I've been engaged to this woman for the last nine months. Recently she broke up me, said she still loved me but wasn't sure about us going further with our relationship due to input from her friends, family, and also her ex-husband. Yesterday I recieved a call from her (crying) that she'd made a horrible mistake and had gotten involved with a married man that she happens to work with. She said that they'd tried to have sex twice but couldn't for whatever reason? And she maintains that we were not together as a couple at the time of this affair......but i've been under the assumption that we were still together until it had been resolved one way or another. Now it seems she wants to renew our relationship and committment.....what should I do? forgive her? treat it as something that happened outside of our relationship since she claims we were broke up at the time.....or tell her to forget about me and move on? any and all answers will be appreciated in this matter! because i'm confused!
2006-10-16 09:00:16 · 5 answers · asked by dannyjohn4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she claims she loves me and was just using him to get over me.....but is that fair to me? can she be trusted in the future? Please help me!
2006-10-16 09:01:55 · update #1
to clarify....i knew we were broke up but still together enough i thought to be committed to each other....and yes i love her....but my head tells me to dump her...i just don't want to make the wrong decision
2006-10-16 09:07:54 · update #2
danny,
I'm sorry this happened but i can assure you that it didn't happen for nothing...
i am really convinced that in every situation, there is feeling or a still, small voice that lets us know when a decision is not in our best interest. There are signs that let us know we need to re-examine things more carefully.
Take a step back and really see this for what it is.
First, it seems that the opinion of others overrides her feelings for you...that's a BIG RED FLAG for me....
I would not go back as of yet...she doesn't seem ready whether you are or not. If you really feel she is the one....then there is no hurry...
Re-examine the reasons you chose her...what makes her THE ONE?? In the end you have to love her more than you hurt over what she did..if not... the love will be gone and you will be left with anger, bitterness, and resentment....is the love worth the weight? Don't go back unless you BOTH are willing to do what it takes to make it work.
2006-10-16 09:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by careful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she mis led you if you didn't know that you guys were not together. if she rather listento family and friends rather than work your relationship out, then it's best if you to go your seperate ways, life goes on after a breakup.
2006-10-16 09:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by mzvirgo19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems to me that she dosent know wat she wants and its unfair on you to take all her downfalls,its time to make a break find someone who loves you in every way and dosent play games with your emotions move on and be happy without her and you will look back and be glad you did. good luck hope i helped a little.
2006-10-16 09:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by mjby40 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a whore to me
2006-10-16 09:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by Amy O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what your heart tells you to do
2006-10-16 09:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋