Is emailing instead calling someone all the time impersonal. Is this person doing this on purpose?

Question

The guy I am dating emails me all day long from work, but only calls me on the phone on the weekends.

Answer 1

yep, he's not into you.

Answer 2

Its impersonal. But to what degree depends on how much you see eachother and how long you've been dating. If you see eachother a lot throughout the week, there is no reason to be calling all the time. He should be calling you if you've just recently starting dating however. Since you are always on your best behavior at the start of a relationship, its only a sign of bad things to come. If you've been dating a long time, he probably has just fallen into a routine and runs out of things to talk to you about by the end of the day. If it bothers you, tell him you'd like a phone call once it awhile to show that he cares. I doubt he is doing it on purpose.

Answer 3

There's a couple of things to think about here.

1. It may be easier for him to e-mail. With a phone call, he may be overheard by co-workers or a boss. When he's typing an e-mail it looks like he's working hard at his computer.

2. E-mail provides "editability". If he likes you, he's worried about what he's saying to you. E-mail allows him to type a message, re-read it, and if it sounds dumb, he can edit or delete part of it. If he's on the phone and blurts out something stupid he can't take it back.

3. E-mail provides a time delay. It allows him time to think about his response. Many times my wife has me a question and been very upset when my response was, "uh... uh... I think so, I'm not sure."

4. He may think any of these about you. He may use e-mail because he's afraid you don't want co-workers to hear you on the phone.

If you feel that e-mail is impersonal, tell him that you like getting calls during the day. He may start calling you. Give him the opportunity to explain before you get worried about the cause.

Answer 4

no maybe he can't talk on the phone when he's at work. If you have been seeing eachother for over 6 months and he never calls then dump him. but if he calls on the weekends I wouldn't worry. I hate talking on the phone, I think alot of guys do too. Most guys only call eachother if they want to hang out, not just to chat. Maybe he only calls you wehn he is available to do something.

Answer 5

Yeah I have a guy who does that, he hates talking on the phone. What can you do, a lot of guys hate talking on the phone. He's probably one of them, dont take it personally. Alteast you know he is thinking about you during the day since he emails you. What would be bad is if he never communicated at all.

Answer 6

nah, it's not impersonal.

My boyfriend IM's me all the time and NEVER calls me.
I've just gotten used to it.

It would be impersonal if he only emailed you and never called you or anything.

Some guys are just like that, but you should at least ask him why he prefers emailing over calling.

Answer 7

During work, it's usually much easier to be emailing all day then tieing (spelling?) up the phones. Don't take it personal.

Answer 8

its probably because he only has a free night and weekend plan. yes, sending an email maybe imperssonal but some guys prefer it b/c they can pretty much spill their guts w/o feeling bad or like they are wasting ur time

Answer 9

Maybe he thinks you're busy at night. Tell him you'd appreciate a call thru the week OR call him. Maybe he's too busy at night??? Maybe he's seeing someone else Monday-Friday. If you're dating him, ask him what's going on. You deserve that.

Answer 10

e-mail is rather impersonal. Maybe he's too busy at work to call? Maybe he can multi-task more by e-mailing instead of calling.

Answer 11

Maybe he's not a phone person. Don't take it personal. But if you want to talk to him don't always wait for his call.