family drama?

Question

okay.my family and i are close since we are Romanian and Europeans. i always give into what my parents what but not anymore. i went to a community college and got my Associates and made it on my own to a good university. my bf is someone that they did like but then my dad had some reasons not to like him. so, a couple of days ago i went to mt bf's place since my ex bf and i are againg dating w/o my parents knowing. i stayed there for like 3 days since i had a good time and i did some homework and he fixed my laptop. my mom calls me and starts telling me that she knows that my bf and i are living together- i never told her that nor where he lives since he attends the same school as i do-and that my dad needs to have a long talk with me. today i called my mom for a small problem not involving my personal life and she tells me that the reason my dad has not called is because he is mad since they somehow found out that we are dating-my bf and i behind their baks. what the heck?

then she tells me that my bf is staying with me only because he feels sorry for me and that he does not care nor love me which hurt really bad. she told me that she can see me living in a trailer since i am hanging out with the people that i am and they are my friends. she judged my bf, blamed me for everything and made me seem as though i am a kid. i am 22 and always have done what my parents wanted but no more. they pay for mu education so what? i appreciate that but i would rather take out 3 loans and pay them back then be forced to get a degree that i do not like not want. i know that i am fortunate but at some point i want to do things on my own terms and not everybody else's. this weekend my mom is coming to visit me and i have to go with her home and there is no negociation whatsoever. i dont want to go home since yes i messed up on 2 tests but would rather improve my grades than hame my whole family go at my throat. any suggestions?hepl plz.

Answer 1

talk to them and tell them that your not a kid any more you want a life of your own i;m having the same problem i;m 21 still living with my parents bcz i;m not allow to move out

Answer 2

While it seems to be a pain, your parents are doing this out of love. They care about you and want the best. They fear that you will not graduate and become pregnant out of wedlock.

You are proving some of their points by getting poor grades and staying at the boyfriends. If you want to be independent, then you need to do your best at school and not stay over the boyfriend's house.

Talk to your mother alone first about things and how you want to be on your own and what you want in your future.

Good luck.