What is the best way to cancel a date because you have a better offer?

Question

Ok ok I wrote it wrong... It isn't because you have a better date you just have somewhere that you NEED to go... perhaps a funeral or a wedding...

Answer 1

i think its best to be honest and say that you have found someone else/been asked on a date by someone else..(dont say they are better) but do take responsibility. Nothing worse than being left to hang..just think if it was you honesty such as my ex has just asked wants me to get back together nd we havce decided to give it a go is a gentle way of lettting someone down with out denting their ego..also just remeber you may think this person is better now but things may change in the future so try to stay friends with this other peron..never burn bridges and you will do well in love and life...but be honest in terms of letting this other person know you cant go on that date..also even thouh its alittle harsh people respect honesty...just be a little dip[lomatic and dont say its because you have a better offer just be gentle. Hope it all works out if it does this other person will stillbe friendly and you can go and have a wicked date with this other guy/ gal you think is better and not feel bad about really upswtting another as you have left it as friends. Take care X

Answer 2

I dont know there is a best way to cancel a date for that reason.... because he's going to ask you to go on another one unless you tell him something else. And how do you know you have a BETTER offer? The kid who made the second offer maybe cuter but he might be a jerk...while the first kid may not be as attractive but is really nice. You said you'd go out on a date with him for a reason...and "Getting a better offer" is a crummy reason. What if you dated this second guy for 3 months..and then all of a sudden you see another cute boy..you just gonna dump him and g o for the new guy cause he seems like a "better offer"? I hope not. Go on the date with the first guy..let him know you are just testing out the waters and dont necessarily want to get serious after 1 date..if it goes really well then awesome..if not ...then you can say you tried and move on. Go on a date with both guys (not on the same night and not committed to either)

Answer 3

Why should you have to keep the date? People cancel plans all the time because something better pops up, why is this different.

If the date is close, fake illness. Easy.

If you have a few days- say you have a report you need to finish for work/school so you'll have to push the date to another time. Rescheduling isnt so bad.

Don't lose the chance to go out with someone you are really interested in just because you feel you owe someone else. Its your future.

Answer 4

Just call the person up and say that something came up and you'd like a rain check on the date. Who knows - the better offer may not be so good after all or perhaps the cancelled date was the best decision.

Answer 5

"Something suddenly came up." This sounds like an episode of the Brady Bunch. And Marcia soon learned that the first guy was a much better person than the one she dumped him for. Maybe you should learn a lesson from the Brady Bunch.

Answer 6

there is no best way but lets be honest to cancel a date it must be important so tell the truth about were u going and don't leave it till the last minute
and hope for the best

Answer 7

Well the worst way would be to just be a no-show as you waste the evening of the guy who asked you out. Every method beyond that is many levels above. Phone, Internet, IM, smoke signals, eskimo pie wrapper..whatever - just let him know so he can replan.

Answer 8

No way. You grin and bear it and continue with your original commitmet. You want to know THE biggest reason why you have to do this? Aside from the fact that when/if it happens to you, how would you feel? That's not the primary reason, THIS is: because you're starting to LIE, and trust me, NEVER EVER think you're getting away with anything when you lie and they tend to have a way of coming back and biting you right in your ****!! You can NOT remember your lies! Even to one person, but when you tell a different story to one of his friends or even one of yours, you're going to get BUSTED big time!

In case you think I've no idea what I'm talking about, after all, I'm OLD, or I don't know how it is, or whatever you're telling yourself so you don't have to actually follow through on your original commitment, oh, you're not going to get caught...how would someone like ME know anything!!!???

Let me just tell you that it takes one to know one, although I finally figured out many years ago that I didn't need to lie (I was very abused and it was a way for me to escape at times...so I did it even in a tiny town where basically there were SPIES reporting back I STILL did it and I was able to have some salvation and relief!) But I continued the lying and some years ago I learned, with the help mind you of a VERY GOOD, DEAR wonderful friend who didn't wish to see me continue such self destructive behaviour when there was absolutely no reason for me to lie at all. I was lying about basically everything it seems now! It was so much a part of who I'd been for so long that I actually believed many of my own lies!! I did stop and oddly, like when I stopped drinking and smoking, it was HARD AS HELL!!!

But of course I was constantly being caught in the stupid lies and with those I cared most about before I finally "kicked the habit" as it were!! And this guy I know, maybe friend? I don't know he's such a total pr... yeah at times and he stood inside a church one Sunday telling me that he NEVER lies! Now, I've known him for over 3 years now and I told him when I first met him I could read him like a book but the small print was a little rough, the second week after I'd met him I told him I had no problem with that any longer. I also told him the truth about ME, that I don't lie (thankfully!) cheat, steal, but that I USED to and I was GOOD at it, and it does take one to know one and I've known every lie he's ever told me and yesterday morning, I literally caught him in one of his biggest lies....oopssss....with not only his pants down, but all of his clothes off as well while he's online as he has a terrible addiction to online porn!!!

Yet after he was dressed a few hours and we'd ventured out into the nice warm sun, suddenly he was right back to being the usual prolific prevaricator that he is trying to convince me WHAT? Not only have I known every lie he's told me just because I don't say anything doesn't mean I don't know, it just means that he'd rather be his version of "right" where-as I'd much rather be happy and covering your lies, fighting so hard for people to believe your crap, arguing about it and getting so angry pretty much on a daily basis is EXHAUSTING.

That offer is going to be there still and all you have to do is tell this so-called "better offer" you've already made a commitment and you're keeping it because he wouldn't want you to do the same thing to him. And if he really is this BETTER OFFER, he'll understand perfectly and actually be quite happy you stuck with your first offer! Because trust me, he already knows that you've made this previous commitment, he's testing you.

Good Luck. I hope you read and at least take a wee bit of what I've said to heart because you're going to get into a whole lot of trouble if you don't.....Lies....NEVER! Too hard to remember them when someone asks you about that evening in a year or so and you won't have a clue what you told the first person about why you couldn't go but believe me, the person asking or casually bringing it up in a conversation will remember EVERY DETAIL!! Been there, done it.

Answer 9

In all fairness, you should be straight up with the person and say something like "I think you are a nice person but I really don't want to go out with you." Remember what goes around comes around so becareful how you handle this.

Answer 10

How can you cancel a date that you havnt even tried yet?, go on the original date first you might be surprised.