me and my girl have been to gether officially for 3 months and unofficeally for 5 months. we got together kinda before her and her ex bloke up (wich they were going to do anyway and they both know that) he is a stalker. he dodt stalk her know but he use to when they were togeather and for a little bit after. she for 5 months has not liked him and never wanted to talk to him or anything. now out of the blue they are talking to each other every now and then and she says thats he is a nice guy with a good heart and always teated her like a queen and he just has a flaw. she says that she dont have any desire to talk to him but if that were so she wouldnt txt him or talked to him. she knows i dont like him and i dont like her talking to him but i cant make her not talk to him. all i can do is ask. should i be worried? we like each other a lot and this is the biggest relationship eather one of us has had. do you think she might have feelings for him a little? give me every thought you have.
2006-10-16 09:15:13 · 10 answers · asked by music man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How does it feel for the shoe to be on the other foot. You were messing with the girl while she was still with this guy. Maybe that's why he was being so weird, he knew it. Yes you should be worried because now you're stalker boy. She's doing the same thing to you that she did to him. Learn from this mistake. If she'll do it to him, she'll do it to you!
2006-10-16 09:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, you need to get over your own insecurity. If she's with you, and not him, that means she wants you. She will have some leftover feelings for him, I'm sure, but if she's never given you any indication that she wants to be with him again then don't worry about it. I understand how you feel; some women have the ability to keep guys as friends after they break up...(but if it was you with an old girlfriend I guarantee you she wouldn't like it one bit...that's a common double standard with many girls- get used to it). If it really bugs you maybe you should talk to her and ask her what the deal is with this guy...and if she's serious about not wanting to talk to him then to tell him so. Some guys think there's still a chance unless they get just plain shut down by the girl. I wouldn't get too obsessed about this though, unless she's given you some reason to think she wants to get together with him again. Good Luck
2006-10-16 09:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by answerman63 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure your relationship with her is the biggest one that she has had? Let me just tell you, girls really dont continue relationships with stalkers. I had one....never talked to him again and dont want to either. I was actually gonna marry the guy, so that's pretty "big". Yeah I wonder about him sometimes, but that doesnt mean I have to talk to him once in a while.
Have a serious talk with your girl about you not being okay with her talking to her stalker ex (which I dont blame you). And for you- you should re-consider your feelings towards her. I mean its only been 5 months...you can find someone else that doesnt have all that drama.
2006-10-16 09:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sofia V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a problem a long as you are informed when is talking to him are planning to see him. She may not have any feeling for him, but do he still have feeling for her is what you need to out and also why do she still let him in and out of life?
2006-10-16 09:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by foxy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like an attention hog. She needs to stop all together talking with the ex. If she doesn't you need to ditch her. ALL TOGETHER! Not just a little bit. Show her how it works!
2006-10-16 09:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't turn feelings on and off like water. Since she had feelings for him once she could have them for him again. Just be there for her. Try not to be too judgmental. Hope that she sees that you are the better choice.
2006-10-16 09:21:20 · answer #6 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a part of her wants to talk to him b/c he is treated her so well but a part of her feels likeshe has to. i have been stalked b4 and when it happens to you, you dont think clearly, you are scared ad will do anything to get the to go away and ot hurt you. i think you should talk to her again and ask if he has done anything to make her feel uncomfortable or if he has hurt her.
2006-10-16 09:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be like you are. Don't fight to stop her to talk or see him.
If you are the lucky one she is going to be with you anyway.
Fight can push her back and you loose right away.
Trust and understanding.
2006-10-16 09:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all spell check should be your first friend LOL!!! Welp sounds to me that you need to dump the zero and get urself that hero!!!! ME :)
2006-10-16 09:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by sneakysteph22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kiick his *** ima help u cuz i feel yr pain
2006-10-16 09:18:05 · answer #10 · answered by macey_brasil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋