your friendship and take it a step further. If she is a minor tell a teacher you both like or her parents or older brother or sister that you admire. Don't tell anyone you don't think will accept the problem and help her get help. Myabe even your own parents would know what to do.
If she is over 18 and you can't seem to help her and her family doesn't seem to be able to as well, call your local mental health agency and ask for suggestions. You can't force her to get help but you may be able to convince her that she does need it. That would be the first step.
Good luck! You sound like a true friend!
2006-10-16 10:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by AKA FrogButt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to say buy her a bandaid but that wouldn't be nice of me... all you can do is be supportive of her emotional issues, let her know you are there for her when she needs you and CONVINCE her to go get some counseling... you didn't say how old she is, but if it were me I'd tell a teacher, her parents, a pastor, guidance counselor.. anyone you can think of who might can help get thru to her... I think most importantly the best thing for u to do yourself is to try to help her build some confidence in herself and let her know her life is very valuable and precious. I don't know alot about cutters, but I do know they do this type of behavior because for some reason they think very lowly of themselves and this is their way of inflicting abuse on their own body... so changing that thought pattern should be the main priority... I think it is one type of behavior I could not turn my back on the person as it would only reiterate the warped signals in their wiring. Good Luck to You and to her both! I will keep both of you in my prayers!!!
2006-10-16 17:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by someone s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find out the root cause about why she does that. it could be family problem, or self respect problem. After you find out, you will have to talk her out of it. How? You may ask..
Here is how.
1. First understand the problem, if loneliness is the cause, hang up with her more.
2. If respect is the problem, praise her more with a pet in the shoulder
3. If problem with the family, try to talk to her parents and make them aware of the situation. Sometimes, parents don't know because they have busy schedule in life.
Good luck!
2006-10-16 17:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to listen to her patiently. However you ALSO must be firm and let her know that you disapprove of the cutting. Encourage her to get help. Most "cutters" just do it for attention. But if it is let go long enough it turns in to a real problem.
2006-10-16 17:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is cutting herself because she's very unhappy and in pain (psychologically.) She might feel alone, as if nobody understands her. The best help you can give is to listen without giving advice. Nod your head, say things like "that must be very frustrating" or rephrase what she said, as in, ""so your mom is really giving you a hard time."
Ask if there is any way you can help. Tell her that if she wants to get professional help, you will help her to do it.
2006-10-16 17:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by MailorderMaven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worked in the mental health field. Your friend needs to seek professional help. Cutters are trying to feel something, anything, in order to "forget" whatever is mentally torturing them. Some do it for attention. Whatever the case. Professional treatment is strongly advised.
2006-10-16 17:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive had people in my life do the same thing.You can talk to her and let her speak to you and listen very well to her but she needs some help..try to get her to get some medical advice..good luck:)
2006-10-16 17:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by me2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that what she is doing is stupid and that if she's continues, she will end up killing herslef. Then ask her if that's the result she wants? Then leave her there and hope she's still alive in the morning.
2006-10-16 17:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way is to tell the teacher or her parnets. when i get mad i bite myself but its not bad i dont beld.my sister use to cut her self because she was mad about every thing.
2006-10-16 17:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call a suicide hotline in your area, have them call her she might just need to talk it out! with a professional
2006-10-16 17:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by crystald 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋