Tell me some things that you would do at 21 with 2 kids that are 6 and 3, That is all I am asking . I mean he takes googd care of the kids but I don't think he is caring of me.
2006-10-16 09:50:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I would move out on my own without a man who hits me. Don't ever give him another chance or that's just letting him know that it's ok to do it. You don't want your kids to see that and grow up thinking that it's ok. You should move in with a friend or family member until you can get on your feet to get a place of your own. Please don't subject your children to that lifestyle. You don't deserve it and neither do they.
2006-10-16 09:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Amber S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think about this,
If he is hitting on you, how long do you think it will take b4 he starts hitting on the children. Also, do you know by him hitting on you, CPS can take your children away from both of you, even though you didn't do anything. Do you really want to lose your children because of him? Also, the more you take it, the worse it will get, he may end up killing you one day, then what will your kids have?...NOTHING!
You need to get away from him, as hard as that may be.
My mom had to leave my Dad. She had four kids and no money, but he was abusive and even started hitting my brother.
Try talking to a family member. If you have no family or friends to go to, try women shelters.
Try searching the web for women abuse shelters or domestic violence shelters. You can stay there then get a good job and daycare so you can support you and your children by yourself
This web site is for the effects on children of witnessing domestic violence
http://www.dawnonline.org/children.htm
2006-10-16 17:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by aljea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone get the hell out before it too late. You can take care of your own kids by your self if not child support. Baby if he hits you then no he doesn't care for you. Honey think about your kids and what they might be feeling watching are hearing you go through this. Put your kids before your self and your so called man and get out.
2006-10-17 20:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by mocha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long do you think it will be before he gets tired of hitting you and starts in on the kids?? The first time he even thought of laying a hand on you ...you should have sent his *** to jail and run. And what part of getting beaten makes you only "unsure" that he isn't caring for you??? HE IS ABUSING YOU....THERE IS NO QUESTION OR CONFUSION HERE....LEAVE HIS SORRY WIFE BEATING A S S. Not only is it unhealthy and stupid for you to stay...but what does that teach your kids? Get out now before he causes some serious damage.
2006-10-16 16:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he hits you, you should leave him that's not good for the kids or for you. My sister was abused by her boyfriend too and he went to jail and they even took her soon away, my nephew was in foster care for like 8 months because of this asshole telling my sister he would kill them if she said something. So leave him for yourself and your kids. By the way my sister just turn 22 and she has 2 boys 4 and 2.
2006-10-19 17:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by JENNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must go to a women's shelter with your children ,get out of were you are ! Think what your children are learning !
You are young and can start a life on your own with your children ,there is help for you out there !Call the Samaritans they will be able to tell you the address you need as they are not advertised for security reasons ! You can be save !
2006-10-16 17:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can read other people's opinions all day long, but when it actually comes down to it only you know how much you can put up with. A good father does not always mean a good man. Don't let it cloud your judgement; if you feel disrespected something has got to give. Good luck to you!
2006-10-16 17:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by LaLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women get away from him, I had a boyfriend that grabbed me by the neck and threw me down the stairs, but had the nerve to say I love you after that. F8ck him, that kind of man get's off on empowerment. get on welcare, call a hotline, and ask someone to help you leave him. Since he abuses you, you can get spousal support if you were together for some time and child support since he might be a threat to the child. GET OUT! My friend had a boyfriend and a little girl, and had two male friends from college over her house to reconnect and her boyfriend thought she was cheating, and killed my friend and the two men, that a$$hole is in jail still, but hasn't gone to court yet even though he deserves to die. GET OUT! Please listen to me, get out of there
2006-10-16 16:59:53 · answer #8 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he hits you, he could hit the kids. dont let him do it, girl. i have been in relationships like this, its not worth it. all you will do is waste your time and energy on a wasted a** excuse for a man who isn't worth your time. learn to love yourself first. love yourself more than you love him & walk away. thats what i had to do. financially you can get by. or, stay there long enough to put back some money, then leave him. (if you are worried about the money) but in all reality. chances are, if you stay there, you won't leave him. you have to make it up in your head thats what you HAVE to do, even if it isn't what you WANT to do!
2006-10-16 16:55:42 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out as quick as you can. Yeah, he takes care of the kids, but what happens when the kids make him mad? Will he not hit them? I know that it would be really hard to leave but you need someone who will back you up. If you have good relationships with your family, try to confide in one of them. If you have no one to talk to, you can talk to me. I am kinda going through the same thing. I am almost 21 and I have an 8month old. I am planning to leave my husband. He hasn't ever hit me but I think it is coming anytime and I have decided to get out. Please email me cause we both need someone to talk to. lilmama020906@yahoo.com
2006-10-16 16:56:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋