to prenup or not?

Question

would you feel offended if your signifant other asked you for a prenup before tying the knot?

Answer 1

I would!

Answer 2

It depends on our financial situation at the time. Prenups don't just protect one person in the relationship. My husband and I didn't have money or property when we got married so it wasn't an issue. However, if someone is marrying for the 2nd time and has kids I can see how a prenup would be necessary. Protecting ones assests is important and shouldn't be confused with disrespect. Also there should be a prenup if one person in the relationship is much more financially well off than the other. Prenups aren't very romantic but in some instances are very necessary. Being offended doesn't get you anywhere, also the terms of the prenup are negotiable. Have both your lawyers get together to work out the details and keep in mind that it's the lawyers that are making alot of the demands. Bottom do you love the person enough to make sure they're protected?

Answer 3

with so many people getting married before they know each other well I think a prenup is a good idea. Whatever they had before they got married remains their's. I have a daughter in a situation where she owns a home and it seems that the fellow who all of a sudden is interested in her is interested more in her assets than her but only time will tell. I would feel much better about the relationship if she had some kind of legal agreement that he couldn't touch any of her assets acquired before they started dating. I think if you are a couple that can talk about everything and truly love each other a prenup request shouldn't offend since you have no intentions of ever breaking up anyway. It has nothing to do with whether you trust each other it's whether or not you can trust each other if the relationship does hit the rocks for some reason.

Answer 4

I dont think I would. I wouldnt marry a person because of money. But that is just me. A prenup only covers what they had before they got into the marriage so if they all of a sudden hit it big, you will still have coverage if you happen to part ways. But some are getting ridiculous. Some prenups for like celbrities even have dumb things like a weight clause, that if their spouse goes over a certain weight they can get divorced from them.

A marriage shouldnt be about assets, but in todays greedy society, more and more people blindly think it is!

Answer 5

I think prenups are a sign of insecurity, distrust
and a poor way to start a marriage. If you go into a marriage saying well, "what if" then you shouldn't get married. I've heard people say "I have to sign a prenup in case he/she cheats on me" Well, if you're marrying someone who you cannot trust to be faithful to you, it's time to bail out. I'm not saying your spouse wants a prenup because he she will cheat or thinks you wil cheat, but it's a sign that something isn't right. Marriage is about 100% trust. Trust that goes beyond some signature on a lawyer's paper.

Answer 6

If my husband to be was wealthy before I met him, or vice versa I see nothing wrong with signing a prenup. I don't think it should be mentioned during the proposal, hey would you sign this prenup and marry me?...NOT, but it should be talked about during the course of the relationship. You would still need to make sure the person knows you love them and not that you don't trust them. You just have to protect your parents, child, future...etc.

I guess some people are blind to love, but we all know you can get burnt.

Answer 7

It depends on what the prenup says. If it was something that satisfied both parties than yes I would sign one and not be offened. I understand that some people ask for prenups so that in the end if things are really bitter they don't try to take them for everything they are worth because they are pissed.

Many people say they wouldn't do that to a person but get someone scorned enough they would. So I understand about wanting themselves protected especially if they worked their butt's off for the money the aquired.

Answer 8

My husband has money and he never asked me to sign a prenup because I am in it for the long haul. If he had asked me to, yes I would be offended but I would sign anyways because I know who I am and what I am about.

Even if you sign the prenup...there are still ways around it if you decide to get divorced...you just have to have a GOOD lawyer!

Answer 9

it depends on the criteria of the pre-nup. People often are so in love at the beginning then they change and divorce can bring out a very nasty side of the person. It might be better to lay out some ground rules when your both thinking clearly should the need arise. It seems that its better to be prepared for all situations, children, assets amicable divorce. I think pre-nups that try to dictate certain behaviours throughout the marriage are stupid i've heard of people including the number of times sex was to be had during the week, the number of times meals were to be cooked etc. if just plain silly. However should one partner be unfaithful i think certain criteria should be inplace etc. It's better to sort it all out now then to pay a lawyer huge $$ to sort it all out later!!

Answer 10

no, but then again neither of us had any property or real money saved so we didn't care. we were both on equal grounds. celebs i understand why they get them. i wouldn't be insulted. i would just want to make the marriage work more so i wouldn't have to worry about the prenup

Answer 11

No, I would not be offended... My husband and I considered a pre-nup before getting married, but after consulting an attorney, we realized that everything we wanted to put in it was already covered under the state laws. So, we decided we didn't even need it. It's kinda like wearing a seatbelt in the car... When you put it on, does this mean you assume you're going to get in an accident? I think not. Just a precaution - most likely you will drive your whole life and never get into one.