I met this guy online.. I feel in love with him.. and I met him.. He lives 8 hours from me. But honestly he was so great. We dated but then he broke up with me. We are teenagers and he said he was just bored. It broke my heart because he had left me. Before I met him I was depressed. We had moved and I had no friends anymore.. but then I met him.. it was like he brought me back to life again.. anyway, after this guy and i broke up we were friends.. i wanted more than that he did not. he said we are teens and that he doesnt know what he wants.. but he knows he didnt love me.. and we called each other some names.. and that was the end. We havent spoken for over 2 weeks. Its killing me.. I honestly love him.. and he wont talk to me.. he blocked me on AIM and everything.. and now I am going back to the depression.. as hard as I am trying to not be depressed.. i am.. and I dont know what to do. I really want to talk to this guy.. but I cant because he wont talk to me. Any suggestions?
2006-10-16 09:02:45 · 24 answers · asked by an14341991 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to get over him because there is nothing you can do for someone who doesn't want you. You will find someone else and you only think you loved him because he saved you when you were lonely. You'll figure it out.
2006-10-16 09:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by kiki_t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi as you are in your teens should you be really meeting guys of the internet. I know you may have heard all this before, but with you being so depressed, when you met him you found comfort and this is why you feel this way because he has left you. If he has made his feelings clear then im sorry he was so horrible to you and you may learn now that people are not to be trusted. But dont be sad he hasnt rang you as it is for the best. He is horrible to you and you just have to see that. If you are really depressed then maybe you should see a doctor, as every time you meet someone new you may start to go in the deep end and end up getting hurt. Which will make you more depressed in the end and its not worth it. After a while when you meet someone you really like that boy wont even compare to him one bit, so look forward to meeting the guy of your dreams and i promise you will find him eventually. As you said you had no friends at the moment,try to make new ones other than looking for a boyfriend. Some teenage boys are immature and some arnt, but its really female company you need. If you have low confidence. What i ususally do if i am in a room with people i dont know i tend to talk to the quitest one there. No one will tell you to go away or be horrible to you if you speak to them. Maybe writing your feelings down will help you to over come them, and see they are easy to overcome if you try and not think about them.
2006-10-16 16:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant force peole to love you, and you must start loving yourself. Take a good look at your situation and then look at a young child that has no food to eat and sleeps in a mud hut every night. You live in the greatest nation on earth, eat everyday, sleep in a warm bed, and have an chance to ask a question on a forum like Yahoo. There is someone out there that is perfect for you, but you need to be patient, and stop pushing so hard, and all of a sudden Mr. Right will be there. You should go do some nice things for those less fortunate than you, and watch that ugly depression leave, and your heart leap for joy inside you.
2006-10-16 16:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by Im leavin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the guy. Unfortunately, it sounds more like desperation, not love. When you're lonely and depressed, you are vulnerable to just this kind of situation. You have to get help for depression, and try to work on getting back to normal. Can you get evaluated by a doctor? When you're feeling good about yourself, you're more likely to attract people who are more "together" and are not just looking for a diversion; if you respect yourself, other people will feel respectful towards you as well. Make friends, keep yourself busy; then you won't be as dependent on an attention of a single person, and you won't come through as quite so desperate. No one likes desperation, believe me; if you don't address the root cause, you're bound to run into the same wall over and over.
2006-10-16 16:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, hang in there things will get better. I hate to ask this and it may be none of my business but did you have sex with him? Because that could have been all he was after, and that is why now he doesn't know what he wants. You need to start focusing on something else. Try talking to your Mom I'm sure she would understand and she may be able to help you through this. If you have moved to a new place maybe getting involved in a club at your new school, something that interests you, start socializing. Don't keep yourself isolated in your room at your computer, get up, go out, exercise, walk the mall do anything but sit and dwell on the situation, hang in there.....
2006-10-16 16:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Scooter Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL.... for one thing.....HE PLAYED YOU LIKE A FOOL!
Why are you still obssessing over some idiot you met online?
just because he was nice? he was right that you guys are only teenagers BUT he was WRONG to have done what he did.
TEENAGERS should be out having fun being a kid. NOT looking for love especially with all the human reproduction increasing in this decade. You should be focusing more on your schoolwork girl because if you don't this "LOVE" thing your looking for right now will come to bite you in *** and you'll end up having babies, no education for work or careers and than what are you going to do about finances? PLEASE do your schoolwork and forget about that loser that ditched you just because HE WAS BORED!
WHAT A DAMN LOSER HE IS! OH YEAH....there are always someone out there that can love you and you can love them. you just have to be patient and let that mr.right come to you. DON'T GO LOOKING FOR HIM. when love is ready it'll come. believe that.
2006-10-16 16:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by val_nativeg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel because I felt like that at once too. What I have learned in life is a person or material things can't make you happy truly. They give you a "high". You need to find something that you really like to do...a hobby, join a gym, or something that you REALLY like to do. I like to bowl and cross stitch. Everyone has something. I know what it is like when someone you care for blocks you. But you have to say...hey I'm better than that and I WILL find someone or something around here to do that I really enjoy. I wish you all the happiness in the world!
2006-10-16 16:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never RUN after a guy!
you are YOUNG there will be more guys. I am sure you know this and I have heard it
What you need to do is meet more people. It sounds like you miss him because he was all you had. You are worth the time it take to meet new people take care of yourself and the rest will workout for you. Go run and in shape you will love yourself more and THEN you can meet the new guy! email me ill give you some tips!
2006-10-16 16:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by gstolard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is nothing new, that's the reason I don't want to see anybody to be use or abuse or get disappointed - just friendship and imagination to exchange own feelings whatever the day brings.
The net % of lucky people together is probably like 1:100000.
Don't be depress , you are young and beautiful - the future belongs to you. One person can't break your dreams. Move on
2006-10-16 16:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first you shouldn't let him know that you still want him. Then you could try to met him by "coincidence" and try to get friends (just friends!) again. But still, don't let him know that you're still intressted. Then make him be in love with you, by, e.g., making him jealous or stuff.
If you don't wanna try that out, or it doesn't work forget him. He is not worth it. The world is big and there are many guys.
2006-10-16 16:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by Retterin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say but you have to realize that if it's over then it's over. I have a similar current situation and she won't understand to stop calling me and just let me be. Its bad enough that I will not answer any of her calls but now she wants to block her number and still call. I don't get it but if someone is done with you and thats what they want then just leave them be and your heart will heal someday.
2006-10-16 16:08:57 · answer #11 · answered by DLB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋