then the kids come home its like i have not done a thing in a week any one with kids ( 2 boys 9-11) i let the room get messsy for week but the smell won and i gave in and cleanded it i cant do it all any new ideas thank you
2006-10-16 09:53:09 · 15 answers · asked by rradboys 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-10-16 09:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
9 and 11 can clean and more than their room. Is the father there? Guess what, he can do some cleaning, laundry, cooking, etc. too. If you are a single mom then yea, its very tough but you need to get the boys involved and also get them into the habit of picking up as they go rather than making a mess that is a huge job to clean later. I know about it. I am not speaking from ignorance. I am a single father of a 9 yr old boy. Yea, men can do it too!
Try to work out a schedule. Like okay...these are the days we have certain extra activities ( sports,scouts,music lesson, whatever) then space out this night for laundry, this night for clean the _____, then the other night for cleaning the ____. Find foods quick, easy, and uses the least in pots and dishes to wash.
Thats what I have done.
2006-10-16 17:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you a single mom? CHORES and CROCK POTS are a single moms best friends. The boys are old enough to pick up after themselves. They just don't because they know eventually you will. I would put the stereo, Game system, toys in a box in my closet. If you can't take care of the stuff you can't have it. I did this with my daughter. I told her if I was responsible to pick it up I was only going to do it once so I was going to put it in a place I was sure I would never have to do it again.
Do they have dirty clothes hampers. If the clothes don't make into the clothes hamper, then their favorite ones (you know the ones they try to wear every day, only pick one item- you don't want to have to replace all this stuff) will get picked up and put in a box.
Is your machine something they can be taught to use? If so teach them if it doesn't get done then in the future you will only buy clothes from the cheapest thrift store bins and will sell the good clothes in a garage sell to earn the money for the thrift store stuff.
DO NOT allow them to eat in their room. This is a recipe for disaster.
Tell them until the dishes are done, the table cleaned off, dishes rinsed, whatever. we aren't going to get anything to drink but water and nothing to eat but the stuff they don't like but is good for them.
If the living room floor isn't picked up and vacuumed then no tv time. We can't watch tv in a pig stye.
You get the idea. Make the punishment relate to the chore that was not completed. It may be a pain for a little while listening to the whining but trust me it is worth it in the end.
Schedule time for yourself.
2006-10-16 17:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your kids to help with clean up. Your not the only one making the mess you shouldn't have to be the only one cleaning it. They are definately old enough to be taking on their share of the responsibility.
It's about give and take.... all they are doing right now is taking...
Personally I don't believe in monetary rewards but make them earn their ability to do things like play outside or watch tv or other things they are taking for granted.
Put up a cleaning chart and let them know what they are earning by doing each chore.
Personally I haven't done this yet but I've seen similiar things in parenting classes and shows like the Super Nanny. My 9 year old son typically does what I ask him to... so far anyway.
2006-10-16 17:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sheet on my refridgerator, with all the household chores. I put both of my daughter's names on top, and every chore they do I put a check under their name. Then at night, that's how many bedtime stories I read them, but yours are a little older than mine, so maybe do it by the week, and at the end of the week, however many chores they have done could be how many dollars they get for an allowance, or whatever else they like, but give them a reward for helping you out. My daughters fight to wash dishes and dust, lol.
2006-10-16 16:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by ~~kelly~~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At that age your kids should be helping you - no reason they can't help clean up or get table set for dinner, especially if they are eating they can st table, clear , do dishes, and things like that. Give them each a short list of chores to do every day and things should stay tidy than.
2006-10-16 17:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a husband he should definitely be helping, and your 2 boys should pitch in. Assign them each a list of chores and make sure they clean up after themselves. This will help you but it also will teach them responsibility and Independence.
2006-10-16 17:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by Izzy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you gotta get these boys to help you out a little. They're deffinately old enough. Have you tried offering an allowance for doing chores? Or maybe they shouldn't get any playstation time till they finish their chores?
2006-10-16 16:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by Smitten_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Reduce the kids' allowance, and hire a maid. I have a maid come in every couple of weeks, and I don't even have kids...
2006-10-16 16:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
assign jobs to everyone in the house for cleaning and if they don't want to do it cut off things they like doing
2006-10-16 16:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by vet4927 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your kids sound old enough to clean up behind themselves and help around the house
2006-10-16 16:55:45 · answer #11 · answered by black mamba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋