One person asked "How to get kid out of bed" and people were advocating everything from puking on him to having him arrested and handcuffed! Did it EVER occur to any of these shmoes that the kid has PROBLEMS and needs help? So does the parent, obviously! Why is it, in this country, that parents always want the "Simple" solution to childrearing, like "tough love" (what a JOKE!) or boot camp? Why do they never take responsibility for the fact that THEY MADE THE KID HOW HE IS!!? Please, no child abusers need reply!
2006-10-16 09:48:30 · 16 answers · asked by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have one kid, a 16 year old boy. I made a vow when I was a teen, that I would never hit any child, especially my own...and I never have. My kid, yes he has his moments that make me wring my hair, but he is, overall, respectful, compassionate and good. My spouse and I did not need to or want to humiliate or hurt him just to "get our way", like little babies! And parents say their KID'S are juvenile???!
2006-10-16 10:05:07 · update #1
PPS: I have 16 yrs experience teaching high school, middle school and college, including violent, special needs kids and have never used physical force!
2006-10-16 10:06:02 · update #2
Mom to Foster Children: If my kid doesn't get up to go to school, it's BECAUSE HE'S SICK! He gets up every day at 6AM, showers, gets ready and is never late! Sorry if my non-violent parenting offends you! >:( Your response is pathetic.
2006-10-16 10:23:17 · update #3
HazelEyes: your response made ME much sicker than anything any kid has ever done! You're SUPPOSED to be an adult with a brain, but clearly, you're just a sicko, control-freak who can use a computer! You'll pay, someday, you'll PAY for treating kids like dirt! Your kids will grow up to hate and/or fear you. Don't be surprised, after they leave, if you never hear from them, except maybe, to ask for $ for THERAPY! You're a monster!
2006-10-17 06:29:08 · update #4
Probably they were joking, but we have become so desensitized to having any compassion that we are able to joke without thinking how the other person feels.
And the other reason is people are lazy and selfish. It's easier to yell, accuse, ridicule, beat and the list goes on rather than see that child as a person who will grow into an adult that needs good, sound teaching to make it in life. I think it all comes from a huge amount of selfishness.
2006-10-16 10:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
We do it because watching kids in pain, and having a 30 year old living at the house because he can't make more than 8 bucks an hour is FUN for us!!!
What makes you think all of the responses on the "How to get kid out of bed" were from parents? I don't know if you've noticed this, but there are a lot of kids on this site.
I'm sorry, a teenager acting lazy isn't any cause for alarm, it's what they do, it doesn't mean they have emotional problems, for crying out loud, all of them do. That's one of the problems with society today, everyone's problems get excused away because of emotional or mental "diseases". Like ADHD. Teachers are diagnosing it for parents and physicians because they know the ritallin makes them easier to corral and command. Sorry, I don't buy that. It waters down the effect when someone really does have that problem, people like me have seen so many excuses we don't care. These mental problems are supposed to be rare, not like a dam cold that everyone gets.
2006-10-16 16:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by Manny 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most of them were kidding I hope. Tuff love, it has its uses. You have to punish kids or else when they get older they will not have any knowledge of right and wrong. I spank my kids but I don't beat them. I usualy try other punishments first and if that don't work then I will spank them. I don't believe in using a belt or a paddle but a couple swats to the rump aint going to physicaly hurt him. I don't hit them as hard as I can it is just enough to let them know they aren't going to feel it. It leaves no marks or bruises but it will sting a little bit. People who don't whip there kid but just talk to them will wind up having teenagers who will not respect them at all. When I was a teenager I wouldn't dare talk to my parents the way kids do today. I'm 25 now and still know that if I hadn't been raised the way I was then I would probably be a drug head or a criminal. I have 2 friend who were raised without getting spanked and were let do basicly what ever they wanted to do as kids. One has served 4 years in prison and the other sells drugs out of the trunk of his car. I'm a soldier and have never been in jail. I'm not on drugs and I have a family myself now. I know responsability and respect authority. I may not be rich but my bills get paid and I have a home for my kids. I'm not sure if others would agre with me but thats their own deal. O'h ya I forgot about my other friend who did not have any kind of punishment while he was growing up. He died in a car accident when he was 17. He was drunk and druged up and wrecked his truck. He wasn't wairing his seat belt and he was thrown out. The truck landed on his head. Just though of another one. Guy stole his brothers 4-wheeler and was drunk. He wasn't wairing a helmit and wound up wrecking it and the 4-wheeler rolled over his head. He has the mentalality of a 12 year old and can't walk right. He can't control his temper and has beat his mother down twice now. I think that you can see the results of not punishing your kids hear. Its bad to think how I used to envy these guys growing up, how there parents were so cool and yet now I see how wrong I was.
2006-10-16 17:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by knight35966 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i was in the army and i have been to a few countries i have even been to a war and i have a wife and two kids myself. let me tell ya from what i have seen the American people are the most lazy self absorbed people i have ever encountered. the parents probably care to much about themselves and don't want to put the effort in to being nice to their kids if parents were nice to their kids like i am to mine then i guarantee the kids would be alot more loveable.
2006-10-16 17:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by stratplayer1982 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some things are just not funny, but having said that much of what is said here is a display of many dry senses of humor. We just have to discern what is good advice from what is venting humor. We do need to be respectful, but we can't take things too seriously.
2006-10-16 16:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by LINDA G 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you know, i totally agree with the last few sentences, "tough Love" and Parents Taking responsibility for how there kids are, they did make them that way, what an excuse to say, oh i just have a bad kid, he needs boot camp.. ect... thank you for your question
2006-10-16 16:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by smokingstonersweetheart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cause sometimes they don't really know what they have done or are still doing to their child for them to become that way. They think because they are the parent, the child should listen to them. It is when they start thinking like that, that they become oblivious to their children's problems.
2006-10-16 16:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by xportuguesax 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so if one day your 16 yr old decides he is going to do what he wants to do...stay in bed, not go to school...etc
I guess I am asking, how would you have gotten the boy, you are speaking of, out of bed!?!
2006-10-16 17:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of us want to hurt our kids. It is hard knowing exactly what to do as parents all the time. Parenting is hard work and it takes a lot of creativity and patience. Not everyone has had the best examples as parents, so they are learning like everyone else how to best raise their kids.
2006-10-16 16:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by Daisy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
the problem is that when people are abused by their parents, they tend to defend their parents (once they grow up.) because they can't bear to say their parent was wrong, they have to accept what their parent did as good. as an added bonus, they get to be the abuser now, they get to be the powerful one now. for the psychologically unaware, this is a huge motivation. it is very sad.
2006-10-16 17:01:31 · answer #10 · answered by cassandra 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋