He just moved here from Florida like 2 1/2 months ago, and when we first met it was at church I have to say our eyes connected and we both stopped. He looked 26 when I saw him. He got saved that day and he just shook everyones hand except mine he gave me a hug and kissed my cheek. His mom came and talked to me. I found out alot through her, he is a recovering alcholic. and has gotten saved so turned his life to the lord. But as for me I have siezures and that didn't seem to affect him which was really shocking to me since it had scared off every guy before. But Scott is so different he looks at me in the eye and just does the most amazing things for me. And I feel so amazing when I'm around him. I'm just so scared that the age difference is going to make a difference. I've gotten burnt in the past I'm really afraid this time, I have strong feelings for this one. Is it going to work?
2006-10-16 09:00:36 · 17 answers · asked by nana_14 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is hard to say what is going to happen in the future.
Take things slowly with this guy. He is recovering from past addictions that will still haunt him. Only time will tell how this guy turely feels.
And honestly 2 months is a very short period to fall in love with someone. I understand that he makes you feel great and he seems to understand you. But understand that things for a recovering alcoholic or any other dependant drug is hard. The temptation to go back is very strong. Regardless if the person got saved or not. And chances are that they will slide back into there old habits. I am not saying that he will but its a 50/50 chance that he stays clean.
I have seen guys who claimed that have gotten saved and have appeared to clean up there life, only to find out that it was just facade and that they really didn't clean up there lifes at all, and were only out to use other people for money,sex a place to live and ect. Like I said earlier take things very slowly with this guy. If he starts asking for money take it as a sign and walk away don't look back.
2006-10-16 09:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by E_E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a recovering alcoholic, he probably has quite a past.You have not known him long enough to make a commitment to this guy. Be very, very careful. It definitely could work out in the end. If he is sincere and you still love him in a couple years time, then it might work out. The age difference really isn't the big thing here. The big thing is that he is 35 years old and has been a drunk. He can never, ever have another drink. Often recovering alcoholics fall off the wagon a couple times before they get well. I see no problem with dating this guy, but do not get married for at least two years. Wait until you really know him and know he can stay sober. Otherwise, you are setting yourself up for heartache, okay? God Bless.
2006-10-16 09:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My vote is no...sorry, but I'll back this one up.
Firstly, age matters so much. Think about it. You are just entering into the prime of your life. You are getting set in college and entering the workforce for the first time. Making new friends and leaving old ones behind. Big transition period. He is likely set.
I have to be concerned with the alcoholic thing as well. You say he was "saved"...not to be sacreligious, but what does that really mean? Does that mean he is now a wonderful person inccapable of doing bad things or vices? No. Being saved is not a cure all. He will still have vices. I would question his ability to care for you with your medical issues.
Not saying it won't work for sure, but take your time.
2006-10-16 09:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age thing doesn't really matter. what I would be more concerned with is the recovering alcoholic and the fact that his mom had to talk to you for him. this guy may be 35 but it seems like he is an 8 year old. Most alcoholics tend to relapse into alcoholism a couple of times, so be careful
2006-10-16 09:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by nice_guyminnesota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not going to work...he's got too many issues that he needs to deal with before he can be the kind of man that you need. what you experienced was lust and physical attraction....how do i know? because you just met him and don't know anything about him, you even had to find out from his mom he is a recovering alkie. the age difference is worrisome because of several things, the main one being the maturity issue, he's lived a lot more life than you have and a lot seedier life. are you sure you're not just falling in love with him because he didn't flee when he found out about your seizures? make sure this isn't a relationship of dependency as he obviously has problems with that issue and you seem to think you don't deserve anyone else because of your seizures and thats based on a few morons who left you because of that. if you decide to pursure this you both need to be in counseling and take it really really slow and get to know each other. alkie's (and i'm not using that to be disrespectful its just shorter) are always struggling with their problem its life long you never beat it you only hold it at bay. good luck
2006-10-16 09:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds really nice what you've described. That being said, is there any reason to feel a sense of urgency in your immediate future with Scott? The age difference is significant and his history is also significant, so I suggest that you simply take your time to be sure. There is absolutely no reason not to take your time.
2006-10-16 09:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Answer to that one - I was 27 he was 20 when I met my husband of 14 years - age really don't matter
2006-10-16 09:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Age is not an issue. It is your maturity that matters. I know people in their 40's who act 20 and vice versa. To quote Satchel Paige..."Age is a case of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it don't matter."
2006-10-16 09:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by Charles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is all about commitment,that has nothing to do with age
gaps,as long as both of you clicks in some ways,thats what counts,both of you are fully grown adults already and your ages difference are just numbers,
2006-10-16 09:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
constructive..3/4 of it quite is right for me...my GF thinks all i want to do is get in her pants yet i actually love her and that i could provide the worldwide to her if i ought to...loopy. been basically a month. i tell her how eye-catching she is daily or attempt to. nevertheless fairly warm however lol
2016-10-19 12:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by huegel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋